If your partner is making you into someone you don’t want to be, you have a right to leave.

I urge all people to STOP BEING LOYAL TO A FLAW. You shouldn’t hold loyalty as a character trait you’re proud of. Loyalty is something that happens as a reaction to another person’s good character, the way they treat you, the way they treat others, and the things they do for other people. Loyalty should be reserved for people you’d follow to war because you trust them to be good people who would never join a war over greed, power, hunger, vicious hatred, or any other bad cause. Reserve your loyalty for those who represent your values reliably and treat you well.

If a person you’re with, your partner or a friend, is violating your values or making you into a person you don’t want to be, you HAVE TO leave them. Depending on the severity of the situation, parental rights should also be considered against the rights of a child to a good parent. Too often, people violate the rights of a child because they’re too concerned about the feelings of a narcissistic mother; I’m just saying… Add to that consideration of right or wrong.

You also have the right to ask your partner to change tact so you don’t have to leave them if you happen to love them despite whatever they’re going through right now but not dealing with it well. You have the right to ask your partner to try a little harder to be or stay a good person through tough times.

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