Maybe an 8 self-confidence issues

One would think that being beautiful or handsome, intelligent, popular, well-loved by both genders, successful and all that jazz would make you immune to self-confidence issues. The truth, however, is often not quite as simple as that. The reason for this is that people rarely feel the need to build the positive ego (idea of self) of someone of this description, but may feel a strong urge to tear them down and invalidate their every move and virtue as insignificant and meaningless… ie: “Women may not be as strong as men, but we give birth to babies! You are only having fun for 5 minutes? What do you think you contributed to this?” High-level individuals are often subjected to attacks on something they cannot change as a way to put them down.

In CONTRAST, high-level individuals bring up things their partner cannot change about them as a break-up explanation: you cannot be expected to change your IQ in order to keep a guy, but it can still be a deciding factor. (Therefore, being a man and unable to contribute to making babies for more than 5 minutes worth feels like her telling you she doesn’t want a relationship with you because you’re a man.) This causes an M8R10 individual to think that OK, this person is trying to tell me how I don’t measure up (and I seem to be blind to it) – not that I’m so freaking awesome that my partner feels insecure and wants to lower my sense of self-importance so I wouldn’t leave her (or him).

Romantic Rejection

Ironically especially high-level men and women often have a MASSIVE ISSUE with rejection, because they’re not used to it.

Average men and women are MORE THAN COMFORTABLE being rejected. They go through it constantly, and they don’t care. The average guy hits on a high-level woman without a care in the world. That’s why the high-level men and women rarely wind up together. High-level women need to constantly bully try-hard lower-level men from trying, and a lot of the men they’d marry in a heartbeat will take that as a warning sign and keep at a distance. Lower level women know how to lasso a man into a relationship, and they take it for granted that’s how relationships are formed: through bullying, lying about rival women, and putting other women down, and simultaneously lowering his self-esteem and sense of self-worth so she can match his expectations for a partner.

M8R10 reject a lot of people and mean it

For every one individual an M8R10 finds genuinely interesting in both romantic, sexual, AND intellectual sense, (usually, they compromise in at least one of the 3), there are at least a 100 individuals who have tried to unsuccessfully hit on them.  This makes the M8R10s PAINFULLY AWARE of the danger of rejection, as in the thoughts that go through a person’s mind when they are telling another person, as kindly as possible, that mate, you would have a higher chance seducing a horse of your own gender than myself.

They KNOW how irritating it is to be constantly chased by completely self-delusional people who think they’re amazing – or at least good enough – and who seem to be completely and utterly blind to their own flaws and failures… Or at least completely forgiving of them, the latter being a bigger issue. Forgiveness to one’s own flaws leads to the opposite of Nirvana – Hyi Vittu, as I named it. Translated: “Eww Fuck”. When you forgive all your flaws, and as some people do, even take pride in the humility of not being awesome… Where you wind up is in the zest pool of humanity that resides at Hyi Vittu, a spiritual neighborhood if you will. (I’ll explain that elsewhere.)

Therefore, as they observe people being completely fucking blind as bats to their own flaws (yeah I know I swear too much, I fucking like it), M8R10’s start fearing they, too, are blind or ignorant of their own flaws. Therefore, they are terrified of getting it wrong and approaching someone who is, in reality, a bit out of their league, and that, to them, would be a bit more embarrassing than what they would regard as a fun night out.

Always chased

Further, Real Tens are always the ones who are chased down the aisle. Therefore, they often are very clueless as to how to approach other people. They may sometimes give the green light, but then take a passive seat expecting the other party run the whole way to them and do all the heavy lifting. When they don’t, they feel “oh he/she is not interested” and leave it at that, but in reality, two M8R10’s thinking alike will easily give each other the green light, wait for the other to walk right in and make a fool out of themselves trying to close the distance, but when that doesn’t happen, both of them accept it as “well I wasn’t exactly their type. That’s OK, they’ve got a lot to choose from, as do I.”

The chaser’s inability to be offended by rejection will cause them to self-reject, and that usually renders a relationship between M8R10’s into a competition of treading water the longest.

That all said: if you are M8R10 and want a M8R10

• Dread around big egos carefully. Many people don’t appreciate a Full10 for who they are, make sure they know you do. Don’t be false about it. Show admiration honestly.
• Make it so easy for them they can’t excuse themselves from your bending relationship because you’re being a bitch or a prick. In other words, be nice. Make it easy for them. It’s a nice, refreshing change to many.
• Learn to chase a bit, but not too much. Only meet anyone halfway, but make sure they know you’re waiting.
• Learn to let a few snarks and blows to your ego slide, and return the ire fire. (Don’t agree that Second Life is stupid unless you actually agree it is. And for the record, I think it is a bit stupid, but I still like it, lol.)
• Don’t let them dominate, don’t let them submit.
• Make sure you flatter a M8R10 honestly, truthfully, and accurately.
• Show you ALSO see their flaws demonstrate you DO NOT have rose-colored glasses on and you can still think straight around them. HOWEVER, do not forget to show HONEST admiration. It must be a balance.
• Know that some people hide MOST of their positive feelings until they KNOW FOR SURE they love you. Also, know that some people hide their negative feelings until THEY KNOW FOR SURE you know you love them.
• The people who hide their positive feelings from strangers tend to be a bit kissassy as friends and fear giving negative feedback to their friends. People who hide their negative feelings at first can be a bit tough on your ego as friends, as they feel friends are there to make you grow.
• NEVER flatter them with falsehoods, they don’t need that.
• Never lie in order to save face.
• Be forthcoming. Be clear about what you want, and leave very little to guessing.
• Yet, be instinctive.
• Know that they will more than easily seemingly fluctuate in their interest toward you at times. Let it slide.
• Know that it is even more difficult if you are not exactly each other’s smack bang 100% familiar type. You’ll have to prove to them that you are what they want, even if you dress wrong.
• Do not alter your looks or approach for a M8R10 the Old Souls* too soon into the relationship. That’s a weakness of ego and a Old Souls* loathes that. Demonstrate your own personality strongly and freely. Ignore objections or announce why they’re wrong.
• Adjust to small differences later. Try not to make too many accommodations too soon into the relationship, particularly accommodations that you would feel is a loss rather than an upgrade.

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