Interpreting anxiety over fear of failing to provide as feeling of love.

We are all somewhat emotionally telepathic. We feel what others feel, but our interpretation of those feelings may be off, especially if we haven’t felt those feelings ourselves. (In addition, we may like or dislike the same feeling, even though we feel it the same way, like homosexual attraction/vibe, for instance.) However, one emotion that we can understandably misinterpret is the feeling of anxiety of survival or fear of failing responsibility over another person, like one’s children.

Anxiety feels intense, right, the “I am not sure if I can pay the bills this month.” People often explain this stress and the worrisome tension as “It’s OK; I just love you very much.” Over lifetimes, some people have learned to associate this anxiety with the feeling of love itself, although it is not. Love is not, luckily, the only motivation that drives people to take care of each other. Sometimes, women especially can DRIVE men into feeling anxious and stressed, and she feels that as “love” when in truth, it’s just worry and fear of not being good enough as a person.

the Dog Type Thinker’s main worry is the fear of abandonment, and more aptly the fear of the embarrassment of having been abandoned, not being important enough to be taken care of. When they fear this, they feel anxiety, which they also link to love, as they fear being abandoned by their loved ones, who may be more like allies than loved ones in the same sense as the Cat Type Thinkers perceive love.

So, when you feel worry and anxiety over your bills and not being able to meet demands, fearing embarrassment as a failure of being a provider, a partially telepathic the Dog Type Thinker may interpret this as love for them, and fear of being abandonned by them – which maybe accurate, but not always. There are times when the ONLY motivator in a relationship is a simple sense of responsibility with very little or no love involved.

When the stress lets go a bit, and finances improve, anxiety disappears. The wife interprets the situation as “you don’t love me anymore,” maybe even ironically only because now he feels free to love again. Still, the Cat Type Thinking* love is a feeling of liberation, enjoyment, joy of another person’s existence, and, definitely, sexual arousal, which again, on Lover-thinking* sensibilities, is what functions as a trade-off: You give me sex, and I’ll take care of you. So all of a sudden, when the finances improve, the situation turns from Cat Type Thinking* laboring and anxiety him being rejected: “He is now only after sex because he thinks he’s so rich that he can just snap his fingers and she’ll fall on her back…” As there’s no anxiety, just joy, and fun-loving sexual interest – what us the Cat Type Thinkers call… Ehrm. Love.

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