Phrases the Normal Person* understand very differently to the Savants*
When the Normal Person* says these phrases, they interpret them in a different way (as they hear them).
the Savants* says: “There’s nothing you can say or do.”
the Savants* means: “I have made up my mind and you cannot change my mind by saying or doing anything, even though I know you don’t want me to do what I’m about to do. (Because I want to do it and I don’t care how selfish it may sound to you.”
the Normal Person* hears: “My fate is sealed, you can’t help me. I am doomed.”
the Savants* says: “You’re not helping.”
the Savants* means: “You are making matters worse by interfering into these matters – you don’t understand what I’m trying to do, and you are simply ruining my work at the same time as you’re trying to help.”
the Normal Person* hears: “You are a bad person because you’re not trying hard enough.”
the Savants* says: “You have to let me go.”
the Savants* means: “I have made up my mind, I am leaving you. Our relationship is over. You have to let me go fall in love/make friends with someone else.”
the Normal Person* hears: “I am no good, I will never be good to you, you have to give up on me.”
“I love you.”
“I am taking/will take care of you.” (To the Normal Person*, love is not an emotion but an action.)
the Savants* says: “I don’t love you.”
the Savants* means: “I don’t feel the tender loving feeling in my heart that people call love for you. I know what the feeling feels like, but I do not feel it when it comes to you.”
the Normal Person* hears: “I am not taking good care of you, I am a bad person. Will you forgive me and let me try again?”)
the Savants* says: “You don’t love me.”
the Savants* means: “I know that when you look at me, you don’t feel that tender, warm feeling in your heart that we call love.”
the Normal Person* hears: “You are not taking good care of me.”
the Savants* says: “I don’t (really/even) know you.”
(When said to someone who a person should, technically, recognize.)
the Savants* means: “We have never truly spoken about anything of importance, I don’t know anything about you, your likes, dislikes, your personality, I may know your face, your name, your birth date, where you work, what you do, but I don’t truly know anything about your soul. We don’t have a connection, and we’ve known each other for so long already that I don’t truly think there is much of a chance of us getting to know each other – there’s really not much joy in our conversation.”
the Normal Person* hears: “I have lost my memory and can’t tell who you are.” (“I’m messing with you.”)
the Savants* says: “This is who I am.”
the Savants* means: “I know you are surprised/disappointed at this discovery of my (hidden?/the part of me that you don’t know) character, my interests, or likes and dislikes, but even though you weren’t aware of those things, it doesn’t mean I am the person you though I was. This is who I truly am.”
the Normal Person* hears: “I am no good, I can’t be helped, please give up on me. I am useless to you.”
the Savants* says: “I was born this way.”
the Savants* means: “You are insulting me by treating *my condition* as if it was an illness. It isn’t. It is also not temporary. It is not something I can or want to change. You need to show me some respect and back off.”
the Normal Person* hears: “I was born flawed, there’s nothing you can do to save me.”
the Savants* says: “I am a grown-up.” and “You must respect me/my choices.”
the Savants* means: “Listen, you can’t boss me around like I was a child anymore. I’m old enough to make my own decisions. This has nothing to do with you, and I ask nothing of you. You must back off and let me do what I am about to do, hold your tongue and keep your opinion to yourself.”
the Normal Person* hears: “I should be taking better care of you all because I’m this old, but I am useless.” / “You have to teach me how to take my place in this family, as I am old enough for the responsibility. You must respect me.” (“My choices”, in this context, to the Normal Person*, means “my commands”.)
the Savants* says: “Just do what you want.”
the Savants* means: “You don’t have to care for other people, just enjoy yourself, do what is important to you personally – things will work out. Go enjoy yourself. (As in, go fuck someone.)”
the Normal Person* hears: “Go break laws and rules, the more of a rebel you are, the more serious the rules you should break to prove the point.” (If Charles Manson said to his family of the Normal Person* to “do what they want” and “be witchy about it”, to his the Normal Person* followers, it would have sounded like a direct command to kill, especially after months of not praising them for a job (doing what you want) well done.)
the Normal Person* says: “Just do what you want.”
the Normal Person* means: “Get a nice job and marry someone decent. Buy some nice things for yourself.”
the Savants* says: “I have the right to do what I want.”
the Normal Person* hears: “I am the boss of you, you are worthless.”
the Savants* says: “I want to change the world.”
the Normal Person* hears: “I want to destroy the balance of this world for my own amusement.”
the Savants* says: “I am a genius.”
the Normal Person* hears: “There’s this flaw in me, my IQ is higher than yours, somehow, you need to help me lower my IQ.” (They regard a high IQ similarly to high blood pressure.)
the Savants* says: “I hate you.”
the Normal Person* hears: “I hate you for not loving me.”
the Savants* says: “You gotta do the right thing.”
the Normal Person* won’t understand what the right thing is unless it involves his/her direct family. To them, family always comes first, no matter what. “The right thing”, to the Normal Person*, can never mean “right thing by a stranger”.
the Savants* says: “Charity”
the Normal Person* hears: “Opportunity to show your friends that you know how rich people show off how much money they’ve got – so much they can throw it around like it meant nothing. Now, do the same.”
the Savants* says: “Friends”
the Savants* means: “People you enjoy the company of in deep conversations and fun had. People who have always treated you in a good way, who haven’t betrayed your trust, and who you can trust with your life if they’re good ones.”
the Normal Person* hears: “People who don’t say nasty things to you, who don’t probe for your secrets. People who are pleasant to be around.” “Good friends” mean “People who won’t retaliate when you fuck them over for sport, but instead will forgive you.” Petty friends who used to be cool (frenemies): “People who retaliate when you’ve fucked them over for sport. (And then you keep on doing this.)”
“Renewal”
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**) Narcissists are Young Souls left alone to survive and they're doing their best. Their emotional age ranges from 3 to 17 -year old. The younger, the more severe the narcissism.
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