Obedience: A clear divider between abuse and love

Now, first, Disobedience is not what the Savants* are about, even though the Normal Person* are about obedience. It’s just that the Savants* don’t necessarily obey if they feel what is requested of them is undue, unfair, over-the-top, unnecessary, unlawful, or otherwise morally questionable. They don’t disobey for the sake of disobedience in order to show disrespect or as a sign of contempt, necessarily, they just won’t obey if obedience would be too taxing to their own personal happiness.

the Normal Person* often misread deliberate disobedience into the Savants*’s action due to their own way of doing things, however. In truth, the Savants* despise people who disobey for the sake of disobedience, as it’s often simply put… Moronic. Often, disobedience for the sake of disobedience shows stupidity, insecurity, and immaturity, not self-confidence or dominance.

To the Normal Person*, maturity comes with obedience (but who made them the boss?)

To the Normal Person*, obedience, up to a point, speaks of maturity and acceptance of one’s responsibilities as a member of a community. Further, to a Savants*, obedience cannot be their responsibility, because obedience literally makes the one in charge the one who carries the responsibility. If you are simply following orders under a threat of penalty, then you are not liable for any damage you’ve caused by following someone else’s guidance to the tee.

the Normal Person*, however, feel obedience is a skill thing, it requires self-confidence and mastery to be able to follow someone else’s rules, which is true to an extent. Sign of intelligence, understanding rules and regulations, and predicting the master’s whims and moods.

To a Savants*, obedience is never a question of understanding the rules. They may not take the time to understand the rules to the tee, because they have no intention of obeying all of them (like dress codes or how to set the table), so why bother, but they don’t doubt their ability to LEARN rules should they want to learn them. Instead, they wish to be responsible for their own actions and choices and to be the master of their own lives. They’d rather make a mistake by their own hand than allow someone else the freedom of making mistakes regarding their lives on their behalf.

To the Normal Person*, to love means to obey

the Normal Person* have forgotten to question the need to obey in a relationship. For centuries, they’ve simply been made to obey, the lower you are in the ranks of people, the higher your instinctive need to obey or to rule is. They do not see an equal alternative, they seek to find out the hierarchy, even if they don’t care WHO will wind up in charge as long as he or she is the strongest, most aggressive, and most self-assertive person. A Normal Person* doesn’t care about your MORALS or INTENT, as long as they know which ass to kiss.

This is the wrong way of thinking about things, however, and nobody should feel the need to obey anyone if they are an adult and know what they are doing.

Obedience is needed only from people who don’t know what they are doing

Obedience is expected of children and young adults who are not yet old enough to know how to keep themselves out of harm’s way. If your daughter is dating an abusive man, you can and should get involved, but as an adult, you shouldn’t think, for instance, that a man covered in tattoos is automatically abusive. Then again, your daughter may think the same thing and goes out with a dangerous-looking man to see if you, as a parent, would even react to it protectively. You need to know your children yourself, as your the Savants* daughter will go out with the kindest men covered head-to-toe in tattoos sometimes, without any need for protection or attention from mom and dad… But your the Normal Person* daughter will go out with the leader of a criminal biker gang just to see if you give a damn.

Children and young adults are the ones that are being protected from harm by the requirement of obedience. SOMETIMES adults lose their way and are making stupid self-destructive decisions, particularly when grief-stricken or during moments of desperation. This is when they should be commanded to safety, to be forced to obedience to protect their own safety. However, that command cannot last any longer than necessary to protect them from self-harm.

A good, well-rounded individual does not need obedience to be a part of their everyday lives, not on any level of society or in any relationship, be it romantic, platonic, work-relationship, or a relationship to a government official. Adults’ individual freedom should always be guaranteed in a sophisticated society, and no decision from it should be made apart from situations like the one described above. The older the child, the less they should be expected to obey anyone, and by 17, they should be free from any enforced rules and their parental submission should be a precautionary measure only… EVEN IF they were throwing their grades out the window. That last year should be practice for adult existence, not the last year to pretend they’re still a toddler and mommy’s and daddy’s forever baby.

the Normal Person* demand you obey them… But don’t know how to handle their own s***

Here’s the problem with the Normal Person*. They DEMAND the strongest to lead a pack, and they are more than willing to declare themselves the leader of the pack. However, they cannot pick up a task in the pack if a member of it leaves. This is because if they lose a member out of their pack, how can the remaining members ever trust their ability to lead? Therefore, not only do they feel weak and vulnerable without a leader, even if they, themselves WAS the leader, they’ll feel they’ve fallen out of favor if a member of their flock decides to risk the wilderness alone rather than stay under their incompetent care.

And… Then, a Savants* rebel also refuses to take the lead themselves as they have no desire to take on board the monumental task of minding the needs of every idiot in their neighborhood.

Loyalty, obedience’s beloved abusive cousin

Another popular relationship requirement is loyalty. Loyalty is the fall-back demand of people who know they will abuse you but will demand you to stick around under the threat of being labeled “disloyal”. Never follow a leader who demands loyalty – follow leaders who command loyalty, and that is a very difficult expression for the Normal Person* to understand correctly. “Commanding” respect doesn’t mean “YOUSHALLOBEYMEANDBELOYALTOMEORELSEILLCUTYOURHEADOFF” but being a person who naturally attracts loyalty and trust as he or she has proven to be trustworthy, fair-minded, respectable, and respecting individual. The loyalty, thus, comes from trust: “I am better off with you than I would be alone. You are good for my survival and happiness.”

A person who demands loyalty in a relationship (as opposed to fidelity, mind you) is going to be abusive with 100% certainty. They are going to TEST your loyalty by screwing you over, then accusing you when you abandon them.

Abusers demand obedience (and loyalty)

Do not hold being obedient or loyal as your personal defining values of your character, lest you want people to abuse you through you trying to prove yourself to be obedient or loyal. These two traits give abusers all the tools they need to keep you hooked for years and years… Always proving either your loyalty or your ability to obey their whimsical rules. GLADLY admit that you are neither obedient nor loyal, and be done with abusive assholes for the rest of your existence.

the Savants* must turn A LITTLE Black in order to reach the Gray Wolf status

the Savants* must learn to use force when absolutely necessary to bring justice and fairness into the world. This won’t be easy, considering people are very complicated, and this is why the Savants* hesitate to assume power at all. But this is why the Savants* MUST LEARN to fight fire with fire, to fight the Normal Person* in a way they understand… Often by arguing only with VOLUME and PERSISTENCE (as in shouting at the top of your lungs with very little importance to WHAT you say) and sometimes physical punishment, shaming, and isolation where absolutely necessary.

However, before a Savants* is ready to do that, oh boy.

Loooots of work.

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