Obvious life lessons you may have to teach someone else (just to get unstuck with your life)

We are all here in different states of spiritual development. Some of us are highly aware, spiritually learned and evolved spirits, but so, so many of us think we are high-ranking spiritually, when in fact, we’re in our very infancy of spiritual awakening. (Having been spiritually AWAKENED, by the way, is simply square one. Still, many young souls think they’re ready to float off the planet as a result of the first realization that “we’re spirits on a physical path” like that was big news to anyone. It is more than common for a lot of old souls to take it for granted that this is the case, and never think themselves particularly spiritual, at all.)

Projection (as a psychological term)

An unenlightened, basic state of being is a state of 100% projection: “I am, therefore you are. I feel, therefore you feel the same. I think this, therefore, you think that way, too.” Such people do not experience empathy, they live in the complete illusion in which whatever they are feeling is felt by another person, too, such as their victim. (Imagine a rapist who fully believes his victim feels what he feels, and cannot comprehend the possibility that they are hurting, suffering, or disgusted about what is happening, but believe whatever their reaction is a reaction to the same pleasure the rapist is feeling. Such a person will not learn to not rape based on empathy but punishment: “If you do this again, it will hurt you later.” They learn from a set of rules: “You are forbidden from raping. If you rape, you’ll be punished.”)

It is absolutely futile to try and appeal to the empathy of a person who feels none. They MUST be punished and swiftly, and carefully, and made sure that they can connect the punishment to the deed done.

Projection gives you a sense of certainty. Because you feel you know how everyone else thinks and feels, you feel secure in this world. This certainty starts to fade when others don’t act as you’d predict. Therefore, the fact that others won’t do as you anticipate them to, or even push them to do, you’re forced into coming to terms with the fact that others don’t think similarly to you.

The further you go, the more situations is in your “projection pile” simply because you haven’t got to that yet. You just haven’t THOUGHT that OK, in THAT situation, too, people are different, or that oh dear, I never thought that someone could think like that. The older souls, by the way, project their virtues on others almost as much as younger souls project their vices onto others.

Everyone projects up to a point, but the more evolved you are as a spirit, the less you project, and the more open you are to accept that “oops, there you go, I got that wrong, too”. (There’s also a spiritual state where you are TOO willing to accept you got something wrong and replace your own perception with the observations of others. Often, there are situations in which the seeing is led by the blind. FYI. This simply requires a bit of a pause and think from the older spirits.)

You’d think they know this, but?

In the background of projection, older souls may believe that “EVERYONE” knows this, but that is not true, at all. As I mentioned, an older soul may not be surprised at all at such things as reincarnation or being a spirit on a physical path. Therefore, when a newly awakened spirit goes around like a person born in a cave professing to the existence of light as if it was a major revelation, those born in the light may start wondering what is that “light” they keep referring to. How light is light, exactly? How do you know your perception of light is the same as theirs if they are so AMAZED by that when you all assume the situation you were born in was the same.

So. Here are things you may think ‘everyone’ knows, but do not:

The fact person X loves person Y doesn’t mean person Y loves person X

This comes as a massive shock to a lot of people, and the people mostly under the illusion that whomever they love will automatically love them back are female. Not LIMITED to women, but men do get pushed back on this belief a lot quicker than women are.

Therefore, men are far more likely to be bullied into marriages and relationships by women who adore them, expecting the feelings to be mutual.

“I don’t know what love is, therefore, love is pretense”

Many people also believe that since they don’t truly love anybody, love is not real. People who believe love isn’t real, tend to take relationships as a practical thing rather than a natural reaction to the warm and fuzzy feeling known as love. To them, “love” is more a verb than a noun, and if you tell them: “You don’t love me”, they understand that as a complaint: “You do not perform the expected acts of love toward me. Do better. Perform better.” Therefore, if they reply: “Oh, I do love you! Sure I love you!” it means: “Look, I’ve bought you clothes, fed and cared for you for your entire life, how can you say I don’t love you?”

A young soul connects the word “love” with “aid to survive”, “taking care” rather than a feeling. Therefore, something like marriage, to them, is a partnership that is supposed to aid survival, not what old souls figure it is.

Now, when a young soul observes old souls who are deeply in love, they assume it’s some kind of a play. They start mimicking the actions of “love” similarly to a toddler pretending to be speaking on the phone the way sHe has seen their mother do.

To be able to love, you have to know who you are

When you believe everyone is the same as you, or that the only main difference between people is that some are male, some are female, the concept of love makes no sense. A dick is a dick, right? To such a person, details like age, sex, location make all the difference in the choice of a partner. If they are “advanced”, they also consider income, beauty, or race of a person, but in a different way to an old soul, who GENUINELY appreciates such things as intelligence or beauty, and they know WHY they like what they like. Young souls copy: “You’re supposed to marry someone who looks like that, rather than that in order for it to be OK.”

