Inconsiderate or deliberate? Is this person a narcissistic manipulator?

Idealist* and the Survivalist* think entirely differently. They are like a night and day. Therefore, the Idealist* kindness is the opposite of Survivalist* kindness. Idealist* typically suffocates their feelings near the Survivalist*, because if the Idealist* speaks their mind, it results into an out-and-out war because the Survivalist* typically doesn’t see how their actions could be considered insulting, while the Idealist* can see how someone might consider their way of doing things insulting, even if they wish it done the other way around.

Survivalist* shows kindness and acceptance by meddling in everything you do. They are so maternal or paternal that the Idealist* feel themselves babied, criticized, and disrespected, when the Survivalist* tries to tell them they are valuable and cared for. Survivalist* will also break boundaries without a second thought, they’re in your face and on your skin, and feel welcome there because they’re loved or because they love you.

By and large, the Survivalist* feel welcome into everything they do, and they don’t truly observe boundaries, that they don’t see how there could be any between friends let alone lovers.

This is kindness that the Idealist* have labeled “narcissism.” On the other hand, the Survivalist* have labeled the Idealist* kindness narcissism. Both are equally incorrect labels. We are simply inherently incompatible as thinker types, and that’s all there is to it. What we can do is to acknowledge that fact and stop trying to force relationships into being, which means that us Idealist* people have to learn clever ways to stay outside the Survivalist* boundaries by avoiding getting into their radar at all because the Idealist* don’t like boundaries. “I came in like a wrecking ball…”

The reason why the Idealist* think the Survivalist* is a manipulator, is that they actually make a lot of sense, and they are acting in a very loving and caring way… Just that their expectations in relationships are entirely different to those of the Idealist*. They see the relationship going in places where the Idealist* would never go unless to fuck someone up royally. What the Survivalist* does out of kindness, the Idealist* does to spite them.

Narcissim is not a real thing. It’s simply a matter of perspective.

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