Polygynist male vs. Polyandrist male.
Polygynist man: a man whose natural wish is to be married to several women. (Or live in as close to a marriage-like situation of that description as possible.)
Polyandrist man: a man whose natural wish is to be married to one woman who has several husbands. (Or live in as close to a marriage-like situation of that description as possible.)
(In addition, there are also polygynandrist men and, theoretically, monogamous men, but I’m not sure either monogamist women or men truly exist… but let’s just assume for the sake of argument that they exist. Whatever true monogamists are, they are exceedingly rare, regardless of the fact a lot of people manage to successfully live a monogamist lifestyle from cot to grave.)
There is a lot of detail in this post and I’ve only scratched the surface. If you feel I haven’t said it all, please try to reverse the gender roles basically polyandrist man = polygynist woman, polyandrist woman = polyandrist man, see if that lights a light bulb. The moral of this post is to NEVER judge men or women for anything they do sexually speaking; you’ll be judging your true love as you do it… But in reverse. (We will, because we’re hard-wired, but at least logically remember we’re all that we are.)
Polyandry is polygyny reversed.
Polyandrists and polygynists have a certain natural disdain toward each other. Basically, they do everything wrong; their men act like women, their women act like men, and what “good men” and “good women” genuinely mean to them is the opposite. Polyandrist men love sluts, and polygynist men genuinely abhor them. (Polyandrist men can be trained to hate sluts, too, but their hate is learned.) Polygynist men genuinely love and admire women, polyandrist men have trouble respecting women in the intellectual and professional sense in particular.
Men and women of all types tend to describe what men and women are like as a unified mass of people. However, when we speak of “women” we tend to mean polygynist women, and when we speak of “men”, we tend to speak of polyandrist men, who are both “problematic” to the majority of the opposite gender, and the majority of their own genders. They do not, however, represent all members of their own gender.
Polyandrist men are protective and loving and feel a deep nurturing love for their children, just like polygynist women do. Polygynist men are much more focussed on their wife(s) than their children, just like polyandrist women are more focused on their husband(s) than their children.
Polygynist men are faithful to all women.
The polygynist man is the quintessential male feminist. To a polygynist man, women are a sacred thing that requires protection from the crude and awful polyandrist man. A polyandrist woman feels the exact same way about men – and is the loud anti-feminist campaigner and men’s rights activist female. In everything, you can reverse the gender roles and find the opposite in there. If you judge one type for “being wrong” just look at the men and women of the opposite type and you’ll find they’re doing the exact same thing in reversed gender roles.
Polyandrist men are seeking for that one perfect unicorn of a woman – and they tend to find her in one person… Marilyn Monroe, maybe, Kim Kardashian, maybe, (not her sisters, by the way, just Kim!) There is that one rare female that polyandrist men are naturally drawn to – a polyandrist woman. They may, of course, find that woman in their social circles, but the trouble is, they tend to all fall in love with the same individual female, which leads to the situation that polyandrist men tend to opt into marrying someone less desired, simply to avoid drama with other polyandrist men scooting around the one they all want.
Polygynist men may suffer from self-loathing here. Their love for women is genuine, and they basically want to rescue all of them from all other men. Their protectiveness over women is genuine, but so is their ability to scar them in a society that expects people to remain monogamous and focused on one person only. This is not a natural way of being to the majority of people, and the alternative to it is not promiscuity. Polygynist men suffer from having to choose one over the other, and polyandrist women feel the same way about men. Their only “chance” of feeling like a monogamist is to be soul-destroyingly removed from their True Emotion Mirrors, more than likely ALL OF THEM, who also suffer from the absence of their True Emotion Mirror (the one(s).)
Polyandrist men cannot find happiness with polygynist women, any more than polygynist men can find happiness with polyandrist women. Polygynist women seem to find happiness in relationships to even polyandrist women, who do not feel the same way about that relationship, and polyandrist men may feel attached and close to a polygynist man who don’t feel the same way about that connection and cannot be fulfilled by it. Polygynist men and polyandrist women feel isolated and alone without their True Emotion Mirror counterparts of the opposite gender, whereas polyandrist men and polygynist women feel isolated without True Emotion Mirror members of their own gender around.
