Nobody hurts you like a True Emotion Mirror – meaning

I’ve mentioned a few times that nobody hurts you like a True Emotion Mirror does. This has been interpreted as if True Emotion Mirrors were some kind of a special breed of people with a DELIBERATE attempt to hurt each other like they got off on it. It has also been taken as a competition or like a fucking pick up tactic: “If I manage to hurt that person (emotionally or physically) more than anyone else, I’ll earn the right to be called their True Emotion Mirror!” As in “I’ll show people I am not afraid to hurt them – that’s intimacy!” That kind of interpretations have been developed in the minds of fucking sociopaths! (Don’t listen to those people or spread that kind of thinking if you have half a brain on you.)

Not a fight club. This is different.

“True Emotion Mirrors are a fight club competition, is obviously NOT what I mean by saying that nobody hurts you like a True Emotion Mirror, and is very much twisting my words into something perverse, abusive, and insane. True Emotion Mirrors do not compete over who is the biggest asshole or has the biggest sense of entitlement over the other person! True Emotion Mirrors may hurt each other, but they very much TRY NOT TO. They both feel an unexplainable responsibility over each other’s well-being, even when they’re not together. Even when they DO wind up hurting each other, they are driven to fix it, and although reactive hurt happens, this is not what they do as “a thing”, LOVE is the centric part of this, not hate and fighting.

Also this doesn’t mean that True Emotion Mirror is some kind of an ultimate lover as an individual, which is another thing I think I need to clarify again and again and again, as in NOBODY is a True Emotion Mirror as a singular, but always as a pair or a group, NEVER alone. You CANNOT BE “a True Emotion Mirror” without a counterpart. It’s not like “True Emotion Mirror is another way of saying ‘a stud’ or ‘femme fatale’.” Don’t be fucking stupid, people!

It means their opinion of you matters more than anyone else’s.

What “nobody hurts you like a True Emotion Mirror” means is that because True Emotion Mirrors love each other so much, their opinion of the other means a great deal more than anyone else’s. Comparable only to how much a parent’s opinion means to a child, the younger the child, the more the parent’s opinion of the child means to the child. When a parent shows disapproval toward their child, it hurts the child much more than, say, a teacher saying the same thing. The more important a person is in your life, the more their opinion of you matters to you. When that person is your True Emotion Mirror, their negative opinion, even a misinterpreted joke, hurts like nothing else.

That said, True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates don’t TRY to hurt you, but we’re flawed people. We do hurtful things, sometimes even trying to be kind.

Fights

Also, SOMETIMES True Emotion Mirrors fight a lot, particularly if one is more OK with the existing bond than the other is, most notably between gay pairings where only one has accepted their homosexual tendencies to be something more than a drunken one-off. This is NOT TO SAY that if you’re in love with someone you consider to be “in the closet” that you can just grab them and fuck them and blame them for homophobia if they don’t like it, am I making myself clear? I’m just saying that when taboo-feelings arise, sometimes people fight against those feelings, unable to accept that those feelings MEAN something. And then, often, negative feelings and the nasty side of self-denial (telling yourself that you are not what you wish you had every freedom to be without losing love or respect of other people who mean something to you) rear their ugly head.

Don’t give up TOO easily – not to say take any abuse or disrespect at all.

I am saying this so people wouldn’t give up on difficult relationships TOO EASILY, for as long as the love is still there, nobody else should have a say in how much crap you are willing to go through for another person. They should also not tell you that your love hasn’t been enough. When the love dies, the love dies, that’s as simple as that. And sometimes it’s wise to walk out of a relationship BEFORE the love dies completely, take a step back and rethink things through… BEFORE the love is all gone…

This is not a permission or invitation to hurt someone (in the hopes of proving that you’re their TrEmoR.

True Emotion Mirror -theories are not permission to abuse someone or to ignore their feelings, and to twist their words into something they didn’t mean. These theories are not a permission to interfere with other grown-up persons’, legal adults’ free will, this includes your daughter’s and your son’s free will and autonomy… And it also includes your True Emotion Mirror’s free will.

AND AGAIN, having said that, this is not a permission to interfere in the relationship of a True Emotion Mirror couple who do things in a way you don’t accept, approve of, or understand, such as a True Emotion Mirror pairing that practices BDSM or other fetishes they have, no matter how much it insults your idea what “true love” should look like. Just because you think that it’s “not spiritual” or “is not loving” or whatever, doesn’t mean that it isn’t. If they’re both happy, and they’re harming nobody else, you butt the fuck out of their relationship, alright?

I write for life masters, and I expect you to have your brain engaged while reading it. If you cannot do that, you need to stop reading altogether.

You cannot just read everything I write, thinking it’s 100% permissive. Yes, I want you to find your authentic self and your authentic soulmates, absolutely, so you CAN be everything that you are, but that’s always with the assumption you understand there’s a clause: WITHOUT HURTING ANYBODY ELSE IN THE PROCESS. That’s your limit. You MUST find a way to be who you are with the right people, the people who match with your quirks, and don’t assume you can live like a wild hog in a field and have everyone cater to your needs with love and care!

You need to be a grown-up. If you have any interest in this text, you need to take responsibility of yourself, your actions, and other people to the level that YOU will not be a problem to them while you try to liberate yourself. Let me rephrase. You’ll have to minimize your negative impact on other people while you work things out. No matter who you are, the Sun does not shine out of your arse.

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