Others’ influence in your True Emotion Mirror relationship

It would be NICE if we could all trust that we will return to our True Emotion Mirrors when the time is right and the Universe aligns on its own. Although effectively this is how it goes, the Universe doesn’t align on its own in any other sense that we are all part of it and what we do will influence the Universe’s operations. Therefore, what you do about your relationships will have an impact on the outcome the same way as what others do to influence your relationship outcome.

Effectively, if you have incompatible friends they will stop you from having the relationships that you want… If they can. They will at least make it a lot harder for you to settle into your relationship, EVEN IF they tried to stop themselves from doing that. Even if they are someone like myself. 😀

Case study

A friend of mine, a male, has recently gotten himself into a very intense relationship. She seems totally possessive and gets my goat SO BAD. Everything she does drives me up a wall, I want to rip her head off. This is not because I’m jealous, although they both probably want to think that, but because it offends me that someone so different from me would be able to do what she does and get away with it… In general, not just with him, but in general. Women like that should be, if you ask me, shown the door and fast. FAST. Everyone who I’ve spoken to about it agrees, thankfully. She’s getting no support from anyone and that’s my only consolation. HOWEVER.

I KNOW I am not compatible with him, not truly even as friends. What I want for my life is so far removed from what he wants for his, that no matter what, each other’s relationships would always rub the other the wrong way. It is possible, that once I find my True Emotion Mirrors, he’ll be up in arms against us, even if he now seems mellow and non-concerned. Especially if I manage to break them up… He wouldn’t back down because I didn’t, right?

Keep your love a secret for as long as you KNOW what it is

No matter who you are… Once you find your True Emotion Mirror, (or any other partner who feels special or important,) it is best to keep it a secret from EVERYBODY ELSE for as long as you can… I don’t suggest you go into a distant log cabin with a person you just met online hoping it’ll turn into true love on the way there, but play it down to outsiders as much as you can, and avoid being seen with them where your friends and family go – and definitely do not introduce them to your friends and family until you’re rock-solid as a couple.

However, if you DO say something, emphasize the sexual side to people who understand sex, and emotional bond to those who understand emotion. Just talk about “an intellectual” connection to those who can accept that for a reason for such long times spent together… IF you have to speak of it at all. It is all of those things and more, but simply narrow it down to one thing: “It’s just sex”, or “it’s just that we have this emotional connection”. Make it sound like it’s a whim. It’ll pass.

And once you are bonded together solid, then become public.

BEFORE you even meet them

What makes it difficult for everyone to meet their True Emotion Mirror is the shame of who they are as a person. Who they love. What they want. What turns us on. This puts us into hiding.

This also means that we tend to make friends with the wrong people, and our family members are often not Precious Soulmates even though it would be ideal. Your circles are more than likely a mixed collection of Trail Companions*, Basal Principle Mirrors*, and perhaps one or two Precious Soulmates – if you’re lucky. This makes it so that we try to navigate this company with various shrouds and semi-lies, white lies, a little pretense, smoke, and mirrors. You don’t want to offend, shock, or worry people by being too different.

When we lie about who we are even a little, it will make it harder to BE the person your True Emotion Mirror loves effortlessly: yourself. And you pretend you’re someone else and Bob’s not your TrEmoR. 🙁

the Normal Person* and the Savants*

the Normal Person* also like this battle of a relationship as far as their idea of romance goes. They get full-on possessive over each other. Paranoid, even. They want to be fought over, tempers to flair between each other and others, and whether they are with a Savants* or the Normal Person*, they will always go in with all guns blazing. If their partner IS the Normal Person*, all is well. If they are a Savants*, they will either silently, slowly submit and lose who they are, or they will eventually snap out of it, decide it’s wrong and get out of the relationship on their own.

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