It is OK to change one’s mind and join the winning team in an argument!

In case you don’t know, being right is not a competition in the sense that you can’t abandon your team if you’re losing a fight. You are PERFECTLY permitted to change sides if you find the opponent’s arguments more compelling – and you can bring your friends, too. The point of most arguing is not to establish dominance, but to find the best way to do things, for everybody, so that we can all be winners.  We should ALL be able to live a happy, joyous life free from meaningless pain.

That said, whatever I argue on this blog – take it on. Get on “my side” if you find it to be right and better for you. No need to prove your loyalty. No need to feel that you are not permitted to be a part of the “privileged” team.

Don’t try to stop the party – join the party.

There’s some psychology behind this note

There are people who take a debate similarly to a high school debate team. They’ve been given an opinion to fight for during childhood or teen years, a certain norm: “You debate for this team.” The FAVORITES were given the easy opinion to defend: The truth. A bit like “my dad against your dad”.

But no. Life is not a debate team. We’re all supposed to find a way for everybody to win in life.

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