Letting go of people easier by love, not by self-denial

You know how we try to do it… When we feel our love isn’t welcome, we start fighting against ourselves and the love we feel and we try to talk ourselves out of loving the other person as much as we do… If this is a half-ready True Emotion Mirror bond, it is important for you to know that the feeling that your True Emotion Mirror is going to feel from you is REJECTION. This will make you, in their mind, the runner.

When a person feels the other person fighting their feelings, their reaction is going to be “go away then if you don’t want me”.

The fear of being rejected, or perhaps being dumped later on will create this uneasiness in you, two, which can also feel like a rejection, and it certainly feels like uncertainty of whether or not you want that person. The fear of actually having to break up with someone you deeply care about later is an actual rejection (for now) and feels very similar to the fear of being dumped in the other person.

However, letting go of people, or more importantly, the fear of being the only one in love, or the fear of intrusion into another person’s life by making them feel obligated to return the love you feel for them by loving them in the first place is going to be easily fixed by reminding yourself that the love that you feel for someone already belongs to them. It is not something you GIVE to another person, it is something that you FEEL FOR another person. They exist. You react to it. That is all there is to love. That is why the love that a person feels for another person is always the creation of the person who IS loved, not the person who loves… Therefore, it makes no sense feeling either guilty for loving someone or heroic for loving someone – the lover had nothing to do with the feeling they feel, they didn’t create it, they simply felt it. It’s like congratulating or blaming your hand for creating the heat of a hot cup of coffee!

When you realize that your fault is no more your merit nor your fault, it is easier to let go of the attempt to control or direct that love somewhere. It simply exists. It will stay there no matter what. You don’t have to nurture it or force it or to try to feel it again, it will ignite with the certainty of you feeling the heat of the Sun as the summer comes along again, even though you went the whole winter without feeling any heat from the Sun! When the True Emotion Mirror is not there, you may not feel the love for them, but you know that as soon as they turn up again, you feel exactly what you felt the day they left you. Although… Sometimes their spirit stays with you so that you always feel love for them even though they’re nowhere near, but even if their spirit leaves you now… Woosh, the feelings return as if they were never gone, and the best they can do is to change shape, alter a little… To go into this calm and peaceful feeling of “my world is better with you in it” even if this person wasn’t with you. (In that case, it will be called the 2nd Tier Destination Soulmate, technically, but that’s a different matter.)

The next time you feel like telling someone they need to feel thankful for the love you feel for them, imagine yourself arguing with a cup of coffee that refuses to recognize your hands for making it hot, and insisting that it should want to drink you, too!

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