Rewire your brain for a sexy wife
Dear men, I am going to take this opportunity to chew your ears off in the nicest way it’s ever been chewed up. In a rather sexy way, and it’s okay to get turned on. It’s kind of the point of this article, so never mind my modesty.
Okay. This is the thing. I am not even going to bother trying to prove that we reincarnate. It’s a fact I have no desire to start arguing about, but it is important that you take this into account as you read this post.
We’ve learned to love and fuck a certain way in our previous lifetimes. We’ve learned to like it a certain way.
Back in the day, when puritanist views about sex were upheld even more so than now, people started to equate “honor” with the lack of sex and “dishonor” with the presence of sex. This has caused enormous harm to sexuality and love and true sexual love.
Women are “not interested” in sex
What I think causes this problem is the idea that all people are heterosexual monogamists. This will make sense in a jiffy if you read this post, for example. To make a long story short, however, a large number of women are not heterosexual but bisexual, leaning towards lesbianism.
What this means is that marriages were formed between essentially lesbian (bi) women and heterosexual (bi) men. (Bisexual men who lean towards homosexuality tend to choose to live in a monogamous gay relationship, but the same seems not to be true for women, by my gut feeling only.) These women were and are not sexually turned on by most men. Because of this, it was assumed that women don’t have sexual feelings at all. People took it as being normal they weren’t into it. Is it any wonder women started to rebel against sex with their husbands and start coiling away from it?
To fix it, women started to desexualize marriages
To combat this must of tolerating a man in their bed, women needed to start rearranging the way marriages were viewed and to make them as non-sexual as possible. They replaced true sexual love with honor, respect, and physical security. Truly, they should have left the marriage and formed lesbian communities, but… I must say that would have been quite a lot to ask.
The heterosexual women, to whom sex was a natural part of love, tended to fall for a guy, NOT wait for marriage (because nature was so strong,) fall pregnant out of wedlock, be cast out of favor, and often wind up prostitutes. Where sex is, there is dishonor, but what we now, in 2017 should start to understand is that where there’s true love, there is sex. Where there is pure desire, there is pure love.
Marriage is the number one killer of true love
This is because too many people equate marriage as “the sex free zone”. Not all people, mind you, just too many. Too many people think wanting no sex means “ready for a commitment” or respect. A lot of people get married with the full expectation the desire will last, while the other starts to deliberately avoid sex “in order to respect the love/marriage”.
It is no wonder men avoid marrying the women they feel truly in love with! They KNOW, by their instinct, that marriage is a covenant like designed to kill true love. They’d rather keep loving her than to marry her and hope it’ll last.
It won’t last unless you rewire your thinking.
Dirty sex is a part of true love
To love someone fully is to love someone fully. This means NO EDITING. To love someone truly, fully, is to also love their sexuality, for their sexuality. If you cannot love them for their sexuality, this is not true love, or you’re not allowing yourself to feel it fully.
The kinkier we feel we are as people, the more we need acceptance and love for those kinks. To be loved fully is to be known fully, and still be loved… AND fucked. Not just accepted or approved of, but fucked! “I love how your mind works. I love how you think… Fuck you’re making me hard…”
If you do not love her sexuality, you do not love her. (This includes the bisexual polygynists, of course, you may love them for their bisexuality and be turned on by it, and that’s cool. But if that’s not your cup of tea, as simply by numbers, the men who get turned on by fucking the same woman as their friend(s) fuck, is a majority. Check that link I gave you above.)
And don’t get me wrong, I do not blame you for having shut it off. It’s a result of centuries of conditioning.
A little story from a past life
Now… As a heterosexual woman, I MUST tell you something about the old time’s prostitutes, because I was one. I’ve owned several brothels in my previous lifetimes. This is most likely quite a common story for heterosexual women, particularly the polyandrist variety. It’s also likely that their polyandry is a result of having been a prostitute more often than the average girl.
