If you want to help your friend get together with their TrEmoR, don’t over-sell them.

Reverse the roles. Imagine the friend of someone you have a crush on coming to you constantly to encourage you to talk to or take their friend on a date. They keep talking this guy or girl up, he or she is so special, smart, whatever. Even if all of those things sounded perfect, don’t you start to doubt there’s something wrong with how THEY are not talking to you. It would feel weird if they still had this middleman in there like you were in middle school. Don’t you start thinking there MUST BE something wrong with this person? Why else would their friend feel such a deep need to keep selling and “recommending them” to you, as if you weren’t interested from the start? Like selling a commitment before you get to know them too much and wind up regretting it.

So rather than convincing them to, you’ll make them seriously doubt whether they should even talk to your weird-ass friend.

Back off. Let nature take its course. If they’re meant to be, you are not needed.

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