“No time wasters” as per the Timeless and the Modern definition.

If you ever see a “no time wasters” or some reference to “time wasters” in a dating profile, it’s more than likely the Modern’s profile, but if a Timeless would write it, they’d mean the complete opposite with it, again, than the Modern does.

A the Modern is looking for a monogamous commitment of some description. Therefore, “a time waster” is someone who is NOT looking to get married to the people they talk to at any length of time, or to marry them, as their PRIMARY and ONLY potential goal to dating. To a Timeless, a time waster is someone who is not even theoretically open to casual sex (in the meantime, as they’re looking for someone to get serious with) or someone who believes everyone is looking for a monogamous marriage and ignores everything you say about NOT looking for marriage in their dating profile.

To a Timeless (men and women alike), a time waster is someone not open to casual sex, even theoretically.

To the Modern (men and women alike), a time waster is someone not open to marrying them.

the Timeless are NEVER expecting to marry a person based on a few conversations.

the Timeless may be looking for marriage and true love and their ultimate romance, but they will NEVER (unless very religious) rule out casual sex, and DEFINITELY, they won’t rule out deep, meaningful conversations with someone with no intent to marry that person.

A the Modern guards their “secrets” as in any personal information as a dragon guards gold, but a Timeless will talk about the same stuff without any drama or difficulty at all. That makes the Modern think they’re heading toward marriage, but the Timeless is still in a chit-chat mode. (the Timeless are basically introverts, but introversion and the Timeless concepts are not 100% interchangeable, hence the different term.)

the Modern are NEVER looking for casual hookups for their own pleasure.

the Modern will never be looking for casual hookups, particularly online. If they are hooking up with someone, they need an audience. They are doing it to impress their friends, to prove they are brave enough (women) or stud enough (men) to have a casual sex relationship.

This means that when a Timeless stops for a conversation before casual sex, the Modern gets mixed signals because they want their casual relations entirely anonymous and cold. Old Soul*, however, don’t wish non-connected sex, not even casually with strangers. (They may sometimes find a wordless connection however, but that would freak the Modern the heck out… The connection, not the wordlessness.)

Both the Timeless and the Modern are looking for something specific, but…

What both types agree on is that it is annoying when someone who is not even theoretically interested in the same type of interaction or relationship as they are is taking up their valuable time dating. What’s the difference is that the Modern assume too much about the other person’s intents, and that if you’re not SAYING that you want a marriage first and foremost, it should be obvious you do.

the Timeless find it irritating when people blatantly ignore what they say they want and assume that they, too, want to marry, and this whole profile (or similar) is just an act to impress people with.

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