In my past life memories, I remember the men seeking sanctuary in my ‘house’. They didn’t always come in for a fuck, they came in to talk in peace. They wanted to be free to be who they were and to sit around with their friends having a good chat. My patrons shielded themselves from the mundanity that they called ‘a marriage’ and sought solace with me and my girls. (I always loved to run the show.)
A little unnecessary detail.
My men, my clients, were never directly charged. This was my house rule. There was always a girl at the door looking decidedly pitiful so that the gentlemen who were leaving wouldn’t forget to contribute to the house’s finances.
“Give some of this to X” they would say as they pass, giving the name of the girl they had been with. “And here’s something for the house.” They were, essentially, our husbands. The love was there, they took care of us, they made sure we were safe. Some would have rushed to us before their wives should a danger like a bombing occur.
We knew their secrets. They trusted us with their worries, their business troubles, their political dilemmas. The only thing that they didn’t give was their name and the expectation for us to cook and clean for them, listen to their mothers’ endless talk about embroidery, and raise their babies for them… And we didn’t exactly mind. We had the good half of the deal.
And one of them was waiting for me to lose my looks so he could marry me. He told me, in spirit, he always felt he needed to let other men trash me so he would be the only one left who still wanted me.
To combine being a wife to being the whore
I must say that us former life prostitutes have a hard time combining the idea of being a wife with being the whore, too. Although I’ve been both a whore and a wife in a previous life, it’s always been a little weird. There were jealousy attacks, trust issues, there was always another man in between… Because I was also a polyandrist – always in love with more than one man at a time, or there was always another man wishing I was.
In my case, I needed to accept I was a polyandrist, and that to have everything I ever wanted, I also had to accept the fact I loved more men than one. That if I insisted on staying monogamous, that would mean my men would have to take turns and marry me one after the other. In previous lifetimes, this meant they had to die in order to make room for the next man – who they loved like a brother or a lover.
I buried almost an equal amount of men that I married. And although this drama felt so succulent and sexy to a karmic female soulmate of mine who couldn’t wait but to cause deaths on my men, I had had enough. The last time I’ve been married to my true love ended with him shooting himself in the head to let me marry another man, and me taking cyanide to end my miserable life – he made me a third time widow. And I decided, no more. I’ll never bury another man again – and I had to understand a few things about myself to make that a reality.
Whatever rocks your boat…
Whatever crazy s*** you’re into, so is your true love(s). You can simply take that as a logical equation; if you like this, your true love, naturally, has to love it too. If they don’t, they’re the wrong person. Your true love may not KNOW they’re into it yet, so you may sometimes have to open it up for them, but they’ll take to it like fish to water if it’s their thing.
How you combine this with the idea of “a wife” is another matter. Here’s a million dollar clue though: You don’t need to follow a pattern. Our love is our love, and what we do with it is our business. You have to define your relationship with your love, not by a book or by some other woman’s idea of what is right or wrong.
And let me tell you though, there are a lot of women more than willing to fill your head with bullshit about them knowing better what you should or should not do in your relationship… And why? Because they fear it. They want the whole thing to go away so they don’t have to deal with their own emotional issues and their own sexuality. The rationale is, that if they can talk all men into a state of emotional castration, they’d be happy.
A straight girl won’t feel “loved” or “respected” if you keep your hands off her
It is also a myth that all women find other women more attractive than men. A straight woman truly truly loves a man and a man’s body. They want to feel your skin on theirs just as much as the other way around, and if you seem to avoid sex with them, they feel just as unloved and unappreciated and useless as you would. Only a non-straight woman might feel empowered by the lack of sexual attention to her.
It is also the work of puritanism to make a man feel like he’s “the dirty one” and the woman is “the pure one”. This is a load of crock. A straight woman in love feels empowered by a man’s sexual attention.
I said to one of my true loves: “your hands could never make me dirty.”
How you want your relationship to look like is up to you. You need to define it for yourself, custom built. What do you REALLY want? Truly, in your heart of hearts?
But… First, be honest about who you truly desire. Then, allow yourself to love her for everything that she is – including an exciting sexual kinkster.
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