If you want romantic love, stop expecting people to treat you like your parent.

There are ton of people whose idea of love is limited to parental love. It will always destroy romantic and sexual love sooner or later. Parental love CANNOT be used as a template for romantic love.

This is the reason: If one person is looking for a new mom or dad, they’re going to test that other person’s unconditional love over and over. Eventually, they’ll find the love to be limited because this is NOT your parent.

Secondly, the flavor of romantic love is sexual, and parental love isn’t. Eventually, the parenting will kill any sexual attraction there is in a relationship. That’s how people wind up in sexless marriages; they don’t know how to avoid parenting-style relationships.

Parents have a submission/dominance relationship with their children: One is responsible, and one is dependent. THIS cannot happen in a romantic relationship. A romantic relationship is between equals; not one who proves love over and over, forgives, shows patience, cuddles, while the other throws temper tantrums and tests their boundaries, or alternatively submits fully acting like a good little girl or a good little boy.

And to be successful in romantic relationships, you have to LOVE the sexual aspect of it. Otherwise, you’re doing something different.

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