Quick Self-Improvement Tip: How do I find myself when I really want to be THEM?

When looking for ourselves, we are often bombarded with ideas of who we are supposed to be and what we are supposed to do to get there. There is however a very simple method of finding out who you truly are. This is the coolest thing: Whenever you admire someone else for something that they are, this means you see something in them that you want to be. And we always want to be what we are, so, if you see someone be what you want to be, this  means they reflect a part of you. Let’s take Steven Tyler for example. (Yeah, yeah I’m a huge fan, I should stop using Aerosmith as a guinea pigs for my spiritual studies, but I won’t. 😀 ) Yeah, so young Steven Tyler was mimicking Mick Jagger from the Rolling Stones, and managed to get away with that too – he turned a bunch of Jagger fans into a screaming frenzy once driving past shouting at a crowd with a British accent. (That rascal!) His admiration of Mick Jagger did make him think that he’s faking it until he makes it, but in fact he already was a rock star, but he just didn’t know it yet. This is how admiration works: “I see in you something that I need to be.” Unfortunately that is often where we stop when we should start digging deeper to find where all that will lead us… Even if it was a ridiculous goal of becoming a rock star. :p

(The opposite is also true: you dislike something about someone, and you know you don’t like that. This also often means you see something you may see in yourself, but something that you certainly don’t want to adopt into your being or want to rid yourself from it. It doesn’t mean that this is what you ARE, something you don’t want to be, and thus, are not anymore or won’t become it.)

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