Making your partner happy – and the effects of it on your status

Typically, men assume and some women believe, that a man’s job is to make her happy. Solely. The prettier the woman, the more people expect she demands for the right to call her a girlfriend. That way around, he exists to make her happy. Therefore, a low-status man can become a husband to a beautiful woman, IF he’s willing and dedicated to her happiness.

It used to be the other way around; a woman’s job was to make a man happy. A low-status woman could marry up if she was dedicated to his happiness.

Nothing wrong with either, as long as you’re both happy with the arrangement. However.

Being dedicated to the happiness of your partner (and loved ones) should be a given

Whether you’re a male or a female, your attention in a relationship probably should be in the joy of making your partner happy to be with you. Sometimes, marrying down helps, if that person truly feels blessed for simply being with you – but when you marry your equal, things change. Then, you BOTH have to thrive toward making each other happy.

Now, to some people, this is a lowering of their own status. If they feel they have to do something for their partner’s happiness, they can feel like they’ve been taken down a peg, when, in fact, they’ve only entered into a hopefully equal relationship.

Other people view it as a lowering of their partner’s status if they want to make them happy. For example, I’m an old-fashioned girl, an old soul, right? I LOVE making my men happy, but I feel really weird when they try to make me happy. (I feel even weirder when women try to kiss my ass, I fucking hate that, but that’s beside the point.)

I also have lots of limits to what I take for a token of appreciation, and accepting money as a reward for making him happy is a bit… Weird for me. I like small tokens of appreciation, just to give you an example of how differently people think. Other women with my looks would expect sports cars, rather than one single flower made out of a cigarette pack’s foil while talking to you… Which is perfect. Surprisingly, this poses a problem to my True Emotion Mirrors, who are more than used to buying their Trail Companion* lover’s love, and they don’t know what to do with me.

Some people even want you to be VERY UNHAPPY while being dedicated to their happiness

To make matters even weirder, some people want you to demonstrate how unhappy you are while you work toward their happiness. This, to them, doesn’t mean “our relationship has issues” but “look how far I’m willing to go to make you happy”. I don’t, personally, see the point of such relationships, but to each their own. :p Some people are sub slaves, and they get their pleasure that way, and some people are that without the whips and leather.

This can easily turn into toxic relationships and difficulty in breaking up with someone, when one person is thoroughly in love, trying to do everything in their power to make the other person happy, even demonstrating how unhappy they are, but still here, still willing to make you happy if you only show me how… And the other person has lost all their respect for the groveling piece of slime in their house.

There are people who are more than happy with you wanting to make them happy, AS LONG AS YOU’RE HAPPY DOING IT, and for as long as you get your kicks out of it, too, but others want the unhappiness as an extra level of telling them how much you love them.

Status value

It is good to notice, that if a relationship is one-sided in the give and take, then there’s some kind of a status thing in play. MIND YOU, that the status may not be always perceived the same way between partners. While you might think you are equal, your partner may see you as their inferior or their superior. People’s values are different.

For example, a white blonde woman married to a black African may feel she’s a status wife for him and he should know his place. Then again, the wife might feel she’s equal to her husband, while he thinks OBVIOUSLY, he’s the one who should be working at massaging her feet and painting her toenails for her. And when she doesn’t ask him to, he feels rejected and not good enough for her, even though he’s willing to satisfy her every whim.

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