Keep your eyes peeled – how to learn to look truth in the eye?

Sometimes reality is not pleasant to see. We see signs of something being not the way we want it, and feel tempted to ignore those signs. Some of us have learned to pay so much attention on bad signs that we see nothing but. It is a trick to be learned to be objective about everything you see in front of you. Here are the positives, here are the negatives. What makes this situation one or the other? How can you remain balanced in observing both the good signs and the bad signs?

When I was a child, 8, by memory, my mother would sit me and my brother me down and tell us that one of my best friend’s parents was getting divorced. This was one of the best decisions my mother ever made as a parent, as it taught me to look the truth in the eye: once the divorce happened, I was emotionally prepared for it. Not that I was particularly surprised, that dude was like a shadow in his own house. Weird story, in itself, but I digress. The point was, that I learned that mom would inform us if something was wrong. And as an adult, I have decided to inform myself if something is wrong, well before it blind sights me. It makes me feel safe as I know I can see things heading my way.

Seeing things ahead of time and predicting problems can actually be fun. You don’t have to constantly live on trust and faith when you can see things using simple observation and awareness of things. Oddly enough, people tend to avoid facing the truth out of the fear of it, but if they really wanted to stay safe and sound, they’d see problems coming before they get to them. They wouldn’t marry people who clearly aren’t in love with them if they fear getting divorced, they wouldn’t talk themselves into trusting people who are obviously untrustworthy simply because they don’t wan to see it – but I do think some people blind themselves from the obvious for the excitement factor of it; letting obvious problems “surprise” them. Feeling thrilled over the fact that their girlfriends were a bit gossipy and back-stabby; who could have guessed?! Some, I think, simultaneously blind themselves from the truth and tell themselves scary stories about that person, just to keep excited about life.

To each their own, but I prefer my world factual, personally. There are so many mysteries to it no matter how keenly I observe, that I actually like knowing that no matter how much I try to understand it, it’s still mysterious and unpredictable… Because we are.

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