Runner & Chaser dynamic (in whatever relationship) is based on lack of appreciation… On the chaser’s part.

Imagine yourself in the shoes of a runner. What do you feel? Imagine any relationship that you don’t want but another person does. What are your reasons? The more love there is in that relationship, the better the example to illustrate the point. The more important that relationship is, the better example it makes.

Dare I suggest?

• You don’t feel like you get to be yourself around them.
• You don’t feel appreciated by them.
• You don’t feel loved for who you are, but for what they think you are, or should be, or could be for them.
• You don’t feel safe, protected, cared for by them.
• You don’t feel your emotions are safe with them.
• You don’t feel respected.
• You feel used for their purposes at your expense.
• You feel that your feelings and emotions are invalidated or not taken seriously.
• You feel like they insist on having rights to you when you feel they do not.
• Worse yet, you can feel ALL of those things in one relationship.

Now, the person you’re running from may insist that they appreciate you, love you, and respect you, but they’re unlikely to admit that they’re using you or that they put you in an (emotional) danger worth mentioning. It’s also likely that they feel you get to be yourself because they’ve pushed you into a box that THEY THINK is well suited for you but ignore you when you disagree.

When it comes to True Emotion Mirrors, some reasons are more likely than others.

True Emotion Mirrors love each other absolutely. You feel nothing but love for them. Everything that you are, your True Emotion Mirror loves. That said, the one thing the runner feels more than likely is NOT EMOTIONALLY SAFE with someone they you know can crush them with a sideways glance. A poorly-timed joke, maybe. The runner may feel the chaser doesn’t quite understand the power they have over you, like someone who doesn’t know their own strength.

Maybe you appreciate them for external reasons, such as their looks or their wealth. Their reputation. But if this is your True Emotion Mirror, you better start looking deeper. You better realize they’re more than just a shiny shell. And you have to start respecting their feelings – THEIR side of the story. Their perspective.

While it could be only a perception thing; how the chaser comes off to the runner, what they THINK is true, it’s still a factor. Maybe the chaser simply hasn’t considered from their perspective. Women tend to think men are emotionally bullet proof. Men think women hold all the power in relationships. In truth, True Emotion Mirrors, in each others hands, are fragile. If you don’t know how to keep them safe, they can’t come to you. They WON’T come to you until they know they won’t be destroyed for it.

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