Other reasons for feeling like “you’re in the wrong gender”.

I do not dispute the idea that sometimes people authentically are born in the wrong body. I am a spiritual teacher, and I believe it is entirely possible that the soul desires to try out life in a different gender for a variety of reasons. To me, that thought doesn’t feel outrageous at all. However, what I do feel is outrageous, is the callous indifference used to diagnose people as transgender, and the levity at which some people are given gender reassignment surgery, which should NOT be treated as an easy run-of-the-mill process as it seems to be treated as depending on the provider.

I am not a qualified psychologist, but then again, it seems neither are some of the people working in this field so I’m going to give my two cents worth anyway, and give you or your loved one something to think about and run through your mind. Here are some alternative reasons why someone might want to transition into another gender.

Wish to fit in – the higher the price, the higher the reward, right?

The Normal Person*alities that I blog a lot about in this blog, may feel completely detached from everybody else if they have been born in a predominately the Savants* family; into too much liberty. The Savants* people are wonderful – I am one of them – but as parents to the Normal Person*teenager, they are a disaster. To be fair, the reverse is also true, and that’s where the overt freedom to transition comes from; the Savants*, and it is harming the dog-type. Here’s how.

A Normal Person* doesn’t have a fixed, inner personality type. They need a group to fit into, to finally figure out who they are. They need to be TOLD who and what they are, and the transgender community is happy to help them figure it out – only, they’d take on ANY identity at all to fit in. They could just as well be a cowboy, Indian, an artist, a… You name it. What they need more than anything is an adult who will give them structure, goals, and a way to live. This goes against EVERYTHING a Savants*ality believes in. Our type tries to LIBERATE, never obstruct or contain. This is a MASSIVE PROBLEM when it comes to the Normal Person*teenagers who have taken to the transgender community.

If they feel, further, that being “non-binary” doesn’t give them full membership in the trans community they may feel like they will pay any price to be fully accepted, including, but not limited to, having their genitals butchered for full membership.

Cure: Give them a hobby with as strict rules as possible, but lacking that, find them company that holds strong opinions about whatever topic. At this stage, almost any “ist” -group will do, except a group of feminists. Find the most opinionated family member for instance, and get the possible trans teen to spend time with that person, even if you didn’t agree with the family member’s opinions at all. If your teen forgets about being trans at this stage, you’re good. (More here.)

You might also put a new thought in their head: They’re a twin flame instead a transgendered person. (It may not be true but doesn’t require surgery.)

Too much admiration/respect toward one’s own gender.

Some kids may feel that they don’t truly do an honor to their own gender, and they feel like they are somewhat of a disgrace to it: Not masculine enough to have the right to call oneself a man, or not feminine enough to call oneself a female. They may feel that they need to transition away from their birth gender so that they don’t lower the mean average score of their own biological gender.

You might want to point out examples of feminine men and masculine women, who are still very much men or women according to their biology, and remind them that there’s so many ways to be male or female that no matter how much they may suck at it, their genitals give them the right to be whatever gender they were born as.

Body dysphoria may stem from this same thing and apparently resembles gender dysphoria to a tee; “I don’t add up. I’m not right.”

Biological males: Love for women.

Some biological male teens may feel in modern society that ANY sex with a woman is an assault on a woman or even women in general. Therefore, they don’t want to be responsible for being the person who has to “stab” a girl in that way. Heterosexual sex-negativity is at an all-time high, and this is one of the symptoms. He doesn’t want to be one of those men, so he wishes to transition into the gender he loves and adores; women, so he doesn’t have to be a danger to them.

Biological girls: Fear of men.

Along the same lines, some girls may have been brainwashed to fear men to the extent that they cannot interact with them without being one of them. That they feel so fearful and vulnerable that they need to transition and take testosterone just to feel they can protect themselves against this monster called “a man”.

The cure for this is to find some realism to the feminist man-loathing messages and to remind girls that the number of abusive men is tiny compared to the protective and nurturing men we see and meet and know every single day. But if you hang out at web communities focussed on abuse suffered by women in the hands of men, it warps your idea of reality and you start thinking “all men” are like this when truly, they are nothing of the sort.

Being polygynous or polyandrous.

Finally, there are men and women who naturally do not fit in with their own gender, without meaning they’re any more gay than they are trans. In fact, these girls and boys are 100% heterosexual unlike most people. This means their ENTIRE FOCUS is on the opposite gender; they love them, like them, identify with them, like to hang out with them, and are generally speaking much happier and comfortable hanging out with the opposite gender.

In the opposite, polygynous girls can feel a strong need to bond with other girls, and they may decide it would be easier to do if she was a he. She may feel that her interest in other women isn’t normal, while she doesn’t truly identify with being a lesbian, either. The same can be true for polyandrous men.

Polyandrous women are naturally inclined to form deep marriage-like bonds to several (polyandrous) men AT THE SAME TIME in a polygamous union, and polygynous men are naturally inclined to marry several (polygynous) women at the same time. This may not be a legally supported marriage (yet) but there are no laws against cohabitating with other consenting adults like this.

This final reason can also combine with some of the above ones quite easily.

Here’s a post category to all polyleaning posts I’ve written on this blog.

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