A polyandrist man cannot truly divide his attention between two women.
When a polyandrist man falls in love, he only ever loves one woman at a time. His ability to divide attention between two women is in-built. Alternatively, his attention is very fleeting on women in general, and he may only see them as sexual commodities and perhaps see one of them as a vessel to his children and a caretaker of his offspring. (Don’t judge; polygynist women in the same position see her in-focus-man as a financial/security commodity and a sperm donor or see all men as financial providers, rather than real human beings.)
A polyandrist man will always sift his focus from one woman to the next until he “finds gold”. Their behavior may resemble that of a polygynist man on the surface to a very distracting degree, and it may be impossible to tell from the outside how any individual man who behaves outwardly the same truly feels about women.
A polyandrist man is (subconsciously) looking for a woman worth sharing with other men; a woman who he’d be so taken by, that he’d gladly share her with men he respects. His focus is on women who HIS FRIENDS could respect, too. (Polygynist women do the same in reverse.)
Polygynist men fall in love all the time; maybe fleetingly, but they are constantly in love with several women at the same time, ESPECIALLY if they have given themselves permission to be. Their single life would have been full of exciting sexual experiences, but past 30, they’ll find it very difficult to find a way to settle down. Many polygynist men will, however, not give themselves permission to love multiple women simultaneously, but use various strategies to avoid falling in love with women ALL THE TIME. They may friend zone women to keep themselves from harming them by loving other women, too, but enable themselves to spend as much time as possible with them, and only occasionally “fall for the temptation” maybe.
Both polygynist men and polyandrist women face the same problem: they genuinely love the opposite gender, but cannot truly just pick one. In their monogamist state, they are “lucky” if they have just one big favorite.
Polyandrist men, however, feel lucky if they have found one woman who they truly feel respect for. The polyandrist men’s primary drive is to find a woman they can genuinely respect as their intellectual equal, and they are struggling to do that. Once they find a woman they can truly respect as an intellectual equal – or even a close facsimile – they will feel the urge to marry her, as finding another one would be a pain in the arse.
Promiscuous polyandrist men and polygynist men.
When a polyandrist man is sleeping around with a lot of women, his motivation is not that he’s constantly falling in love with women – although he may be trying to. He may feel an emotional disconnect from his women, and seek that enthralling mind-blowing connection he feels toward a polyandrist woman. He may feel genuine disrespect toward women as people, and use them as sexual objects quite shamelessly. If he CAN BE shamed about it, he may find the words of a polygynist man to excuse his behavior without actually meaning a word of it: “I just love women, I love love, I cannot choose between one woman and another” when truthfully, he can’t maintain his focus on any single one of these women outside the bedroom.
A polygynist man, on the other hand, if he allows himself to be polyamorous, will find it easy to connect emotionally to almost any woman, but may find it impossible to keep himself from falling truly in love with his lovers, if he’s officially married, and even harder to stop his women from falling for him. (The same problem that a polyandrist woman in the same shoes would have.)
A polyandrous man who takes up a polyamorous lifestyle will struggle to NOT sift his focus completely to one woman again, and may have to compartmentalize heavily to stay in love with his official partner (if he has one) and may resort to physical loyalty (doing the housework, etc.) while being truly emotionally and sexually connected to one woman only.
The polyandrist man’s interest in women is highly sexually driven compared to that of a polygynist man’s focus. A polygynist feels genuine love and brotherly care toward several or all women as a whole and has trouble focussing on just one, (and can merely find a favorite or favorites) but a polyandrist man finds it difficult to genuinely love and respect most women, and keeps looking for that one special individual he can share with his friends.
Polyandrist man’s halo-polishing mode.
