Please work toward getting the self-confidence you need to do your thing without dragging others into it.

You are perfectly permitted to do whatever you need to do to make yourself happy, but your rights end where you need to start modifying others to fit your needs. You can DENY yourself from others, and they can feel that’s disappointing, but you don’t get to force yourself on other people and their lives, and you do not get to force change in others. The only thing you can force onto others is your refusal to play along with them and to force them to accept that—passive resistence.

You need to have the self-confidence you need to be who you are without forcing others to change so they can validate your choices. Suppose you need to have a box of cookies or a bucket of chicken wings if you want to, but don’t ask a fitness enthusiast to join you. Even if they judge you, eat it. Even if the people with a bucket of chicken wings in their lap judge you for “being shallow” or “being obsessed with your looks,” go join the gym. It’s not their business. Do your thing. Whatever you WANT TO do.

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