Should I settle for someone else if my True Emotion Mirror (the right one) is simply not coming along?

If you believe in such a thing as a True Emotion Mirror, and the description of one leaves you with a level of peace knowing others believe in them, no, you should not settle for anything less than that. You may want to keep temporary relationships with people who understand you and wait for the same thing, but by all means, keep your coast clear.

The problem here is that the Normal Person* do not understand the True Emotion Mirror connection and try to continuously talk you out of it. They love the near one and do not understand why you should make things difficult for yourself by loving someone far away from you – or even love the thought of someone you’ve never met. The physiosexuals think you fear you are not loved, which is why they keep reassuring you that you don’t need to leave, you’re loved here – but phrasing it more as “I don’t want to divorce you” (thinking you don’t, either and this is reassuring you) or “you’re not going anywhere!” with the meaning of (“you’re loved here, and I won’t let you slip away from my loving hands – don’t worry”). When people pressure you to settle down with someone else, they don’t truly understand why you won’t and CAN’T ever fall in love with convenience – you need your brain to fall in love with someone amazing, someone who thinks the right way.

In the meanwhile.

I would advise you to avoid entanglements with the Normal Person*. Physiosexuals are fine; the Normal Person* are a bit troublesome for the Savants*. The good thing about the Normal Person* is tho, that they may make a terrifying ruckus about you leaving, but forget you within a week or two. Like you never existed. So the Savants* in you may feel more sorry for them than you need to feel, and you should just walk away and teach them to be without you for a while. Don’t renew the connection with your physical presence; keep all contact to the absolute minimum.

If you plan to leave for good, make no excuses to a dog-type. They react well to excuses and may keep a hold on you forever if they think you’ll need them or that you “have to go” because of something different like work or whatnot. They are quite loyal, but differently than a Savants* is loyal. They are loyal for as long as they think you need them somehow. Once the “need,” either real or imagined, is removed, they’ll move on… Like dogs.

Mind you, the Savants* fear getting entangled with the Normal Person* but often wind up with the Normal Person*.

the Savants* are very cautious in their approach of new people. At the same time, they are very open and easy to get along with, but they don’t usually approach people with the INTENT to bond romantically or sexually – they rather wait to be approached. The reason is that they don’t want to seem like they OFFERED love and then wound up refusing it. They fear it would give more a reason for the Normal Person*to hold on to them.

Ironically the Savants* hate pre-scripted small talk by default – but they love casual, jovial parties, joking around, goofing around, and witty repartee. The Normal Person* are the opposite way around; they want their conversations scripted and predictable and reserve deep topics for very close friends, if anyone. Therefore, the Savants* would do fine in group chats (and local chats) getting to know the participants, IF ONLY they’d get over the initial cold feet.

As a dog-type-traumatized the Savants*, you should learn to keep your relationships casual and light to avoid entanglements with the Normal Person*, especially online, as online we tend to rush into private conversations a bit too soon, with the wrong people. In real life, we’d pick and choose a little better, but online we tend to get too involved with the wrong people because we love deep and meaningful conversations and are not shy to take things physical – which to the Normal Person*is very serious.

In real life, we the Savants* are instinctive and find out matching partners very easily – online, we have to kind of reverse our usual routine, and it may take us time to learn to do that.

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