A polyandrist man feels like he’s a good guy. After all, he’s not really a skirt-chaser, he finds it even difficult to focus on a woman long enough to have a one-night stand with one, and unless he feels it to be INSANELY EASY to sleep with multiple women, he can rarely muster up the energy to do so. The older he gets, the less enthusiastic he feels about the prospect of finding an intelligent woman to love and respect. But that’s what he wants; an emotional, intellectual connection to a woman, but finds it difficult to find women he actually genuinely respects. Having said that, he feels he is a good guy (and he is) so he may feel it necessary to emphasize his halo a bit more than what is authentic, considering his marriage may have not lasted, and he finds it increasingly less exciting to even TRY to find a woman worth loving.
In a modern #MeToo “women are champions” -era, a polyandrist man may choose to emphasize his good guy status by going the extra mile in his pretense of respecting women and namely their Intelligence and talent. Polyandrist respect means “I find you capable of intelligent action”, but in a polygynist world, “respect” means “I will not treat you as a sexual object”. Therefore, a polyandrist man will go out of his way to give women chances to prove she’s his equal and will brainwash himself to see her as such. (I will say this without shame, as polyandrist women will be chuckling and laughing right now, as they feel the exact same way about their fellow females, and struggle not to be outwardly disrespectful of them, too.)
A polyandrist man might be parroting feminist viewpoints, too, with the genuine emphasis of… well, a parrot, but there’s no need to fall for it. He is what he is and his genuine lovers are just as bad.
Polygynist man’s halo-polishing mode.
A polygynist man can sometimes borrow his halo polish to a polyandrist, too. A polygynist man feels a GENUINE regret for all the women he’s hurt in his lifetime, as he never wanted to hurt one single one of them, but he keeps falling in love with them like there’d be something wrong with his knees. A little love, a lot of love, doesn’t matter to him, as long as there’s a woman in need of masculine love and care. Now. All this comes at a cost; how do you explain…
One strategy is the “I simply love women and this is the way I am; I see them as birth-giving goddesses, sublime sexual lovers…” Oh, you know. You get the idea. I’m a polyandrist woman and I’m gagging. A polyandrist man in a promiscuous mode can take that and run with it, and parrot it to the last day of his life, but won’t mean a word of it. A polygynist man, even though it sounds like an excuse in a monogamous society really means it. He DOES love women and can’t help it. He’s there, next to them, at a feminist rally, without an ounce of hypocrisy unlike his polyandrist male friend reciting halo-polishing poetry.
It is EASY in today’s world for a polygynist man to polish his halo. He can turn polyamorous and a feminist, and be done with most critique in his life. The problem being that he will find it difficult to settle down and start a traditional marriage, and he’ll always be conflicted about his need to rescue women from awful polyandrist men and stay faithful to just one.
Polygynist man’s sex appeal rises the more women love him.
A polygynist man feels a rise in his sex appeal as more women love him. While the same thing is true for a popular polyandrist man, a polyandrist man won’t find polyandrist women to be ANY MORE interested in him without the popularity than with the popularity. A polyandrous woman may well fall in love with a celebrity polyandrist, but she’d love him just the same if he was a regular nobody – a polygynist woman, however, feels sexually aroused by the popularity other women show toward a man…
And polyandrist men are the same way; the higher her popularity among men is, the more he wants her. The only thing stopping him is (past life) experience of being married to a woman all other men want. Of course, a polygynist woman will feel the same way, and may gladly marry a less popular man than what she genuinely wants, simply to be able to relax about TOO MANY women being after her genuinely loved husband. (See the part about jealousy for more detail.)
Polygynist love vs. polyandrist love.
Polygynists and polyandrists love differently. While the action is basically the same, the ignition of love is different. And mind you, in some sense, the same exact words could be used of both types, I’m sure, and it is hard to pin the difference into words, while the emotion of love between polygynists and polyandrists is vastly different. Polygynists, both men, and women have a ‘passive’ love toward each other. They don’t truly require intellectual conversations to drive their love, they don’t seek to admire each other’s talent or knowledge as the polyandrist men and women do. Polyandrists’ love is VERY intellectual, sapioamorist if you will. They love each other’s abilities, talent, skill, and each other’s “flare”. Polyandrist love is active, out-of-the-home-work-based, whereas polygynist love is at-home, inbound, and family-oriented. (Even when polyandrists would work from home, they have an “outreach”. Polygynists would gladly cut everyone else out of their world.
