Mind-control: Why people switch off when you TRY TO force them into obedience?

Consider it a security setting against mind-control: whatever you TRY TO force another person to do or feel or be inspired to do, they won’t feel like it, NOT EVEN IF they deep down wanted to. It also works in reverse; if you try to STOP THEM from doing something, you’re creating a safe space for them: That’s where nobody is mind-controlling them.

This is why your children will turn to careers you disapprove of, and behave in every way that you don’t want them to: Wherever you give them space to make their own choices, that’s where they’ll be. Instead, free your child to make their own choices everywhere.

This is also why so many women suffer from low sex drive; men who have been told women don’t like sex feel compelled to try and turn women on using some form of a mind-control method, and the last thing women will, thus, want is sex with him. Women want respect from men or to stop them from doing this or that, and sure enough, that’s his safe space: “That’s one thing she’s not TRYING TO make me do against my will.” Instead, give people, men and women alike, the permission to be sexual around you.

I fear you won’t, therefore I try to force you to…

Whatever you FEAR others will or won’t do so much that you’re trying to “mind-force” them into doing it, they’ll be sure to do whatever you are not thinking about. If you’re thinking: “I just want you to have a legit, legal job” they’ll do anything that isn’t legal… Or you have mistaken to be illegal, as seems to be the case with my mom… I’m glad there are legal things I can do that she thinks are illegal or bordering to it… You know, like publishing websites without authorization from anybody at all… 😀

If you don’t trust someone to love you or their grandparents, and you try to mind-force them into feeling love, you know what’s going to happen? That love vanishes. It becomes inaccessible to that person, and obviously, you get a confirmation that they don’t love you or their grandparents… Or whomever you fear they won’t love.

Just let people be.

Try to feel joy about the idea of seeing what people WOULD DO, FEEL, and ACT LIKE if they were given free hands to be themselves. (It’s very unlikely they’d be criminals, but at least they’d show their true colors…)

You can trust that people will do what they want to do if you give them full freedom to do it… but NOT if you try to force them into it. If you feel your child has a short attention span, the truth may be that you’re just too controlling and rather lack trust. They show interest in something, and you try to mind-raise them to keep doing it; keep at it so one day you’ll grow up… And there he goes to arrange flowers instead.

“I give you permission to let me go.”

If you feel like someone might try to control you and your choices, your parents, most likely, try to give them permission to let you go, rather than wish-force them to do so. “I give you permission to let you go.” You might have to repeat that a lot, tho. Change phrases: “I allow you to let me down.” (They may feel like letting go is the same thing as giving you up or letting you down.)

“I give you permission to be yourself.”

If you feel you might be trying to control someone’s choices, use this approach: Rather than force them to “act themselves around you” give them a permission to. “I give you a permission to be yourself around me.” “I give you a permission to feel whatever you feel.” And, “I give you a permission to speak your mind freely.”

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