Insanity is a question of who you’re asking.

There are two ways to become pathological in one’s mind: The need to control everything and everyone around you and the excessive need to be free and control nothing. We all fit somewhere on that slider. You can well imagine that if there are two people living closely together who are mentally on the different ends of that spectrum, things are going to get very uncomfortable for both parties, and everyone caught in the middle.

Insanity is a relationship question, not a standard. Whether you’re considered mentally ill or not depends very much on who you’re interacting with. If you don’t have an issue with whatever is going on in your mind, you’re not putting yourself or anyone else in danger or causing grievance to yourself or those around you; everything is fine. As long as you’re happy, it’s all good. If not being able to control others around you makes you unhappy, you may be the one with a mental health issue – not the person you can’t control.

It is always smarter to work on oneself and become mentally stronger and healthier than what it is to try and change everyone else around you. For example, it is absolutely FUTILE trying to force another person into loving you when they simply don’t feel love toward you. Whether it’s their personality or their psychopathy, you can’t change that. What I always react to the most with other people are people who have an obsessive need to control others and particularly their feelings without having any ability to INSPIRE feelings, only demand them. “You have to love me because I’m unhappy.” “What?” No, it doesn’t work that way. The only time when it’s appropriate to tell people to smile without the emotion linked is when you’re taking a photo of them.

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