Is this a True Emotion Mirror or something unhealthy?

True Emotion Mirrors are RARELY self-confident enough to keep strongly pursuing someone day after day or year after year, let alone decade after decade. This has nothing to do with ACTUAL lack of self-confidence, however. It’s just that once it’s a True Emotion Mirror, NOBODY is really self-confident about it… Or sneaky, pushy, or conniving.

They won’t fall OUT OF love with their True Emotion Mirror, but they also won’t necessarily stick their neck out in the fear of rejection, either, particularly not too often. This is because of several things, and ONE OF THEM is the feeling that they must sacrifice their love for the happiness of their True Emotion Mirrors. COUNTLESS of times, True Emotion Mirrors give up the chase hoping that them letting them have someone better will make their loved one happy. True Emotion Mirrors, as a direct reaction to true love, not because they’re good people, but people in love, will always put their True Emotion Mirror and his or her needs ahead of their own – EVEN WHEN they get it wrong… And they often do.

It is difficult for a True Emotion Mirror believe that the most amazing person they’ve ever met would feel that THEY are the condition for their happiness. That the happiness of the most adorable person they know depends on them. They would feel TOO LUCKY to think that this person would even want them around for long. This is, I bet, the biggest reason why men in love disappear into the night never to say a word to their girlfriend, and why women give up the chase over a man who is also wanted by some Vogue -cover model.

Now. How do you know what you feel is unhealthy?

The first sign is this: You think the height of love is that YOU cannot live without that person. That’s just weak. For your True Emotion Mirror, or for true one-sided love, you WILL respect your love’s wish to leave you alone. You simply do, even when you suspected they don’t really want you to go… However, if your love is unhealthy, you don’t care how much they put up a fight, you feel YOUR NEED to be with them is more important than their wish to be with someone other than you. You think your love is so special that this person should give up on everyone else just because you want them so badly. That’s selfishness, not True Emotion Mirror love.

Are you welcome?

Sometimes it’s difficult to say whether you’re welcome in someone’s life or not. If you pressure someone for a relationship, they may give in just because giving in is easier than saying no… And KEEP saying no. Sometimes people just accept their crappy fate of winding up with someone persistent and oppressive. How did you get there? Did you use guilt trips, baby traps, pressure, and threats of suicide to keep this person in your hooks? If so, they’re not your True Emotion Mirror, but I doubt you give a shit about that.

“Proving something”

If your primary problem is the attempt of PROVING your love to someone, because it doesn’t even cross your mind that your love might not be welcome, you’re more than likely simply obsessed in the clinical sense, not in the spiritual sense. Also “obsession” rarely heralds any good news spiritually speaking, as “obsession” kind of blocks the flow anyway. If your primary idea is that “OMG they don’t KNOW that I love them, and that’s why they keep rejecting me” rather than “I am not sure I’m actually seeing things clearly” things don’t look good for you. YOU MUST be able to contemplate the possibility that you might not be loved back, but not remain in this feeling, you also must be able to contemplate the possibility that maybe they DO love you, and you need to be able to give that a good consideration too, before you deny what would make your True Emotion Mirror happy: You.

Fight to be together

Sometimes people around you get all obsessed about stopping you two (or so) from being together. This applies especially to gay-TrEmors and polygamous TrEmoRs. The love between True Emotion Mirrors is so strong, that it tends to freak out people who haven’t met their True Emotion Mirror a bit. People who HAVE met their True Emotion Mirror tend to WISH other people would find theirs, too – hence this website – because it is truly the best feeling in the world. Anyone who tries to stand in between True Emotion Mirrors must have never met their True Emotion Mirror, but may have lost a parent or a partner to their True Emotion Mirror, making the emotional churn they can sense in other people seem dangerous to them.

So, if you both (all) want to be together, nobody else should get a say in it. They can say it’s unhealthy or bad for you, that doesn’t matter. You’ll find plenty of reasons on this website as to why OTHERS have issues with your relationship, even though it is perfectly fine and healthy.

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