Loving someone both selfishly and selflessly

When you learn how to love people properly, and this certainly applies to your True Emotion Mirror, you have to apply two measures: “Do I love them selfishly and/or selflessly?”

Selfishly: I want them for myself because they’re cool, sexy, smart, exciting, and I want them for my own pleasure.

Selflessly: I am in love with your happiness, and I believe you would be better off with me/someone else.

If you are in love with someone’s happiness, but you believe them to be happier with someone else, they’re likely your Precious Soulmate (or you’re just a good person). If you believe they’d be happier with you, they are a (potential) True Emotion Mirror.

You love a True Emotion Mirror both selfishly and selflessly.

You want your True Emotion Mirror for yourself because you want them. The insane MINE MINE MINE, everyone else fuck off he/she’s mine -feeling. But you also love them selflessly and selfishly on their behalf; “You’d be better off with me, you’d be happier with me, and I don’t care who gets hurt as long as you are perfectly happy.”

Mind you; this selfish-on-your-behalf also applies to your children, his or hers. (“I’d screw over my own child to keep you happy,” but obviously, as little as possible.)

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