“Ruin my reputation so I can be it freely”…

the Survivalist* are always dependent on the public opinion of them. When they start gossiping about others, particularly when they are being truly mean, they often, subconsciously, tap into what their frenemy actually WANTS to be or do, but would never, fearing public judgment.

The person may gradually, perhaps across a few lifetimes, actually start behaving in the way they’ve always been accused of, mostly because they feel that they might as well, as everyone is saying this about them anyway… And because they want to.

A lot of ‘sluts’ have been liberated into being what they truly wanted to be due to ill talk. Thanks, bitches.

the Survivalist*-the Idealists* Logic on reputation:

the Idealists*: “I will ruin my reputation so you’ll have to let go of me as clearly, our values do not match. You should be ashamed of me.”

the Survivalist*: “I will ruin my reputation so you’ll know how much I need you.”

Note that the exact same behavior aims in the exact opposite results depending on the thinker type.

Showing you the worst of me:

the Idealists*: “I will show you how horribly I treat and have treated others, and how awful I am to others, while you, you are my loved one.”

the Survivalist*: “I will show you how horribly I can treat you, my beloved, because we’re friends.”

The Survivalist* treat their friends recklessly and make their best friend their primary victim in everything. When a Idealists* is trying to break away from them, the Survivalist* thinks they don’t know where to draw the line when the Idealists* know they have crossed the line a mile ago, but the Survivalist* is still not reacting because the Survivalist* always believes everyone else is just bad at relationships but love them anyway.

The Idealists* will embolden to treat their friends and lovers with a bit more rough and tumble only once they’re TRULY FREAKING CERTAIN this is true love, and that they know exactly where this person’s boundaries are. They DO NOT forgive crossing the line, particularly not repeatedly, carelessly, or without realizing it. If the line has been crossed, a person who cares MUST apologize as soon as possible, and mean it. However, if a Idealists* doesn’t apologize, it means the relationship is SOOOO FUCKING OVER it’s not even funny.

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