To be fair, both polygynist and polyandrist types would probably thrive in massive polygynists only and polyandrists only -communities, where multiple families would be free to interact without the jarring interruption of the opposite type. (Polygynandrists would probably feel a relief to see the back of the troublesome polygynists and polyandrists, too, whose problems make 0 sense to them… Polygynandrists that, to me, as a polyandrist have so few problems they are deathly boring to me. 😉 Their main problem is that they can’t keep it in their pants, but since both males and females feel the same way, they don’t even have the problem of jealousy to deal with. Shall we?)
Polygynist, polygynandrist, and polyandrist jealousy.
Polygynist women are a jealous buch. Polyandrist men are greatly driven by jealousy and ambition. Polygynist men are not the least bit jealous (but can get worried if a “bad man” is after a woman he cares for). Polyandrist women are equally non-jealous, but get worried… Polygynandrist men and women cannot understand what the fuss is about at all. They are the natural polyamorists, who would just gladly see all possessiveness to go away. The problem with that is this: Polyandrist men and polygynist women get turned on by their jealousy, and they WANT TO see their partner as someone other members of their gender would steal from them if they don’t watch them like a hawk. They tell themselves stories about their “cheating partner” even if they’re not cheating because that literally turns them on – or they are deathly afraid of their partner cheating on them if they are genuinely in love with their partner. The reason is this:
A polyandrist man who is married to their polyandrist True Emotion Mirror is under CONSTANT bombardment from the men he loves the most who are genuinely, helplessly falling in love with his wife. His friends can’t help it, his wife can’t help it, and it is rife for disaster. He’s always looking over his shoulder to see who is after his wife. As he’s in love with her genuinely, he understands what the other men see in her, and he can’t exactly blame them for feeling this way; and if they are their mutual True Emotion Mirrors, he can’t truly hate these men, either, and he is in a constant emotional turmoil over the pressure of being married to the woman every other man in town also wants to marry. Very stressful, and very taxing even if his wife was technically faithful to him, he always feels “it’s just a matter of time when a man who is better than me finds her”.
If he ISN’T truly in love with his wife, then he has a few more options to play with. And that comes out as fake jealousy. He yearns for a woman he cannot control, so he makes up stories in his mind about a woman who fucks around. He LOVES it. He may ramp up his jealous feelings just to get a hard-on for an average woman, and thoroughly enjoy the promiscuity of a woman he’s not truly in love with.
And, again, a polygynist woman is the same as a polyandrist man in reverse; she’ll tell herself stories about him cheating on her, too… Because she doesn’t want to think she’d be married to a man no other woman wants for herself.
The way this should go is that polyandrist men are married to their absolute superstar polyandrist woman, who they can playfully compete over while never fearing losing her completely. The more they love the sensation of being out of control of her, the more partners she should have, while none of them should feel an ounce of guilt about it.
Polygynous men should be in a relationship with as many women as they feel their sex appeal can handle: Polygynist women feel sexier the more sexy their rivals are, and the “higher the quality” of their men’s women are.
Polygynandrist variations exist.
Polyandrous women are like polygynous men.
Polyandrous women and polygynous men share the same level of self-confidence; they get their kicks from “me against all other members of my own gender”. They thrive to be the fuck of the lifetime of their sex partners – and they know how surprisingly simple that can be. Usually, people are not sexual athletes or enjoy too much technical complication, in truth, most people just like a simple fuck, if you catch my meaning, and polyandrous women and polygynous men know exactly how to give their sex partners what they want; sexual love; even if it’s simply love for their gender.
Both polyandrous women and polygynous men thrive to truly understand and see what the opposite gender wants and needs, and the more confident they are that they’ve found the answer, the less they want to “make it easier for themselves” by allowing rival lovers into their soup. The better you are, the more you can handle… And the more the opposite gender appreciates them, the less they want to allow other men or other women into the mix, either, just to see how far they can stretch their chosen one.
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