Moral selfishness when it comes to cheating and sleeping with someone else’s spouse

I am not a big fan of cheating. Personally, I want things clean and out in the open, but there are also other factors to consider. I tend to say: “He’s married, but he’s not THAT married.” Adult people have made commitments to people who are not truly in love with them since marriage was invented… That’s kinda their bad. If you want to tie someone who is not faithful to you out of his or her natural need to be with you with a piece of paper, then… Well, I guess you do deserve to be cheated on or “stolen from”.

the Young Soul* pressure the Old Souls* into relationships ALL THE TIME. They insist to break people into submission and into their will – and if that’s how you’ve treated your spouse, then, well, I guess you deserve to be cheated on when your spouse wakes up to the reality that despite all that pressure, the spouse isn’t really living up to their promises: to be worth all the others. Because if you put that kind of pressure on someone, you BETTER be SURE you can deliver.

If your spouse notices that the only thing you want from them is social status and a roof over your head or something similar, who can blame them for looking for a relationship that is loving and sexual elsewhere? They still give you the stuff you need, and don’t bother you with sex and romance – kind of fair, don’t you think – fairer than what you deserve, is what I think.

If spouses or partners are not equal in the relationship, and one reacts by looking for affection elsewhere, so be it. I have no moral qualms with that.

HOWEVER, what I DO not like, at all, is when people cheat for the sake of cheating because they have a fetish for it assuming their partner will just roll over and take it. Having said that, some people do even love being cheated on, unbelievably. There are people who love being made to wait on their spouse or partner who they know is currently sleeping around. If it’s a mutual fetish, who am I to say not to do it? If you also tell the other party that you’re married, then, heck, they’ve been informed enough.

Some people LOVE to be forgiven for things. They have a fetish for forgiveness and getting away with all kinds of crap. It makes them feel better about themselves and their relationship, that they are forgiven for their past indiscretions. If you love this, by all means, forgive them, but don’t assume it will stop, as it won’t. By forgiving them, you’ll just give them the signal: I love you more than I love your fidelity – go for it. Do it if you mean it, and don’t forgive to be a good person, that’ll just land you in more of the same.

The trick, as with everything, is to make sure nobody treats YOU in a way that you don’t enjoy. If you don’t like a cheater cheating, walk out. Don’t stick around suffering for it. Let that bastard go and don’t go back when he or she comes around begging for another chance. You watch your own back, let others watch theirs… Because frankly… There are people who feel a bit ashamed for allowing their partner to run around on them, so it’s best to let them wake up to whatever they need to wake up to, like “oh I fucken enjoy this!” or “This sucks, I’m out.”

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