Men want relationships, too… And women want sex.

Here’s a kicker for a lot of you… Men want relationships and women want sex. The question is, do they want it with you? Everybody wants a relationship with someone who they find romantically and sexually attractive. Otherwise, it makes no sense to be in a relationship. The trouble here is that people who are not very attractive and cannot find a partner for the life of them, have decided the problem is in the opposite gender; men just don’t want relationships, and women don’t want sex.

This is a complicated mess of stereotypical thinking. I’ll try to make it brief.

There was a time when we didn’t know the first thing about lesbianism or homosexuality, let alone people’s natural polyleanings. Still, women were supposed to marry men and  they were supposed to be monogamous. Both polygynous women and polyandrous men feel isolated and unhappy without their same-sex friends around, which means that monogamous marriage makes the majority of people in both genders unhappy by the very formatting of it. These people form their own view on how “marriage” works for them.

If women are further expected to be chaste, that works real well for lesbian women, but not so much for heterosexual women. Therefore, heterosexual women are FORCED TO at least PRETEND they are not as sexual as men are, and compete with lesbians to whom it comes rather naturally to not be too eager to engage in sexual relations with men. That said, now closet lesbians become the ultimate woman; the one that is hard to get, and who is faithful and respectable.

In the meanwhile… Heterosexual polyandrist women notice that they are utterly incapable of staying faithful to one man, or other drama ensues (complicated), and bisexual polyandrist men feel bored with a woman that his friends don’t find sexually attractive – his friends are predominately polyandrist and they don’t find his polygynist wife all that exciting at all… And same goes in reverse for polygynist men and women.

In all of this, we’ve left with the illusion that men don’t want relationships, let alone children, and women don’t want sex.

Not true. The question is, what kind of relationships and sex do we actually want as individuals rather than “men” and “women”?

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