Men have trouble *fucking* the woman they’ve confessed to love
This post is going to get complicated even by my standards, but it is important for you to try and keep up. This may transform your love and sex life in a way you never thought possible.
I am about to explain and fix the reason why two people madly in love seem to not be able to fully enjoy sex together. This stems far from our history, but it can be fixed within a few years globally I’d say… And in a shorter time span for each individual made aware of this. This may change everything for you.
Let’s start with the origin of the problem: Expecting bisexual women who are actually leaning towards lesbianism to form heterosexual monogamous marriages
Most of us are naturally polyamorous. As mathematical odds then would dictate, most women are polygynous and most men are polyandrous by their natural leanings. This means that women who are really more attracted to women than men are used to forming sexual relationships only with men through tradition. This leads to the idea that women don’t like sex.
Everyone loves sex, it’s just that it may not be with the societally approved partner.
You respect a wife, disrespect your “whore”
This, in turn, makes it so that women have demanded space from their husbands and boyfriends. They have pushed the relationship towards friendship rather than a love relationship as a result. If men then assume that all women feel the same way about sex, they’ll have to choose “their victims” keeping this in mind.
This makes men want to keep their whores and wives separate. They may feel that “the whore” is a lucky nature’s accident or some kind of an anomaly, but at any rate, seems not to mind “being fucked”, so they wish to keep her around. They may also feel that once you fall in love with someone, you can no longer fuck her, because of that, then, is some kind of a breach of trust she has shown towards you.
They fuck the whores and love the wives. Despite this, in reality, they might be more in love with their whore than their wife. Men have also always been told to “find themselves a nice girl to marry”, and the way we think about “nice girls” is that they don’t like getting fucked too hard.
Majority of people are not monogamous by nature although SOME people are
Most women are naturally polygynous. This means, that by their own preference, they’d love to share a husband with their best female friends. This also means, that most women, not all, are bisexual leaning towards lesbianism. With the expectation of monogamy, it has become NORMAL that “women” do not find men sexually attractive. It has been made into “a fact” that it is a part of being a woman to be sexually aroused by other women. While this is common, it is not about “being a woman”, but being in a closet.
Imagine having to live in a society, in which the expectation is to marry your UNPREFERRED gender
Wherever you lean, imagine that the cultural norm was to marry from the gender you are NOT sexually attracted to. You may be able to imagine taking sex as a matter of course, something you simply have to endure because it’s what spouses do. This would be about as arousing as a handshake or a doctors appointment. It wouldn’t be offensive because it is deemed the norm and appropriate, but it would certainly not be too exciting.
Imagine further that your spouse IS sexually attracted to your gender. They would put constant pressure on you to be more sexually active. Sounds like a hoot, doesn’t it?
This is essentially what many women go through in their lives. Everyone also treats it as “a thing”. They feel it is normal that women don’t really fancy their husbands but think their girlfriend is really pretty. This is NOT how things should be.
I don’t know how true this is in reverse, it seems men are less drawn to other men sexually, even though they do prefer the company of other men, generally speaking. At any rate, there is a stronger stigma against male homosexuality than there is a stigma towards female homosexuality, which, obviously is a huge factor.
Surprise, surprise; Heterosexual women love sex with men
I will return back to this later, but I will point out here, that for straight women, men are just as arousing to straight women as women are to men. Straight women DO NOT fancy other women. They do not think about sex with women apart from as a theoretical curiosity, but they fantasize about men and more men.
Furthermore, polyandrous women love the idea of gay men together just about as much as the stereotypical men love lesbian porn. This shows a natural leaning towards polyandry in women and polygyny in men.
Let me repeat that: Straight women DO fantasize about men and they do love having sex with men. They get aroused by masculinity and male bodies, and they are NOT attracted to women.
As a straight woman, I have experienced attitudes that assume I should be attracted to other women simply because I am a woman. It seems not to make sense to people that straight women exist, but we absolutely do. Now, what does this mean?
Polyandry and polygyny
Because the grand majority of humans (simply to make the numbers match) are either polyandrous or polygynous by their natural alignment (what they actually want deep down if nobody had told them what to want), the expectation of monogamy creates dysfunctional couples. The men DO, generally speaking, prefer male company and are bisexual (but seemingly less strongly gay than women are) and the women prefer female company and are bisexual, but all of these people think they are straight and monogamous. (Giving it a little thought might reveal how you, as an individual, feel, I do not wish to ram you into a new fake gender role, mind you!)
This has created the situation that bisexual women are “forced” to have sex with men who they do not feel attracted to. Although this is done through social expectation and is not a form of humiliation or an attempt to it, it certainly creates a bad environment for a marriage. She wants to avoid sex, because she’s not interested, and he feels he’s offending her every time they do have sex. They both think this is natural, but what actually IS natural in a romantic relationship is to not be able to keep your hands off your lover(s). Women are just as sexually needy as men are, it’s just a question of who they are attracted to.
