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Narcissism self-check. Are you a narcissist?
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April 5, 2025 Tags: Narcissism
We all have narcissistic traits. Some of the traits that I consider narcissistic are actually pretty good in principle, as long as there’s some safety guards in place. Therefore, where do we draw the line between “normal” (even if not perfect) and narcissism? This is my division point:
Think to yourself:
Is it important to you that your significant other (your spouse or your girl/boyfriend) is also in love with you – loves you as much as you love them?
I will also ask you to explain your yes or no answer.
Give it some time.
Once you are happy you have both the yes and no answer and a pretty clear idea of “why” expand these to reveal my answer.
Healthy: You want them to be happy in their relationship with you. Being in love with someone is the height of all happiness; you just hope that for someone, that’s you.
Narcissistic: If they’re in love with you, they’re easier to control, and they’ll take better care of you.
Healthy (enough, albeit pessimistic): You don’t truly expect people to be in love with you, but you’d never try to manipulate someone into staying with you, as you don’t see how being with you would be such a benefit to them that you’d feel right to pressure them into it. You expect to maintain relationships for practical reasons, but you want them to feel practicality is enough, for them, too.
Narcissistic: You basically feel what that other person feels about relationships being practical, not romantic, but you also feel there is NO REASON for ANYONE to reject your offer of partnership, and you’d be happy to pressure them into giving up on their other foolish life goals, dreams, love affairs and other distractions that are inconveniently blocking a very good partnership from forming. You also may feel they should be HAPPY and ENTHUSIASTIC about making you happy (satisfied), given they have the opportunity to partner up with someone as capable as yourself.
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*) Term changed after this post was originally written. Fractions of old terms may exist elsewhere in the post. Read about term updates.
**) Narcissists are Young Souls left alone to survive and they're doing their best. Their emotional age ranges from 3 to 17 -year old. The younger, the more severe the narcissism.
