Is my True Emotion Mirror real?

True Emotion Mirrors are so perfect for you that there is a time when you start questioning either your own sanity or gullibility. You wonder if you might be taken for a ride; can a person actually be this right for you? Did they hack your email or online diary and then make themselves into your perfect dream? Are they a social media dream girl/guy, and you’re just the latest fool in their chain? This is the strongest weapon people use against True Emotion Mirrors; they convince each other that “you’re being fooled; do yourself a favor and dump this person before…” BUT while there is a reason to question some people and their potential lies, True Emotion Mirrors are just as amazing as they seem, and you’d make a mistake ending it just in case you are being had.

The one to fear: A narcissist and a self-deluder combination.

What you are afraid of is that you haven’t found a True Emotion Mirror, but you have, in fact, found a narcissist, a con artist, effectively. Whether you know that or not, the Narcissistic Personality Disorder makes people do what you fear; fake being The One. You may even fear this in spirit when your True Emotion Mirror speaks to you telepathically (which is actually also a real thing that does not make it easy to trust your own sanity.) One could argue that a narcissist wouldn’t be able to fake telepathy… but they can. Telepathic connection isn’t proof this is a True Emotion Mirror, but rather: how prone are you to tell yourself pretty lies to twist the reality to your liking? Do you blind yourself from red flags without looking into them, asking for proof, to keep yourself able to trust the fantasy? How often, how habitually, do you do that?

A narcissist is a person who will gladly help you delude yourself. They ask you what you want and create a reality that somehow shoddily matches the fantasy. A normal person wouldn’t want to live in a fantasy; they want a real romance. To them, it is important they are loved back – a narcissist doesn’t even care as long as the image is what they deem admirable to the outsiders. Narcissists** fear relationships with others, and the closest thing they know to love is an alliance against what they fear: strangers’ opinions about them. It is important to understand the narcissistic motivation, to pass for a cool person. They don’t think they are, but they think they can fake it convincingly to avoid judgment from outsiders, but their friends and lovers will see the full ugly – and the narcissist expects them to a) forgive and b) help him or her hide it.

Mind you, a narcissist is also a self-deluder. Another victim type that a narcissist has is a do-gooder, someone who wants to BE a good person but is still settling for the closest thing possible; DOING what they PERCEIVE to be a good, right thing, even if it is fake and self-sacrificing. They may still think that self-sacrifice is a virtue – and a narcissist will quickly assure them that indeed it is.

Narcissists** among the insiders and those on the outside.

Always remember that people who are trying to help you avoid bad decisions may be narcissistic themselves. This means they believe “trust” is about the ability to tolerate drama and bullshit without bailing, the willingness to keep batching the public front for each other no matter what. To a narcissist, trust is about the ability to keep a secret. So the narcissist tests your resilience and wants you to prove to them that you’re willing to take it up the tailpipe, figuratively speaking, to tolerate all manner of abuse from them so that they can “trust you.” They may also “threaten to leave you” in order to flag to you that now you have to prove your worth to them. Therefore, if you “threaten to leave them,” you may trigger in them a need to try to prove their loyalty, willingness, and ability to do your dirty work for you so hard you’d want to shoot yourself to avoid their “love.” And you don’t need any dirty work to be done, they assume everyone has some, and you don’t trust them with your shady plans yet, and you’re threatening to leave them, or you’ll never cut them in on “the deal,” whatever that may be in their fantasy world.

A True Emotion Mirror does not do that – they’re just scarily perfect for you.

Don’t throw away a good thing if you only FEAR that people find out you’re gullible or naive.

Smart people tend to shoot themselves in the leg when it comes to love because they want to PREDICT PROBLEMS and to FORESEE and avoid a problem before it’s a problem, just to prove themselves to be smart. This creates a problem when they misinterpret some commonalities with, say, narcissistic relationship dynamics because, with your True Emotion Mirror, there are some, many, even. This is the reason why True Emotion Mirror reunions are so rare; firstly, you’ve got to be an old soul capable of having fallen truly in love. Secondly, you’ll have to be able to navigate fears and real threats and dangers and to NOT jump ship because you think you’re seeing an iceberg ahead and let your imagination run wild but congratulate yourself for being smart. Instead, you’re jumping out of your skin seeing ghosts… While ghosts are real… They’re easy to “see” when they’re not there.

Fear is a tricky thing to navigate, especially when paired with an ego that takes pride in not being gullible or stupid. Another tricky thing to balance is your faith that you’re sexy. No matter who you are, you’ll struggle with the idea of being considered sexy – with most normal people. (This doesn’t apply to a narcissist because a narcissist feels sexy through something outside of them; money, status, cool friends. They can literally believe themselves to be as sexy as a centerfold Playboy model if they happen to be friends with one while looking or acting NOTHING like them.)

Let your brain see.

Allow yourself to see the truth – even the truth that seems too good to be. Notice when you’re lying to yourself – either that this CAN’T be, and you’re *NOT* now bound to this person forever, let yourself tell yourself the truth. Everyone else might be lying to you, therefore, you cannot.

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