If you want guarantees in a relationship, you need a Savage Spirit Mirror (Lovers’ Choice Soulmate*)

If you want a guarantee that a relationship will last, you cannot aim to lasso someone in kicking and screaming and expect that to form a lasting, stable relationship. Especially avoid people who want to find or keep the backdoor open for their True Emotion Mirror.

There are both men and women, who very much want relationship guarantees. This is not a gender thing. You need to agree on one thing: that you will stick together forever, no matter what. You will have to agree, that even if one or both of you wind up cheating on each other, the relationship won’t break. Before even finding anyone you’d consider a prospect, you might want to write down an actual thought-out list of things that, to you, is a relationship-breaking offense. Perhaps committing a crime, getting somebody else pregnant, or getting pregnant by someone else, (not just cheating), or, who knows, borrowing over X amount of money from the bank without your partner’s consent. Give it a thought.

Negotiate so you know the conditions.

You need to lay down your rules 100%, and you need to hear theirs. I do recommend you allow cheating; life is long. Married life is longer, but you may give it a good thought if you are able to let it go. Don’t make promises you know you can’t keep, and CERTAINLY don’t make promises to yourself on someone else’s behalf.

DO NOT ASSUME your intended partner feels the same way about everything you think is obvious. Do you want to have kids? How many? What if you only have boys or girls? What then? If you want guarantees, you have to start a relationship with a very good, open negotiation to make sure you both understand the rules and are willing to abide by them.

And TRUST ME, someone who is secretly hoping to meet their true love one day will give you guarantees they will stick with you if they will. Never try to convince someone to give you guarantees like that. They must come as an earnest promise.

Do not assume ALL PEOPLE want guarantees or are willing to give them.

Lastly, when you’re looking for someone, do not, for a second, assume everyone looking for a relationship are looking for a relationship of this nature. I can list 27 different types of relationships, and this is one for very brave, daring people. You have to be a little… Shall I say… crazy to want to make a commitment this tight to someone? Most people are not willing to. They’ll want to see if you make them happy, if the relationship works as a friendship, whether the sex works, if you’ll stay faithful, and if your sense of humor stays there, to name a few… Lots of conditions. You want someone who is willing to stick with you forever, no matter what.

Even if someone is willing to marry you, doesn’t mean they’re not thinking that if the relationship won’t work, they can always divorce you, in the back of their head, on the very day they marry you. Do not marry someone without asking them these questions. This is more important than a rich man’s prenup.

Lastly, don’t assume other people feel the same loneliness as you do.

If you feel lonely and desperate for a relationship, don’t assume other people feel the same loneliness. There are people who are perfectly happy and calm alone – they may still WANT a relationship, but they don’t NEED IT the same way as others. To a lot of people, a relationship is a LUXURY, when to others it’s a necessity. If you feel a romantic relationship is a LUXURY, you’re not going to go shopping for it at Kmart, especially if it’s the only one you’ll ever allow yourself. You’ll save up until you can shop at a luxury store. If you feel a relationship is a necessity, you’ll find one at the first opportunity and you won’t care about the details, right?

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