Men of honor don’t make (ANY) promises to attached women or while attached

Let me count the ways… 😀

I just realized something. There are men who are… less principled than others. There are men who make promises they have a vague intention of keeping, and then there are men who won’t make promises they are not free to honor. There are men (and women) who will make moves on people who are attached, and then, there are those who don’t. And there is usually some line of principle that any individual won’t cross… And the line maybe a little blurry and also, rather curvy.

People disagree on such things as to how far and in what situations can you go? What is cheating? What is “nothing happened” and what is “I have something to confess to you”. While some people allow themselves to have a full-blown sexual relationship on the side without feeling an ounce of guilt, they may draw a hard line to anything romantic or loving toward that person or it’s considered cheating.

Honoring a commitment to another person WHILE FALLING IN LOVE WITH A NEW PERSON

The premise is this; you don’t know when love hits you, right? That part is out of your own control. If it happens, it happens, and that’s not something people can blame you for. What you do from there, however, makes you either an animal or a man of honor.

A man of honor does not sleep with or confess to loving someone if there’s a commitment to either himself or the object of their new affections. This doesn’t stop them from flirting or accepting love confessions, but it will stop them from responding to them until the coast is clear commitment wise.

Where the line is drawn is somewhat individual. Other people may feel that you have to give me a REASON to end the previous relationship. They like to gamble less in love. They fear that they might have misunderstood the intentions of a person who isn’t saying much. So they may hold onto the previous relationship regardless of their feelings toward another person, as they feel it would be a shame to waste a good relationship in the hopes that the person who they regard to be even a touch above their own league might be serious about them.

True romance takes finesse

Honestly, I’m going to call it. Men are more romantic and obsessed with the perfection of the love affair much more than women are. This is, because it’s pretty much in their own hands how they want to play it, and if perfection is available, they’re going to play it to perfection. Women are, being often the passive party, learned to accept love that isn’t quite that perfect.

True, perfectly played out romance takes self-confidence

As a woman, it’s difficult to balance self-confidence and trust toward another person, without turning possessive, brash, or controlling – or without turning into a passive-aggressive man-hater. Men, on the other hand, have to put their entire life on the line to clear the way to (new) love – then hope and pray it’s the right call and not a gold digger. True love takes time, self-confidence, and trust in one’s instincts… The latter of which often proves an issue.

But it also takes the ability to see the other person’s perspective, how their value system works, and how they process these situations. And that is another failing point. We often think everyone’s relationship laws are the same, but two people from the same family can view it all in a vastly different way, let alone people from different countries and cultures.

Anger, irritation, and cold shoulder maybe just to say: Clear the way, or “just wait!”

Men who feel they cannot speak openly about their true feelings in certain situations may turn a little irritable toward their True Emotion Mirror who is pestering them for attention and love. This may be because either you or them is still in a relationship with someone else.

One of the most searched queries online is: “Should I leave my boyfriend to be with my Twin Flame?” As in, should I trust my True Emotion Mirror to be serious about our relationship? Should I trust my instincts? Am I reading too much into this? If he’s not saying much, avoids the topic, gets grabby when confronted, she may feel very unsafe about uprooting her relationship – possibly with children – on the hope that the True Emotion Mirror will catch her on the other side.

From his perspective, the question is: “Do you want me or do you want your life with him?” So he gets impatient waiting for her to make up her mind – while she makes him wait for her forever.

If you’re not attached but he or she is…

If you are not attached to anyone else when you talk to your True Emotion Mirror, you should probably consider yourself freer to talk than they would. You can tell them what your intentions are. If they are not reacting but you think they should have made a move already, you can tell them that you expect them to clear the way and end the previous relationship wholly before you’ll be starting anything (serious) with them. Give them help to decide what it is that you expect of them.

And if she says her live-in friend is a roommate, fucking believe her. 😀

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