“A sapiosexual/sapioamorist” is, in fact, an older soul. They know who they are, and they have likes and dislikes. Their idea of what works for them is much more refined and developed than the likes and dislikes of a young soul, who cannot see differences in other people the same way as old souls can. Differences, to them, are much a process of learning, and they are also keen on teaching the old souls that This or That shouldn’t matter in a relationship, because it doesn’t matter TO THEM, and they haven’t got a clue why it matters to someone else. It’s not that they are so advanced that they can see past mutual interests, beauty, intelligence, or wealth, it’s because they haven’t yet figured out why these things matter in the first place, apart from some rudimentary learned connection between “marrying X will get you rewards from the society”.

I am not obeying you because I don’t know how, but because I don’t want to

Young spirits are very likely to connect disobedience with stupidity or fear. Those are common feelings for a person who isn’t learning very fast. Therefore, instead of giving up on their demand that you do X, they redouble their efforts to coax you to do X, so you’d a) learn to do it or b) feel brave enough to do it.

To make an enlightening example, a former friend of mine, who is definitely a very young soul, enthused that she is “good at marrying”. This was at the stage when I was still learning to figure out how young spirits think, so it startled me: “What do you mean, you are good at marrying? How are you good at something like that, considering you only do it once if you’re good at it?” She meant, again that “marrying” means an action, a performed set of behavioral models linked to being married she is good at copying. Similarly to a profession one holds.

(It would come as a complete shock to her if her husband would divorce her, I admit, I do kinda want to see that. She wouldn’t have the first clue why he’d do that. It would be fukken hilarious. 😀 I am perfectly aware of how not done that is to admit to, but let’s just say she’s caused me enough problems in life to justify a touch of venom.

On another note, the same “friend” also enthused about knowing how to make coffee, as a part of her being good at marrying. And mind you, intellectually, this woman is normal. Not smart, by any regard, although, if you ask her, she’s at least at my level, because we were friends, and she too finished high school. Nothing physically wrong with her brain.

Proudly, she was folding the coffee filter as instructed. However, she used the coffee maker as a hot plate and poured cold water onto the coffee grounds. Why this is sort of hilarious, is that she is SO SELF-CONFIDENT about things, that everyone around her thinks she is an expert at life. She is respected by NORMAL PEOPLE, who think she’s… Well, normal. She takes pride in the most simple things, many of which she gets PROFOUNDLY wrong. These well-meaning individuals just figured her coffee maker was either broken or she really has a weird taste in coffee, projecting their own intelligence onto her, so they believe it was not POSSIBLE for anyone normal to be that stupid.)

It is easy to see stupidity, but it’s difficult to spot smarter people than you are

This is one of the most disturbing facts of life. While it is easy to see when you are smarter than another person, albeit you may give people more credit than they deserve based on your own IQ, it is nearly impossible to recognize intelligence that goes WAY beyond your own understanding. Therefore, a person who learns to make coffee wrong by the age of 35 can earnestly consider themselves an intellectual equivalent to a person who learned to make coffee correctly at the age of 8 and didn’t find it difficult at all at that age. (Because it isn’t.)

For instance, I consider myself psychologically a genius. I can simultaneously hold a massive, complex amount of spiritual and psychological information in my mind and manipulate that data into new predictable situations. Now, a person of the same raw intelligence would find what I tell them easy to understand but would struggle to make the same connections independently, due to simple fact they’re not accustomed to handling this kind of data.

Similarly, I may understand a genius quantum physicists’ lecture with relative ease with no previous connection to quantum physics, but have NO IDEA how he got to the conclusions that he did. This is where expertise vs. intelligence comes in. For example, my mathematical abilities are absolutely abysmal. Mathematically I am an IDIOT, mainly because I HATED maths. Probably not because of maths, but because of my slightly autistic mathematically brilliant, but not particularly intelligent mother didn’t know how to explain things to me the way I process data, and the more she tried to make me understand, the less I understood and she had no patience to my questions because she expected me to understand it the minute she showed it to me. This resulted in being shouted at, giving me a very negative experience when it came to maths. I do not like feeling stupid, but my mother’s idea was to give me the experience of being “cared for” by being shouted at, again, an interesting young soul -thing. Eventually, I got to the conclusion I have no mathematical skill, which is not, technically speaking, true, but I’ve given up a long time ago.)

Still, when I speak, a person of my own approximate raw IQ would find this information easy to absorb. I do not need to repeat myself to someone of my own IQ or someone smarter. However, a person with a lower IQ would find most of my writing nonsensical, even insane, and certainly “made-up”, possibly “with no scientific backing”. (In fact, I wanted to do this without official accreditation simply to keep myself from the status of an authority in the eyes of people who cannot understand what I am saying as a simple logical conclusion as the people who I wish to address. It is best that these topics are kept from people who cannot follow the train of thought without difficulty.)

By the way, the #1 requirement for a successful relationship is a similar raw IQ. Otherwise, the person of higher intelligence will always feel unfulfilled and short-changed in the relationship. This is not something low IQ people support as an idea, of course, because THEIR intellectual needs are easily met, and they don’t understand why it would matter that they’re not met.

Owning people is not possible

Another thing that you may have to teach a younger soul just to be able to move on with your own life, is that people cannot own other people. Again, this is something that is obvious to most people but lost with a young soul.

