Realism in relationships makes you a lot less vulnerable for emotional hurt, but you have to learn to play your way through meaningless drama.

Some people enjoy the drama of emotional hurt. Some people hide behind the drama and enjoy the drama even when the relationship breakup and troubles are real. These people like to “feel big” by replacing real emotions with empty drama because drama is meaningless. Nobody really gets hurt during drama.

However, if you see drama for what it truly is…. Basically just bullshit, you don’t really enjoy it that much. You see the real issues behind the drama – lack of real emotion, stupidity, selfishness, superficial attitudes, all that, and you don’t have patience for drama.

Often people play up on their emotions because they trust drama to be just drama. Your friendship is solid; your marriage is solid, and SURELY, they’re not really leaving you. And when your only relationship strategy is avoiding reality, you miss a lot of obvious signs of what’s going on but get a lot of drama to make you think you’re really living.

Keeping your eyes open may not make you happy, per se. It’s just saves you from the drama. Then again, when you are caught up in drama, you might as well come up with a scenario to play the drama to your advantage. Maybe you can sometimes close your eyes on purpose… Temporarily. Squint, at least.

Because the emotional hurt that comes from having your eyes open when others are just about drama is the fact you get stuck on drama, and you’ll start avoiding relationships over your hate of drama. And… You know… I don’t mind if they get hurt in the process. It’s their game, after all. Too bad if you become better at it than they are.

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