People focus on people that make them happy and those who get in the way of that happiness.

Your attention and focus on things are divided between two groups: Things and people that bring you happiness, joy, and pleasure and those things and people who threaten it. Sometimes, people are confused about which group they belong in or which group is the threat and which is the promise.

Confusion over what is what.

For instance, I believe Ted Bundy killed off women he felt attracted to; they were a threat to his happy marriage. However, I also believe if he had managed to kill off all of the women he felt attracted to, I suspect his wife still wouldn’t have made him happy. He was confused about what his happiness was and what a threat to his happiness was.

There are people who are in love with you one-sidedly. They may feel that the people you’re attracted to are a threat to your happiness and that you, too, feel it. They may feel you are trying to make them go away by giving them attention when, in fact, you’re making yourself happy by observing them. Those people are confused about which group they belong in; the group of stuff and people that make you happy, or the people that get in the way of that happiness.

Why so angry?

Axl Rose sang in a Gunners’ song, Get In The Ring, “Why do you look at me when you hate me, why do you look at me when you make me hate you, too?” There are people who don’t understand why they are a threat to another person’s happiness when they could just go out, have fun, and enjoy themselves.

But it is easy to see why young Axl Rose was a threat to a lot of people’s happiness. There were many men, and women, for that matter, whose girlfriends would have preferred Axl, given the chance. People were confused about it: They’d always been told that women want nice guys, and there they were, screaming at the feet of a known bad boy. Therefore, the people who felt threatened by him would focus on him, trying to find something to hate and loathe about him so they could use it to change people’s idea of how alluring he actually is… He was completely unaware of how difficult it can be to just have fun, love, and fuck; he couldn’t understand why people had such an issue with him. :p

Well, maybe not that unaware, considering the lyrics continue: “… what are you pissed off because your dad gets more pussy than you, fuck you…”

Current day Feminists

There is attention on woke feminists, and they pay attention to stuff, right? There is hate toward feminists because their attitude makes it a lot harder for a lot of people to just be happy. A lot of feminists believe in the same oppression/submission strategy as the Young Soul* do: Suppress alternative ways of thinking, then there will be stability – but that has and will never work. The only way to achieve peace and happiness is to create enough space for everyone to thrive in, which is, oddly enough, another line of feminist thinking: “Just be anything at all.”

However, the permission to be anything at all is very confusing to a person who is looking for unconditional love; they believe being loved despite being a freak is the thing to thrive for. They also may settle for attention gained by being abrasive and obnoxious when nobody teaches them how to gain positive attention. Some feminists even make it a sign of “pandering to the patriarchy” to actually act in a manner that is lovable to others.

the Swans* feminists seem to feel that any happiness in men that doesn’t come from pleasing a woman is “bad behavior.”

Feminists focus their attention to anyone who shows love toward men. They see it as a threat to their pending domination that people would still encourage “bad behavior” in men. To some individuals that means anything deemed in some way “masculine” or pleasurable for men to take part in to be “bad.” They thrive for complete male surrender; a state of unhappiness in men, which, supposedly should bring the female all the joy and happiness in the world… Which, obviously it will not. They think male happiness stands in the way of female happiness – they believe it’s either them or us who are happy… Which is so foolish and stupid it makes a lot of people afraid for the future… Which, then, puts attention on those people as it’s a threat to future happiness – our own and the generations coming after us.

Is the attention on a (potential) source of happiness or a threat to that happiness?

What does attention mean, is the question? Full of hate and vitriol? You’re a threat of some kind. Full of love and admiration? Well. Lucky you. A mixture of both? A person who admires and hates you can, again, do it for opposite reasons. They mostly love you, but since there are things about your personality that make you incompatible with them, that means they hate and attack those things. Or, they love you and find some things they feel are there that authentically shouldn’t be there. They feel that someone who doesn’t quite love you fully has told you that you have to be this or think that, and eventually managed to convince you of it. They now want to restore you to your original self whom they love, and if this is real love, it feels very good to you.

People hate things and people who get in the way of their happiness and joy. Those who are a threat to it. We all hate people like Putin because he is a threat to everyone’s happiness – death, war, and oppression are never a good thing. Oppression gets in the way of a lot of people’s happiness and that makes them revolt.

Still, the Young Soul* tend to want to stabilize things by oppressing people, and that always fails in the end because oppression brings about unhappiness, and that brings upset and revolt. There will be people who think, “This is a good enough compromise,” and they want to agree to the state of oppression, but then, there are those whose genuine happiness requires a certain freedom to be there, and they will topple any oppression that comes their way. If people like that become an international threat to happiness… Well, there’s going to be a focus on them.

Unconditional love is nothing but a chance to impress later; akin to a loan at best.

People ignore those who are neither a threat to their happiness nor a potential source of it. And then, there are those people who don’t know how to be a potential source of happiness, so they’ll go for the second best thing; getting attention by being disruptive, destructive, obtrusive, and annoying to others. For anyone struggling; whatever you can do to make others’ life easier, more pleasant, entertaining, or amusing are people who are sources of happiness.

Stop going after unconditional love. It’s reserved for babies and toddlers who their parents are investing on with the expectation that once they grow up, they’ll be able to do something that will make their lives more pleasant. Unconditional love doesn’t exist. There’s only investments of love made. You level up to the expectation or you don’t. It’s a fool’s errand to run after unconditional love; the best you get is a chance to impress. You MUST be a positive, or you’ll be either ignored or attacked.

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