A young soul is much like a young child, who wholly believe that the people they know will always stay with them. They feel uprooted when someone they know leaves them, and they don’t understand why this should even happen.

Therefore, I will give you, old souls, a bit of advice hoping I’m catching you in time: Do not allow people who you do not love by the first sight a chance to get attached to you at all. Keep a healthy distance from co-workers, school friends, and casual acquaintances that might form a bond that they cannot allow breaking – and more than anything: DO NOT TRY TO FALL IN LOVE with a person you haven’t fallen for at first sight already. (First sight love being either the crush -type or True Emotion Mirror type and everything in between. You know what I mean.)

However, if you’ve already put your foot into this, and allowed people to form a bond to you, you may be cruel for your own sake, and let a young soul get over their trauma of losing you on their own.

It’s also good for you to understand that this bond doesn’t form because they LOVE YOU, the way you understand it, but that they got used to you, and therefore, they cannot cope with the idea of you not being there anymore. They love stability and familiarity, not you. Just so you know.

A good way to get away from a young soul with a bond like this is to allow them to rebond with someone else. Allow them to get used to you not being there gradually, and give them an opportunity to rebond with someone more suitable for their intellectual needs. Then, eventually, when it feels right, just leave, consider, even, leaving without ceremonies. (Ghost them. Let them get used to no communication, then, cease it completely.)

You cannot take what isn’t yours (stealing)

It is, obviously, one of the first life lessons that people face; do not steal. However, emotionally speaking, it is difficult for a young soul to understand why stealing isn’t nice.

Old souls make emotional connections to inanimate objects through nostalgia. When a young soul sees an object they love, they don’t see the nostalgic feelings another person has connected to the object. They also cannot see the work that went into making or earning the money to buy that object. Their ability to understand the feelings of the rightful owner of an object is limited, therefore, they feel the object might just as well be theirs.

A young soul sees an object, and what they see is simply the object. The history of that object doesn’t spring into their mind. Quite innocently, they feel that this object is just as rightfully theirs as it is someone else’s, and the fact it belongs to someone else is “luck” rather than something akin to a relationship to that object. That’s all there may be to it.

An even younger soul sees an object as a part of the universe, and cannot connect any emotions, except pure joy about the object to it. It’s pure love: “I love you, object. I know you love me, too, object.” To them, all life is beauty, and very few clashes with reality have occurred. One of the first ones will be the separation from the object they fell in love with. Ironically, it is the painful separation from a beloved object that old souls protect by the concept of ownership. (Compare: young soul marriage; “I own my husband/wife”. Then: “I own my pet dog”. Now, the question is, will we become aware of an object’s feelings? Do they have some? I kind of figure they do have emotions, and in some cases, an object may feel similarly to a forcefully wedded spouse. Wouldn’t it be an exciting thought, that first, we learn to feel other people’s feelings? Then, animals. Plants. Then, eventually, we connect to the emotional space of unliving things that give no signs of how they might be feeling.)

Speaking of teaching and learning

Young souls and old souls (low IQ and high IQ) learn new things differently. While you can compel young souls to ignore logic and true learning and simply memorize things as they are without criticism, it is MUCH HARDER to teach a bad knowledge to an old soul. A high IQ person will require you to convince them that a) you know what you are talking about (they will reject information given by someone they sense is not intelligent enough to be trusted) b) that the information given is actually accurate and based in reality.

Young souls filter data from the teacher’s “self-confidence”. To them, this means that if the teacher shouts to a child or student. This, to a young soul, means that the teacher “knows” their information is accurate, and therefore they have the right to push it in by mere force. An older soul will reject shouted information, because it means: “I don’t like you”, therefore it also means their information is more than likely not accurate, well thought through, or even true. If it needs to be taught by shouting, the intellectual merits of the information are immediately bought to question. Another reason why an old soul rejects shouted information is that they know that should they accept that information, they create a spiritual bond to this person, who is beneath their own IQ level.

At the same time, a young soul absorbs any information they can, intellectually speaking absorb, given to them by a friendly person. You can teach a young soul into a serial killer if you’re nice about it. A young soul doesn’t truly filter information given but will take anything they’re capable of processing. What they reject, however, is a liberal teacher’s lessons. Liberalism is a sign of high IQ because liberal people believe each person is capable of filtering information for themselves. Therefore, a high IQ student will respect a liberal teacher, such as my psychology teacher in high school.

My psychology teacher never rejected a student’s suggestion to a psychological question. Such as: “What do you think this person is thinking…” I remember her so often having a chuckle at a student’s suggestion, she’d push her glasses back upwards with her thumb while processing the suggestion, and she’d laugh: “That could well be! I never thought of it that way, but…”

A student of a lower IQ would find her incompetent and incapable of actually teaching anything because they’d interpret her liberal views as “insecure”. A high IQ student understands that there are very few certain answers in psychology, and trying to guess what another person is feeling is just that: guessing and often, projecting. They’d also understand she’s teaching them to think for themselves, rather than look for ready-made answers in the books.

 

 

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