Reasons for infidelity and commitment phobia based on their natural alignment

First, I want to stress that all reasons maybe present in all genders, but I will list them as they are gender-typical rather than gender specific. Also, there are variations and other situations involved, of course, enough for an entire book, but here’s some.

Gynephile male (Male who is emotionally attracted to women and feels weird around most other men):

Will find it difficult to choose between several women that he genuinely loves. He finds connecting with women very easy, will understand the way they think and feel, and finds it incredibly difficult to leave a connection behind when he finds a new one, or completely commit to the new one because he is still emotionally attached to the previous one(s). Women complain that he is incredibly two-faced and can lie right in your face, but that is not what is happening, he genuinely loves women, and cannot bare the thought of leaving one behind. He will also easily fall in love with his girlfriend’s best friend, who, of course, was first introduced to him “to bond with because she is my everything”. (These girls should both or all be his “wives”:) His natural mode is to form a permanent, committed relationship to several women at the same time, preferably women who also feel deeply connected to each other; a mode in which he will be the happiest.

As a husband, like all men, the gynephile man CAN BE very loyal, however, but he will be fighting every instinct he has in order to stay loyal to her wife. If his personal value includes staying loyal, he will stick to his promises, whether or not he falls in love with another woman, even when he is less attracted to his own wife than someone else. (This is due to very strong societal pressure to do so.)

He feels guilty for having too soft heart for other women, and finding himself the trustee of other women, and eventually running the risk of falling in love with them. A gynephile man who is more in touch with and more accepting of his authentic self, cheating is not sexual, it is emotionally driven. He NEEDS TO give himself to other women because he can’t deny himself from a woman who needs him.

Androphile male (a male who is emotionally attracted to other men and feels weird and left out among women.):

An Androphile male feels detached from women, their problems and the way that they think. He finds it hard to respect women (truly, meaning he doesn’t like the issues that they consider “issues” and he feels the women are making life too difficult for themselves and him when the problems are not real problems). He doesn’t find discussions with women inspiring but tiring, and always longs for male company, however, he maybe carrying a torch for one girl for his entire life, but keeps away from her knowing there’s always another man around the corner for her.

An androphile man, as a husband, has two options: He might have married his authentic partner (True Emotion Mirror) and if this is the case, he will always be a nervous husband, looking for signs of infidelity, and will most likely drive himself insane looking for them. He may cheat on his wife “just in case” because he feels she has done so, too, which is most likely not true, because she is very accustomed to fighting these urges and won’t explain them away as “the one” or “I’d never do this otherwise”. (Read below the androphile female.) He might have also married a Trail Companion* because his natural partner is unavailable, in which case, he will perform his duty to his wife until that becomes unbearable and he divorces her. It is unlikely for an androphile man to be carrying on affairs behind his wife’s back, but is likely to be emotionally attached to someone else.

He feels guilty for having feelings for another woman, or ashamed for his inability to satisfy his wife and her sexual needs, or feeling turned on about the idea of sharing his wife with other men.

Biphile male and female, both (haha for the term, right?) (A person who is emotionally equally drawn to men and women):

Most likely has a group of very tightly bonded friends, both men and women, who he feels difficult to stay away from, like they do from him. Now, there’s several ways that this may turn out; this group maybe always sleeping around within the group, and find it difficult to stay out of each other’s beds, continually hurting each others feelings for the continual disloyalty and their mutual affliction of “sleeping with your her/his best friends”! The other variation is that they’ve made a pact to NEVER sleep with the members of their group and try and find partners outside of it in order to keep the jealousy within the group from tearing these friends apart. Their natural way of forming a commitment would be to each other, and to learn to share!

When married, these biphile men and women are very likely to be sleeping around on each other, too, and use that as a way of “getting under each other’s skin”, to make the sex between each other super hot.

They feel guilty or ashamed for being unable to stay loyal, but are convinced that “everyone cheats”.

Gynephile female (A woman who is emotionally attracted to other women; her best friend(s) are women and she feels weird around a group of men, and can only relate to men as sexual objects):

She regards her friends (or female relatives) her first loves, and her men are always second to the throne. The husband, if he is an unnatural connection (Trail Companion*), feels he is always being pushed away from his own family, because she makes decisions with her friends and female family members and the husband simply has to follow orders, including decisions concerning their mutual children. Clearly the husband has more than enough reasons to stray right there, but the reason why she might stray is upon discovering her authentic partner, who belongs to the gynephile male -group and is most likely unavailable to make a permanent commitment to her and her children.

If she married her natural partner (True Emotion Mirror) she will find it difficult to trust him in a marriage. She is unlikely to cheat on her natural partner unless she wants to get back at him (revenge sex), and, also, she is turned on by him cheating on her, and this often saves the marriage rather than breaks it. (She suddenly feels other women are into her man, as well, and that is sexy to her.)

She feels ashamed for finding it sexy that other women might be sleeping with her husband, and will fight this emotion with anger towards cheaters.

Androphile female (a woman who is emotionally attracted to men, and feels it difficult to understand other women, and who feels weird around other women.):

She will find it difficult to form a permanent relationship due to her natural partners avoidance of her; deep down the men know that she will always have another man right around the corner, and in self-preservation, they avoid forming a deep connection to her. She will find it easy to find a partner, however, because all men feel at ease with her, however, she will not feel satisfied with the men who will approach her without fear; they are not seeing her in the same light as her natural partners do; a magical being. (The same doesn’t seem to be quite as common with gynephile men, who suffer from societally installed suspicion, and are, thus, more relatable; sure he has his flaws, women find it easy to believe “he’s real”, a cheat, but real… Men are not allowed to think “a whore” about a woman, but subconsciously, that very thought drives them away.) An Androphile woman will find it VERY DIFFICULT to actually cheat on a man, but will be emotionally unfaithful ALL THE TIME, and with all of her men, until a polyandrous relationship has been formed. An Androphile woman will, however, find it only normal to be sexually promiscuous when no promises has been made, because she believes, based on stereotypical belief that all men are promiscuous by nature or would want to be) that all men would love the fact she is not trying to tie them down, just as she expects them to not do to her. She will also never assume her men to be loyal to her, until promises has been made, after which, she expects them to hold just as she expects her promise to hold. Unwittingly, she is breaking hearts in this phase, and, she will most likely break up multiple relationships in her lifetime – but she will not cheat, at least not for long, she will simply leave the relationship when she finds herself cheating, unless she is able to end the side relationship short – she will not keep it up for long because respect and honesty are high values among masculine people. They also regard cheating as the ultimate form of betrayal, and will not forgive easily, and when cheated on, they most likely leave the relationship instantly or agree to an open marriage but intimacy between the spouses will end.

She feels guilty for loving too many men and feeling sexually tempted by other men, but when she learns to accept her authentic self, she will find it difficult to deny herself from men who need her love and sexuality.

Did anything of this feel instantly sexy to you? 😉

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