Old fashioned love relationship ideals maybe holding you from your True Emotion Mirror

There’s the natural way for us to love and bond, and live, and then, there’s the control-based way to love and bond. A lot of it is a historically created solution to problems that no longer apply to us.

How is a woman loved? With money or with respect to her talents?

Is monogamy really necessary or valid?

What is a man’s role in a relationship? Womans?

These are the problems that true lovers struggle with in our time. Hopefully by the time you read this, you’ll wonder “why is any of this an issue? Whaat?” but as for today, a man can feel a good woman cannot be forced to work for herself. Like it’s a lowering of her status if she has nobody to take care of her and he might dread the humiliation of her having to work, while she is more acutely aware of how talented, skilled, or wise she is and how she deserves to be paid for those attributes, even if she didn’t really need the money survival-wise.

Currently, money is linked to survival, but I foresee AI and robotics taking over the tasks that were linked to direct survival, and we’ll be working at passion jobs rather than survival jobs… Money will be more fun to have I hope.

Currently, we’re conditioned to think about romance as a monogamy. You abandon all others for an ultimate lover, and the ideal is that no other person will ever tempt you, or that there’ll be plenty of others who tempt you but you make a commitment to a good man or a good woman, and reject the harlots and whore mongerers that truly tempt you. A lot of this is based on false ego, but which part is and which part isn’t?

The point here is that your True Emotion Mirror and yourself do not have problems that don’t directly affect the other and their lives. I know a ton of True Emotion Mirror females, who are talented, beautiful, smart, skilled, and work like mad women, and do not make a buck to save their lives. The problem may be, that their primary wish is still not the money-making but to be loved, and they need the love of a man whose self-confidence relies on his ability to provide for the ultimate woman. So, you’re stuck in separation until you figure this out… Especially if you value your relationship over anything else.

You may also have a “side problem” something you focus on and blame as the primary problem while you work on your actual issue. The scapegoat is there so you don’t ruin the important relationship going after each other, but rather attack the punching bag, and only risk that relationship in process of figuring out your ideal solution to the real problem at hand.

Also, one might mention “You cannot come in between two lovers if there is no room between two lovers,” so if there is someone between you, you know there’s an issue between you that creates space for someone to mess with you.

I don’t know what might be your issue at hand, but know there is some dissonance in there. It doesn’t mean you don’t love each other, not at all, it just means you aren’t currently on the same page about what absolute relationship perfection looks like, and what is your ultimate relationship goal.

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