Is it possible a True Emotion Mirror would cheat on you?

Some would think that when divine love hits you, there will never be any human problems again in the relationship. In reality, nothing could be further from the truth.

“Am I still in control of myself?”

It is possible for a True Emotion Mirror to feel so freaked out (the best expression I can think of) about the depth of their feelings and the near-obsessive need to be with this one person and hanging onto their every word that they simply need to check if they’re still in control of their own choices. When you are being sucked into the vortex of another person’s love and energy, it may feel like they are controlling your actions and your mind – True Emotion Mirror love is so powerful that it greatly resembles a state of insanity. When you feel this way, you feel the need to check your reality by nearly forcing yourself to have sex with someone other than the person you are completely transfixed by.

Fidelity would be presumptuous

I’ll explain this from my personal perspective, as I think it may make more sense that way. I always believed men don’t like a woman who is too presumptuous about the state of the relationship. You know those women who go on one date with you and assume you’re destined to get married and have kids. When you meet your True Emotion Mirror for the first time, you may feel an INCREDIBLE and unexplainable need to be faithful to them, but this feels like you’re closing in on the nut-house variation of who you are. So you near force yourself to have sex with someone else because, after all, you have barely met, you’ve barely spoken, and you’re definitely not a couple – at least no actual words have been exchanged to that effect. It would be jumping ahead of things to assume that you were, and I am, one of those people who decided he’d think I’m totally mental if I kept waiting for him for months on end, as we were certainly not an official couple.

I think he’s still angry and displeased with me after 20 years…

Miscommunication

There are about a million ways True Emotion Mirrors* can get their wires crossed and about 0.2 ways to get it right. To give you an example: After writing that last chapter, I went into a “let’s try this again” vision state, and I suggested to my True Emotion Mirror to tell me to be faithful during one actual moment that happened. “Tell me to wait for you after this happened.” He did. A wide smile appeared on my face as I freaking looved him asking me to wait for him, too good to be true and all, so I replied: “You want me to wait?” He was instantly suspicious. I tried to clarify myself, with a wider smile: “I belong to you, now?” I wanted him to say “Oh yes you do” but instead, he snapped, let go of me and went: “Oh do as you damned well please!”

What he would have thought at that age was that I was accusing him of being possessive and controlling and wanted to trip him to get the proof I needed to throw that accusation in his face. This is just an example of how EASILY we misread each other, all the time. The more you ASSUME them to know this connection is real and that they have EVERY RIGHT, the more they tend to react the opposite way.

One possible scenario directly leading to cheating would be something similar. She goes: “OMG, you really haven’t slept with anyone since we met? Wow…” She is thinking OMG this is finally happening, is it possible that someone so cool as him is being faithful to me, this is INCREDIBLE… He’s thinking: “OMG she’s laughing at me. She has probably slept with a dozen guys since we met! She thinks I’m a total nerd and a romantic idiot. I must prove to her I absolutely am not…” KABOOM. She gets a confirmation she STILL wasn’t worthy of fidelity and that she was a fool to trust this guy to be different.

Too much of the good thing

One of the many reasons for a True Emotion Mirrors to cheat on each other is simply fear of the overwhelming happiness. When things are going SO WELL that they start to feel unreal or the heights start to feel so high that they feel like they have to puncture a hole into a balloon or it’ll take them to such heights that once it finally bursts they’re not going to survive the fall – if you know what I mean.

One should not put more value on the event of cheating than what it needs to have – I do not expect anyone to just sweep it under the rug and pretend that it never happened, but forgiving it, TRULY forgiving it is one of your genuine options here. When someone is so much in love that they can’t take any more of it, the last thing you want to do is to start thinking about what other people are going to think of you if you forgive someone for something that might not even be a real issue for you if nobody was looking.

Can you see me?

The feeling of someone that amazing loving you can be so overwhelming, that you feel like they can’t see you in a realistic light. That is when people do crazy things in order to show that person who they really are, show the monster, or the cheater or what not – and deep down, they are begging for a forgiveness; to NOT be seen as an angel but as a real person that makes mistakes, and if at that stage, the person who got cheated on decides that their reputation (a person who wouldn’t allow cheating) is more important than the person who loves them, the relationship is going to end, of course.

A person who has cheated on some other person for any reason may have given themselves the identity of “a cheater”. When they fall in love, they fear that “the cheater” is bound to come back, and they may subconsciously or even consciously force themselves to cheat on their True Emotion Mirror so they can see “the real” person. This is to warn their loved one: “Don’t get involved, I’m no good.”

“Why would you care what I do?”

Another reason, kind of the opposite to the above, is to genuinely believe that the True Emotion Mirror wouldn’t care one way or another whether they slept with someone else or dropped dead for that matter. If the other half of the equation is playing hard to get and pretending they don’t care or pretends to be indifferent or unaffected, don’t be surprised if the other half believes it.

Natural polyamory

This has more to do with Growing State True Emotion Mirrors, particularly when young. The natural way of letting the relationship grow is for them to indulge in their natural form of polygamyORpolygynandry¹. They’d both be excited about the idea, but if the societal expectations get in the way, they can feel like they HAVE TO call the relationship off because even though they can’t stop loving this person due to infidelity that they truly find somewhat exciting, the society has deemed these relationships “unhealthy” and therefore, they figure ending is the only right thing to do. (NOT SO.)

And a countless of other reasons

That’s some of the possible reasons off the top of my hat. I’m sure there’s about a thousand more of them. The good news is that even though a person cheats on you they can still be a True Emotion Mirror, the bad news is that even though someone is your True Emotion Mirror, they still might wind up cheating on you.

Good luck out there, possums.

1. Depending on context. Some time ago, I used the term polygamy to mean either the generic concept of polygamous marriage or a MM+FF+ -type marriage or poly-committed relationship. ↩

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