Should a True Emotion Mirror tolerate NOT getting attention from you 24/7?

A person with a narcissistic personality disorder is very attention-hungry. It may be impossible for another person to work and carry on a life outside the relationship with a deeply narcissistic partner who sees all separation as a sign of rejection. A True Emotion Mirror should be feeling even more self-confident and protected going into the world alone, rather than feeling completely panicked and dependent on their narcissistic source.

Narcissism (the same way as Borderline PD and Histrionic PD) stems from an acute fear of abandonment, I believe (psychology says something different.) The fear of not surviving alone. (Young soul, adult body.) Therefore, having a relationship with an NPD can feel like constant management of a fearful baby that also goes through the stage of testing the new parent’s love by fits of rage, disobedience, and just being “testy.” The NPD can also be in a manipulative state when a child learns to get their way through emotional manipulation. (Normally at a very young age, the cruel age… 3-5, the attachment phase being from 6 months to 3 years of age, so NPD is basically being emotionally stuck at (or reverted back to) the age of 3.)

So if your life is basically the same as managing a 3-year-old, you’ve got yourself a narcissist for a partner. Now, to get away from that… What would you do with a child of that age? (Maybe you’ll reassure them you’ll be there for them, so they don’t have to find a new sex partner for security, but you’ll have a new partner… If you care enough at this stage.)

Or, you could find someone who wants an adult baby so they can pamper and manage their adult child’s life the way that they see fit…

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