Part 2: Why do you suck at business so much?!

First, let’s accept realities. As much as we all love Tony Robbins (at least I do) let’s forget Get Up and Run, Make a Goal and Stick To It militant approach to it. Fuck. You tried it, and you ran out of steam in two days, if you lasted that long. Robbins and his like comes in later. We’re not there yet. First, we need to do some thinking, and we need to take the hurry out of the equation. Don’t worry, the thinking part doesn’t take that long, but it has to be done, and it has to be done right. And no. You won’t make money in the next… I don’t know. It entirely depends what happens during this next phase. You might find something that is so easy for you to do and implement, so right and so on the dot, that you won’t need me for the next part, or it might be something soooo difficult, that you have to accept that you will not make money for the next ten years and you’ll have to be prepared for that. But… Knowing what you truly want will cut the part where you avoid accepting what it is that you’re truly after, and that can save you decades. I kept avoiding this question for 15 years and had I gone there 15 years before…

We suck at business because we do not want to be a partial success or a success in the entirely wrong thing, so we self-sabotage.

How ambitious are you?

Now… How ambitious are you REALLY?

Did you lower your bar or raise it when I repeated the question? (Make note)

Are you telling yourself to aim higher or aim lower when someone questions your aptitude for business? We tend to do the opposite to what is authentic. If you’re really ambitious, you are likely to lower your bar: “OK, I would be happy with just…” and if you’re not that ambitious, you try to pep talk yourself into wanting something bigger. Now it’s time to get real. Your goal needs to be exactly as high as you truly want it to be. Not an inch higher, and not an inch lower. Nobody else gets to set this goal for you, only you can do it for yourself.

What is it that you want?

What gets you up in the morning?

Who do you envy?

Now, who do you REALLY envy, the guy who you envy so much you pretend to not even care for what he’s doing or you claim what he is doing is not right, is stupid or is not going to get him far. You know who I’m talking about? There. He’s the guy for you to beat in his own game… As soon as you pin point WHY exactly you hate him so much. (He gets to do what you want to do and gets away with it too, perhaps?)

Right now, you suck at everything. That is fine. That is simply a safety setting putting you into a neutral gear, because if you would run with your current plan, you’d find yourself in a situation where you don’t want to be (because you’re too good). Suck and be proud that you suck. Acknowledge that you suck. You will always self-sabotage for as long as you’re lying to yourself about your real goals.

Now… Remove all wish to fight your poverty – just for a moment – just feel small for a bit. Your friends have everything set up, all’s well and here’s you, being a loser. That’s fine. What is it that you’ve denied wanting all your life? Perhaps this is not even denial, maybe you’ve never noticed. Let’s talk about that, then:

Think of everything that you are obsessed about. Games? Movies? Music? Certain types of friendships that always suck you in even if you didn’t really want to be there? Certain relationships? What is it about those that tempt you so? Helping others? Being admired? Being needed? Thrill? Excitement? Community feel? Survival? Seeking deeper? Creating something? Protecting something? What is it that you love about people who you love?

Give this some serious thought when you have time. What is it that you need to be or do or achieve? Accept it humbly, even if the need was to rule the world. Perhaps download a Tarot app on your mobile. Use the cards like ink blot cards, don’t worry about the real meaning, just ask this question: “What is it that I love to do?” or “What is it that I can’t get enough of” and then look at (a random) card (one at a time) to allow your subconsciousness to get you closer and closer to the definite answer. (For Android: Galaxy Tarot (free, easy, not too gay, pro version available) for iPhone: Tarot Sampler seemed OK, free, I’m an Android girl, so I don’t know, for 4.99 there’s this other one, Tarot! that looks much better, but I am personally so stingy I wouldn’t pay for it until I know I want to keep using it. :D)

This is the part that “dare to dream” and “find your bliss” comes in. It is not always easy to even admit to what you want, because it might be something so completely foreign to your family’s culture or the culture of your friends, that you simply feel weird even wanting something so different. Fitting in is a strong instinct, but now it’s time to admit to your failure to be as expected. Humbly admit your failure of settling for less than what you want.

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