It is high time people will stop associating the term “female sexuality” as a form of lesbianism (alone)

It is astonishing how the idea that women are not very sexual or that women will only be turned on by cuddles and commitment persists in the minds of all people… Apart from hetero- and physiosexual women. There are many reasons why women who ARE turned on by men (not ALL men, obviously) hide the fact a little. People keep treating heterosexual, sexually driven women as if they were a little insane, “brainwashed”, “taken advantage of”, or otherwise mentally ill. How DIFFICULT can it be to accept that women, just as men, want, need, and enjoy sex – even live for it… Without having to numb their mind with swipes of alcohol, drugs, and live a life in the smokey bars and gutters as the idea of a sexual woman goes.

The label of a slut is still quick to be acquired, and women don’t really want that stigma, do they? This means that perfectly nice girls who want men as much as perfectly nice men want women will not be shouting it off the rooftops too easily. (And no, I’m not a perfectly nice girl, just nice enough, so I do shout it off the rooftops.)

“Female sexuality” is also heterosexual

Heterosexuality in women is INCREDIBLY poorly understood and accepted. It’s like telling a fairytale to people, both men and women, about a Unicorn that some people believe exists. Still, OBVIOUSLY, heterosexual women are EVERYWHERE, hungrily watching sexy men and thinking all kind of inappropriate thoughts about them. But can you tell when they do? No. You can’t. They may well be in front of you at a negotiation table, and you’ll be non the wiser about what they’re thinking, as women HAVE TO hide their sexual side, just the same as men do.

It is usually the non-heterosexual women who are bold in their seduction, which means that men have LEARNED to not trust female sexuality to be lasting. This is because just as men, heterosexual women get a bit… insecure when they have to approach someone truly attractive. We all find it easier to approach people we’re not 100% crazy about, it’s just human nature. So, not-entirely-straight women would find approaching men super easy, laughable, even, or a CHORE or an obligation, a job application, almost. After all, if you want the job of being someone’s wife, you gotta go for it. To a straight woman, it’s more than a job or upkeep. It’s LOVE. It’s their self-esteem on the line. It’s their heart on the line. It’s the difference between making a complete fool out of oneself or perhaps getting it right…?

And, on top of that, beautiful women get told, over and over, that they’re not that attractive. They do get it from both ends; regular men praise them, their own kind tends to react to their own insecurities with a “well you’re not that hot”, easily. Eventually, they start believing it. Therefore, to save face, they’ll keep their sexual and romantic wishes to themselves, and keep writing steamy web blogs instead.

Female sexuality is not complicated

Basically, I believe, if you take a heterosexual man and heterosexual woman, you would get two fairly simplistic creatures. (I am one, yes.) It’s basically that thing in that other thing, with spices. Now, things get hellofalot more complicated when you have to seduce an 70% lesbian woman into a heterosexual affair. It’s about as difficult as seducing a 100% heterosexual woman into sex with a man she’s not truly in love with.

A good-looking man is a good-looking man, the same as a good-looking woman is such. There’s no need for riches, fame, or what not, just a sexy body next to another. Straight women do not need incentives to have sex with a man. They don’t need marriage, cars, kids, all that extra stuff that you use to lure a lesbian into a permanent relationship with you. So when a straight girl is simply happy to have sex with you, a lot of you men don’t know what’s going on. Sure, she may secretly hope for a relationship, but since the stereotype about men is that they never want to settle down, they assume just as easily as men assume women don’t really enjoy sex, that men don’t really want relationships… And they’re cool with that, as they understand why having multiple partners is super fun, up to a point at least. They can’t judge you because they’re doing the same thing, so they’re waiting for HIS cue to a relationship, where he’s waiting for her cue for sex.

Enter closet lesbian women to mud the waters: she’s not going to wait for a man to make a move. She doesn’t care about his desires for her. If he’s a little cold toward her, all the better, right? MUCH easier job to be married to a man who has only mild sexual interest toward his wife (who instinctively he’s not terribly in love with as she’s a bit gay). But she’s easy to marry, perhaps looks good in the arm, and that’s all there is to it.

And there we have the heterosexual girl, unmarried at 40 wondering how the fuck did this happen!

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