It is not beneficial for your future happiness to try and destroy your intended partner’s self-confidence.

This should go without saying. Still, there are people who attack people they’re interested in to bring them down to their own level. Ironically, these same people can get attacked in the attempt to reject them, which they can interpret as a type of come-on or at least as a sign of interest.

It can be really difficult to tell whether an attack is a come-on or a very strong rejection, to be honest. There are people who literally do not think a person is interested in them if they DO NOT attack them.

Rejection is usually provoked, however. They’ve tried to tell you “no” in a few ways by then. Usually, people try to break it to you gently, but if you don’t take it the first two, three times, they may attack. On the other hand, a come-on in the form of an attack comes without a warning or without a very good, perceivable reason… Or an explanation. The rejection is accompanied by an explanation.

IF you manage to lower someone’s self-esteem before a relationship, it usually doesn’t do anything good for your future. The sexy person is gone, and all you have left is a broken one.

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