Sexuality and Poly-relationships and Platonic Gender Preferences

I haven’t even TOUCHED on stuff like cross-dressing, transgender stuff, pan-sexuality and all of that, I am still just talking everyday normal people who go about their days thinking “this is what sex is, and this is what I’m used to”, and I find enough possible type combinations to make anyone want to shoot themselves. (I beg of you not to, though, would be bad for my business.)

So. I blog a lot about sexuality. By a recent search through an archive of approximately 1000 blog posts, I found 1 third to contain the word “sex”. The archive contained everything from my Barbie blog to my former personal blog, my “spiritual” blogs and so forth, so that kind of puts it into perspective.

I am going to be pointing out some outdated ideas of how relationships work, what they should be based on and how to find another relationship goal to replace the old and, quite frankly, worn out heterosexual monogamy that I know sits tight even with those who it really doesn’t suit. Our natural alignment makes a HUGE difference to how we react to each other sexually and romantically, and even, as friends. Also, I have to agree with our great friend Sigmund Freud on how much our subconscious sexual needs motivate or demotivate our actions. As we suppress a natural wish to do something sexual, we misalign ourselves from the people who we are meant to be with.  “I must not do that” or “I must not admit to that” will obviously, as a natural consequence, change our direction AWAY from the people we love, not towards them.

Nearly 100% of people will change the way that they are and what their relationship goals are to maximize their potential of making a romantic match. As most of us truly prefer the idea of true love, our rationale goes either as: “I will deny wanting true love and do anything in my power to stop myself from falling in love because I don’t want to be disappointed” to “I value true love more than sexual chemistry, so I will compromise on sexual chemistry to find someone who would love me.” These are both male-ideas more often than female. Women think somewhere along the lines of “I know what men like and I have to present that image in order to find a guy who will agree to pretend to be in love with me.” That is, clearly, nobody’s clear, conscious thought, but that is pretty much the emotion that goes into our seeking of true love – and I was no exception… The only thing that wasn’t clear about it was the “pretend”. I couldn’t even wish for someone who I loved to love me back, and my energy was always in turmoil about it; “They all want sex, men don’t really love women, but a good guy will tolerate a good woman”… Something along those lines. That kind of thinking needs to come to an end. We ARE loved for who we are, otherwise, it’s not love. And what we are, includes our sexual selves… And there is so much to talk about that in the future, some of it very controversial, but something that has to be talked about.

Just to be clear,

I wish NOT TO try and make it sound like you HAVE TO become a sexual deviant in order to find true love, but I do wish to say that it absolutely helps matters along. 😉 I am saying that if you ARE a sexual deviant, you will have to find a way to be open about it. There is a process that goes into it, it’s not like you can just come out and bravely declare that you are a closet pedophile and proud of it” before you know exactly how to handle that fact. While most of us struggle with a lot smaller secrets, like you are a bisexual, or that you really, really like guys much more than you should even for a heterosexual woman, the fact is that what you deny in yourself, you also deny in your True Emotion Mirrors (your ultimate lovers) and that keeps them at an arms length.

If you, deep down, feel that you are drawn to men that other men are drawn to, as your focus is more on the girls than on the guy, but you deny having any interest in women, you are going to be shooting yourself in the leg, won’t you? As a result, you will be looking for a guy who is NOT interested in a lot of girls but is only interested in one girl, simply because he is much more interested in other guys – the most common situation in a modern day relationship, causing forced relationships in which both partners are rather tolerating their partner while they can’t wait to get to hang out with their own gender friends. This, I call androphilia and gynephilia, and, on that list is also gynandrophilia, a tendency that causes a lot less trouble than the androphilia and gynephilia alignments – and that is not to say that YOU need to change but that the society needs to change, just that if your natural alignment is to want to hang out with both men and women alike, you are a lot less prone to forming completely unhappy relationships simply to ensure continued availability of sex, to ensure the availability of sperm when the time comes, or to simply appear normal and “do the right thing”. A lot of people form relationships simply by a calendar rather than out of

If you, deep down, feel that you are drawn to men that other men are drawn to, as your focus is more on the girls than on the guy, but you deny having any interest in women, you are going to be shooting yourself in the leg, won’t you? As a result, you will be looking for a guy who is NOT interested in a lot of girls but is only interested in one girl, simply because he is much more interested in other guys – the most common situation in a modern day relationship, causing forced relationships in which both partners are rather tolerating their partner while they can’t wait to get to hang out with their own gender friends. This, I call androphilia and gynephilia, and, on that list is also gynandrophilia, a tendency that causes a lot less trouble than the androphilia and gynephilia alignments – and that is not to say that YOU need to change but that the society needs to change, just that if your natural alignment is to want to hang out with both men and women alike, you are a lot less prone to forming completely unhappy relationships simply to ensure continued availability of sex, to ensure the availability of sperm when the time comes, or to simply appear normal and “do the right thing”. A lot of people form relationships simply by a calendar rather than out of true wish to stay with a person, and that alliance is most often between a gynephile woman and an androphile man – simply by a result of simple mathematics.

Just to clarify some issues that have been an issue before surrounding this topic in particular in the context of True Emotion Mirrors:

Again, my goal is NOT to push you into a relationship you don’t want simply because I would be happier that way, (that’s probably your way of thinking, my dear True Emotion Mirrors,) but I am trying to show an alternative way to live, AN ALTERNATIVE, as opposed to OBLIGATORY. The alternative should be a question of “do you prefer green to purple” rather than “you must change your favorite color from green to  purple because I like purple.” The idea, once I start laying down the alternatives, should feel like. “Oh wow, of course, why didn’t I think of that myself?!” rather than “Oh god do I have to?! Oh please God don’t let that mean me!!” So please don’t force me to argue with you once I start blogging again, as that will change the tone I am writing and it’s not going to be fun for anyone. I am not here to argue, I am here to point out alternatives, give you suggestions, and open doors for you, but I am never ever going to tell you which door you should walk through no matter how much you want me to… Although I can tell you which door looks like your door, but by no means that is an order to walk in… It is more like if you asked a Taxi driver to take you somewhere, where, by your general appearance and demeanor you would enjoy being (you don’t take a rock fan to a disco, by your first guess, nor would you take an elderly couple to a rock joint) the Taxi driver would make his best guess, and wait around a while as you check out the place perhaps. He’s not going to get angry at you if you decide this place is not to your liking unless he’s a freaking maniac, in fact, he might be pleasantly surprised you had something completely unexpected in mind. If you argue with him though, about you “not wanting to go there” like he was your dad taking you to school by force, of course, he’s going to get angry at you for even assuming he tried to force your hand – he was only trying to be helpful and show you a place to have fun. See what I mean?

That is exactly comparable to what I am doing; I am describing different atmospheres, different scenes and it’s your bleeding job to pick your favorite, the only thing I’m going to anger about if you decide it is your entitlement to drag someone you decide to go to a party with you, let alone a Las Vegas Chappel, when all they want to do for the night is to hang out somewhere else with someone else like a luscious Las Vegas stripper. THAT I will take an issue with because that goes against the Universal Law of The Free fucking Will. No matter how much you may be insulted or how much you may disapprove of his choice, that is his choice and you need to grow the fuck up and deal with it. (Ah. So there. Fired up again. As I said, anger issues. 😉 Aries. Fiery Dragon and an Aries. That’s my excuse. Please don’t argue with me and my Pisces rising will be very pleasant to you.) Also, don’t blame me if your guy doesn’t want you, it has NOTHING to do with me. I am simply saying that you need to be realistic and stop calling a Spade a Heart, even if it does look similar reversed!

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