Normality, happiness, and the freedom of choice

I have to say the realization became as a shock to me. “But I am gay because I was told I have to be…” he said, as I was defending the homosexuals’ right to be that, because some people just are that way… And, to be fair, they are. However, being the Young Soul* homosexual is very different to being a Ravens* homosexual, because the Young Soul*, by definition, do not make (many) independent choices, not even when it’s something as big as choosing one’s sexuality or person they intend to marry… In fact, the bigger the decision, the less likely they are going to be making it for themselves. In the Ravens*, this choice goes the opposite way around, they may allow you to choose the color of their clothes for you (irrelevant) but they would never allow you to make an important choice for them.

To the Young Soul*, the concept of an independent choice is an abstract idea that they do not really understand. This is due to an under-developed personality, that is so malleable that they cannot tell, themselves, what or who they are in terms of character traits or personality. They are what you tell them to be. When they change circles, their personality changes accordingly, whatever traits are valued in their current company, that is what they try to be. They simply become better at adapting.

At the same time, they do not LIKE being pushed into a box any more than the Ravens* do, apparently. They simply feel they haven’t got another alternative, somehow, THEY are required to conform, while others, the Ravens*, selfishly do whatever they like without thinking of anyone else. The Ravens*, on their turn, would never ask anyone to live their lives in any other way than what each individual wants for themselves, and they do not even think about telling others that they, too have the right to an independent choice because, to them, that’s a given.

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