Because I love you, I cannot fuck you
Because of the above, men have started to believe that women don’t really want sex. They also have started equating marriage to reluctant sex or sex life drying up. The latter is a response to the idea that since women don’t really WANT sex, having sex, particularly properly fucking a woman (as opposed to gently making love to her) is a sign of disrespect towards her. Once a man confesses to himself to be in love with a certain woman, he may start thinking of her automatically in a non-sexual, or overly romanticized sexual sense. “Since I love you, I cannot fuck you.”
Even if he was married to a straight woman, who is his True Emotion Mirror, he thinks his wife wants him to make love to her and stop screwing her. It may feel like “okay the fun is over, now it’s time for me to be ‘a husband’.” Gradually, he loses interest in it, because both of them would rather be fucking each other and going full-on kinky with each other, but because of the belief that ALL women prefer women and don’t really like sex, he tries to keep out of her hair and she thinks he has lost interest in her and starts worrying about the fate of the relationship.
Many men try and prepare for this by marrying women they like but not love
If you have ever wondered why a man can be OBVIOUSLY in love with one woman, but still choose to marry someone he’s not clearly even attracted to, here’s the reason: He equates respect with the lack of sexual desire, and disrespect with lust. He may be able to fuck a woman he’s not in love with (his wife) ensuring he has a lifelong supply of sex. In the meanwhile, he saves his True Emotion Mirror who he denies being in love with for random hookups to give him the sexual rush he needs without the romantic alliance that he feels would force him to stop getting too kinky with her.
A man can fully believe he is not in love with a woman who he finds sexually supreme. Some men want to save this relationship from marriage because yet another factor comes to play:
If I confess to you I love you, I can no longer fuck you… Like ever!
This is the running and chasing thing many people madly in love experience. The gaming, to-ing, and fro-ing. He fears that if he allows himself to fall in love with this woman, he will lose his ability to fuck her. LITERALLY. He may feel completely and utterly unable to fuck her if he is conscious of loving her.
There are several reasons for this. He believes women get turned on by the idea of trapping a man into marriage, so she enjoys sex for as long as he isn’t hers. He wants to keep the relationship at this stage for as long as he can possibly keep it there.
He feels that if he confesses his love to this woman, it is akin to a promise he’s made. A promise never to disrespect her again. As fucking a woman equates disrespect, so a man who loves his wife will never fuck her again. Then, he is confused about why she’s unsatisfied with this treatment and why is she worried about the future of the relationship.
Which role do you want, honey, to be my fuck toy or my wife?
He can go two ways. He may be playing his True Emotion Mirror to figure out whether she wants love from him or sex. If he is in love with her, he will let her choose which role she wants for herself, as he’s prepared to give her either. If she is in love with him, she wants BOTH roles, but he thinks it’s going to be one or the other, never both.
If she is waiting for him to show her whether he’s actually interested in her or not, and he’s waiting for her to give him a sign on whether she expects to be fucked or loved, this is where even a True Emotion Mirror may halt.
Some men will find themselves an obviously sexually unappealing partner just to tell his true love that “YOUR place is in the bedroom because the sex is TOO GOOD to lose. This one is for show only, the front, the spouse. YOU are for all the good stuff!”
Myth: ALL women are turned on by competing with other women (jealousy games)
Men also believe women are turned on by other women and the competition (because so many women are polygynous and in their case, this is at least sometimes true). As they believe this, many men want to keep the relationship ticking over by dating another woman.
The irony is, that a straight woman is either completely immune to the presence of another woman or turned off by her. She may hate her, but she has no effect on her sexual feelings toward the man. However, as she is turned on by HIM, he may think it’s because of his girlfriend. This motivates him to keep the “official” relationship alive simply to keep the True Emotion Mirror feeling that way about him.
A man thinking this way may easily have a girlfriend he doesn’t respect to everyday-fuck AND to keep the real object of his desires jealous of him, and thus, turned on. This way, he gets average sex anytime he wants, and brilliant sex when he gets a chance with his True Emotion Mirror.
Of course, this may backfire when the straight True Emotion Mirror thinks that OK, you made your choice, I’ll find someone else… As a likely polyandrist, a straight woman often feels she can find someone else… Sometimes even in the case she’s in love with a True Emotion Mirror… Even though she’ll fall right back in love with him as soon as the other woman is out of the picture.
The idea of self: “I am not one to fall for bitches”
A lot of men can have trouble accepting themselves being “weak for a girl”, or needing to be loved or even hoping for love. The whole bravado thing can keep a man closed up and unable to truly connect to a woman… And to be fair, women are starting to be like this, too. (The “I don’t need a man, so I’ll marry myself” crowd.) Everyone needs someone, it’s just a question of WHO they need…
But someone who has decided to be “a closed unit” or “heartless” can be impossible to approach, even offering everything this guy has ever wanted. Men have a further fear of being taken for suckers by a woman they feel is sexually superior to other women. Women have used this weakness against men since times immemorial; seducing men for money, power, and status. Through reincarnation, this fear is now deep inside a lot of men.
Here’s the revelation of the century: A straight woman wants all of her man or men, including his rock hard throbbing cock!
Now, this is something that you all need to get straight in your head. SOME people know this already, but the players, as described in this post, may have trouble getting this. You MUST love everything about a person you love, including their sexuality. Women ARE sexual. Straight women NEED sex with men. They desire men. They find men sexy, and they are not just saying that.
