People don’t want their problems solved: They love their misery.

Don’t worry about it. Quit the guilt. More than anything, people with problems just want you to be the scapegoat so they can keep having their issues. You’re the excuse, not the reason.

Do you remember when the young soccer players, Wild Boars, got stuck in the flooded cave in Thailand? Do you remember Elon Musk offering a robot to go scope out the cave without putting anyone’s life at risk? They gave him a stinking no, saying something like, “you ain’t testing your gadgets here!” The truth is, probably, they didn’t want Elon Musk to get the credit for the rescue, to rain on their own parade – the decision wasn’t in the boy’s best interest, I don’t think. However, if they had accepted the offer logically, against their emotion, I am certain somebody would have subconsciously sabotaged the robot’s operation, blocking the cave’s tunnel. This would have given them a reason to hate Elon Musk and his “shitty equipment that is endangering these boys’ lives.”

No good deed goes unpunished.

People don’t like Elon Musk because he’s in danger of fixing everybody’s problems for them… And he keeps smiling and joking while doing it, like life was but a huge playground for him – that asshole. 😉

Another interesting part of the story of the Wild Boars is that one of the rescuers got stuck in the tunnel and died. I had an instant strong feeling that he didn’t think the boys would survive so he subconsciously sabotaged his own dive to make sure the public would understand that they actually did do everything in their power to rescue the boys. He wanted the public to see lives were lost in the attempt and that the reason why the boys died wasn’t that they were not brave enough to try as hard as they had to. It is the weirdest statement in history, but luckily, his death was in vain.

People love their misery and their struggles.

If you gave 10 000 dollars to a homeless person out of guilt, against your instinct, it’d be gone in the morning. He would squander it on his friends, buying futile things for everybody, maybe even a good thing or two, but by the morning, everybody would be still on the street, well-fed and well-drunk. The reason is that the money wouldn’t be enough to change everything, but it would put the responsibility of using it into the hands of the homeless person, and the last thing they want is responsibility. They want a scapegoat and unconditional love.

Only give when your heart and instinct compel you to when it feels like the most natural thing in the world to do. Otherwise, you run the risk of ruining people’s buzz.

Charity workers don’t want your money; they want your guilt.

Imagine giving money to a charity without the slightest bit of guilt or love attached to your gift. You just threw money into the cause like it didn’t mean anything to you. Do you think the charity would thank you?

They would not.

ONLY if you give it with genuine love and guilt and submission and praise for their work, they’ll thank you for it – at least if they still have work to do after your gift. If you’d fund the entire operation out of your own pocket, no matter how much love you’d put in, they’d still think you’re raining on their parade, not helping their cause.

Everything in this world is about emotion. Learn to tune into what feeling people truly want out of their lives and act accordingly.

And if you don’t want to be made into a scapegoat and you have the money to do so, buy the mothafuckers off the street, challenge them for the money: “Do you want the money, or do you want me to be the asshole, so you get to keep on camping?” Or just leave them there; up to you.

Struggle and misery gives people a sense of importance, strength, or attention.

The reason why people love to struggle are multiple. First of all, we equate valuable things with what is difficult to have. To heal this; just think of it this way: if you wouldn’t want it easy, why would you fight over it? Something like a trophy; it’s worthless without the struggle. Do you want it? What is it that it represents? Is there a better way to prove strength and competence?

Secondly, to survive whatever fate throws at you gives you a sense of strength and intractability.  Having that makes you feel safe.

Thirdly, and most annoyingly; struggle gives you attention through pity and compassion from others, and this can get addictive. It won’t HELP YOU, but it will get you what you want the most; a sense of importance to someone; someone cares about what you’re dealing with, and that means you’re not alone. All you have to do is to struggle more than anyone else.

The struggle will end once you’ve had quite enough of it.

People are not doomed to suffer forever. They’ll do it for as long as it holds their charm.

I am still currently living on a very tight budget (I’m contemplating whether I can afford purchases less than $5 without running out of money), but it’s a type of fun. I know my spirit is made of money. I AM rich beyond comprehension – I just don’t want my money yet. 15 years ago, I was a spirit-millionaire, before I got started with these theories. I was just talented and interesting. Currently, I’m a multi-billionaire in spirit. Writing these blogs has been like putting money in the bank for several lifetimes to come… Aaand you’ll still owe me…

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