Inconsiderate or deliberate? Is this person a narcissistic manipulator?

Elder Soul* and the Young Soul(s)* think entirely differently. They are like a night and day. Therefore, the Elder Soul(s)* kindness is the opposite of Young Soul(s)* kindness. Elder Soul* typically suffocates their feelings near the Young Soul(s)*, because if the Elder Soul(s)* speaks their mind, it results into an out-and-out war because the Young Soul(s)* typically doesn’t see how their actions could be considered insulting, while the Elder Soul(s)* can see how someone might consider their way of doing things insulting, even if they wish it done the other way around.

Young Soul* shows kindness and acceptance by meddling in everything you do. They are so maternal or paternal that the Elder Soul(s)* feel themselves babied, criticized, and disrespected, when the Young Soul(s)* tries to tell them they are valuable and cared for. Young Soul* will also break boundaries without a second thought, they’re in your face and on your skin, and feel welcome there because they’re loved or because they love you.

By and large, the Young Soul(s)* feel welcome into everything they do, and they don’t truly observe boundaries, that they don’t see how there could be any between friends let alone lovers.

This is kindness that the Elder Soul(s)* have labeled “narcissism.” On the other hand, the Young Soul(s)* have labeled the Elder Soul(s)* kindness narcissism. Both are equally incorrect labels. We are simply inherently incompatible as thinker types, and that’s all there is to it. What we can do is to acknowledge that fact and stop trying to force relationships into being, which means that us Elder Soul(s)* people have to learn clever ways to stay outside the Young Soul(s)* boundaries by avoiding getting into their radar at all because the Elder Soul(s)* don’t like boundaries. “I came in like a wrecking ball…”

The reason why the Elder Soul(s)* think the Young Soul(s)* is a manipulator, is that they actually make a lot of sense, and they are acting in a very loving and caring way… Just that their expectations in relationships are entirely different to those of the Elder Soul(s)*. They see the relationship going in places where the Elder Soul(s)* would never go unless to fuck someone up royally. What the Young Soul(s)* does out of kindness, the Elder Soul(s)* does to spite them.

Narcissim is not a real thing. It’s simply a matter of perspective.

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