Their eye lingers on a masculine body the same way as it happens in reverse. They DO consider men and their bodies beautiful and desirable. A cock, to them, is a beautiful organ, an instrument of love, but also something that can give them pleasurable pain and fuck them until they’re black and blue! Many women also love the pain, and the emotional conflict of it all, but that’s another post.
The entire insanity!!!
True love shouldn’t be sectioned into acceptable and unacceptable. It should include ALL aspects and desires of all partners, nothing should be off limits. (If they turn out to be off-limits, then it is simply a sign of a non-True Emotion Mirror connection or some inhibitions still to be worked out.)
It should go from romantic interludes to full blown fuck fest, we should be each other’s fuck toys as we are each other’s beloved and holy. We should be going from the height of desire into a crying mess in a matter of seconds, and all of it SHOULD be roller coaster love.
We should love each other for everything that we are and want to be, from being parents to being a drooling sexual mess. All in turn or all at once.
We should be traveling through feelings after feelings, the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful, the lusty, the light and the dark.
Whatever kind of crazy you’re into.
The Fix
We all, as a society, and definitely as individuals, need to start thinking romance and sexuality in a new light. We need to return back to our TRUTH, what is REAL for us, what we ACTUALLY want. Now, I am not going to dictate to you what you, as a man or a woman, ought to want, because you are an individual and I write for the masses. YOU need to get real with yourself and fess up to what it is that you actually want out of love and sexuality and life in general.
This is the stuff you dreamed about when you were still foolish enough to think “once you are older and successful you’ll have it” but what you wound up giving up “as you got older and wiser”. This is the stuff you dreamed about and masturbated over at 17. THIS needs to return into your life, whatever it takes.
I am not here to rescue relationships, I am here to rescue lives
I do not care about rescuing relationships for the sake of rescuing relationships. I do not give two cents about them. However, I will do ANYTHING IN MY POWER to rescue True Emotion Mirror relationships (and breaking up everything else apart from the Lovers’ Choice Soulmates* in addition to the TSM’s).
What I NEED to see happen is people’s LIVES being transformed and suicides avoided as a result. Too many of us are stuck in relationships that shouldn’t have happened in the first place. We are not supposed to change into people who would be good at relationships, we must take the real people that we are, and find the people that are a NATURAL, authentic match to that real person in their own natural state. Nobody is good in the wrong relationship.
To make an omelet
We need to break some relationships to form new ones by the RIGHT motivations; because THIS PERSON is amazing to you. It’s going to get worse for a lot of people before it gets better. Luckily, the ones motivated to do this will find an instant relief… And the rest will adjust.
Look the same, think the same, love the same, fuck the same…
We must stop thinking about ourselves like animal species in which everyone is identical by our mating habits. We need to stop this mind-numbing archaic obsession on monogamous pairs and stop talking about love and sexuality as something sensible or practical. Instead of monogamous commitment, we need to start understanding the depth that multi-partnered people can get with each other, and how they will feed off of each other’s sexuality. (Long story very short: You’ll all live together and fuck everything!)
Mess of emotions
Love and sexuality should be a mess of emotions, and it is. We MUST stop treating love as though it was a mental illness. People DO act crazy when they are in love, and we MUST allow them to act crazy.
As an individual, you can stop worrying about HAVING FEELINGS or NOT having the expected feelings towards certain person! You have to start thinking about what you feel in reality, not how you “are supposed to feel”. There is no such thing as “supposed to feel”. It’s like walking out in June into rainy weather, and go: BUT IT’S JUNE, the Sun is SUPPOSED to be shining. Maybe so, but it isn’t. Is the world coming to an end? Should we feed Sun some pills to make it shine again?
Men… Start respecting your loved one for the fact she can swallow cock like a pro 😉
There are certain attitude sifts that need to happen in our sexual and love relationships. We must love the ENTIRETY of our sexual partners. We must find partners who we actually DO love the entirety of, and then love them for their sexuality as well as for everything else.
Men are also being taught what kind of women they are supposed to fall for. If they happen to fall for “a slut” or “a whore”, they are conditioned to look away. Their mothers and grand mother’s voice in their head is telling them she’s not to be loved. If she sucks cock, he cannot love her, right? She’s not worthy, but why? Because a man’s touch makes her dirty?
Men are not dirty!!
Men need to stop thinking about themselves as dirty. Women have to start telling men they are not dirty. Men are pure, holy, albeit perverted, beings deserving of love. That their sexuality is not a sin, that their boners are not an insult but a compliment. That sexual attention from them is a blessing, not a lawsuit waiting to happen.
Our responsibility as heterosexual women
Heterosexual women need to start making noise about this! And we MUST be able to combine both love and sexuality. We must train ourselves to believe that we CAN and MUST have it all. We also kinda have to make the bisexual/lesbian women shut up about heterosexual and polyandrous relationships that they have no business being a part of. Finally, we need to remind men that they are more than just sperm and wallets to a woman who loves them.
We must heal our men.
They must know they are loved… Cock and all. 😉
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