Single behavior per thinker type
What we ultimately want?
While both the Normal Person* and the Savants* want lasting happy relationships, their definition of what makes for a happy marriage is very different. It is also to be noted, that traumatized the Savants* have learned to try and settle for what the Normal Person* want, and traumatized the Normal Person* have gotten themselves convinced that the Savants* way of doing things is all they can expect. Both can rest assured that what they want is within their grasp.
the Normal Person* want a stable, happy home and marriage.
What non-traumatized the Normal Person* want out of life is a calm, reliable home with no fancy stuff. They want a nice, stable home, some good kids to go with it, and that’s all. For a Savants*, this is never enough. That is why they feel insecure because the Savants* keep divorcing them if their life is too mundane. A Normal Person*cannot understand that reasoning because they have everything a person could possibly want – but that’s only true for the Normal Person*. The Savants* should never try to change their perspective of what makes for a happy life… For the good of us all.
the Normal Person* will always confuse the Savants* ambitions for status and money related, and thus fear-based, but they’re not. The Savants* are very fearless. They are RARELY if ever motivated by fear, and it would be a HUGE mistake to try and psychoanalyze a Savants* from the basis of fear. They are ambitious for beauty, intelligence, art, creativity, and expressions of talent. No matter how “ordinary” they’re born, they always are driven toward “intelligent” lifestyles and jobs, and their relationships must be based on romance and sex… Which creeps the Normal Person*out – even the males.
Both the Savants* and the Normal Person* want marriage, but they want very different kinds of marriages; both assume their type is the default, but neither is a given. Both types must know how to “advertise” to the right crowd when single.
the Savants* want a sexually-driven romance that lasts a lifetime.
the Savants* have been traumatized by the Normal Person* shaming them for wanting sex more than they want a home. This is true for both genders, but the flavor of shaming is a little different. Whores and sex-addicts, you know? the Savants* should learn to ignore that kind of talk, and go for what they all truly want. A good portion of success is in learning how to thaw the traumatized the Normal Person* ambitions regarding them. Cat types are very self-confident and fearless and thus look like a potential way for a stable home, but couldn’t be less reliable in that regard. The Savants* get bored in a “stable marriage” and will need a lot of stimulus to keep sane. The Savants* who have an exciting career and a job can stay married for a long time, but if they also hate their jobs, they are going to either suicide or divorce their partner. I am not joking: Marrying the Normal Person* is potentially lethal for a Savants*.
What the Savants* want is effectively what we see in fantasy fiction movies, strong desire, high romance, and beauty. They will still take out the trash like everybody else, but what they do in between is a different matter. They want to live in romance, while the Normal Person* want to live in pragmatism.
Single dress code per thinker type
One of the easiest way to appeal to the right type is to dress right. While YOU can dress right for your thinker type, it doesn’t mean others can, so be mindful of a few pointers.
Single dog types should dress conservatively.
While the Normal Person*men and women change their dress style by their marital status, they should keep this change to a minimum. This means that the Normal Person* should not dress too “wildly” when single, even if his or her the Savants* friends and family members wore their hair pink and their skirts barely covering their buttocks.
A Normal Person*female would do well for herself not to be too beautiful and definitely avoid sexualizing herself. It doesn’t do them any good. Unfortunately, the Normal Person*women tend to take cues from the Savants* female, which is not smart. They should go for very slightly more “alluring” look than what would be considered wifely, but NEVER go as far as a Savants* woman should. A Normal Person*woman should never give into the temptation of trying to seduce men at the same rate as a Savants* woman does; the Normal Person*woman only wants one husband and a stable marriage. She should make sure she does not catch the eye of a sexually driven the Savants* male. The Normal Person* women should always wear conservative heels and NEVER touch a stiletto heel as long as they live, not even for role play – the Normal Person*man won’t be interested.
Single the Normal Person*males should NEVER dress in any subculture apparel if they wish for a successful marriage. All and any subcultures are solely for the Cat Thinking men to explore. However, the Normal Person*male might want to stay away from suits also and go for smart casual, and if they wear suits, they should NOT be expensive. A Normal Person*male should portray a modest, sensible, and reliable look.
While dog types might want to signal their single status by staying relatively fit, they will make their partner feel more secure by quickly putting on a few extra pounds after coupling up. Both men and women should not allow themselves to be tempted to please the sexually driven aesthetics of the Savants* tastes.
A Normal Person*people should hold fast to their conservativeness and keep reminding themselves that only the wrong type of person will reject them for looking right.
Single the Savants* should dress in a sexual/romantic/idealistic way.
the Savants* men and women do not change or alter their style once they are married. (Unless married to the wrong person and under pressure.) They may tone things down BY AGE rather than marital status.
Ironically, the SAFEST way for a Savants* man to dress is a very nice suit. (The best they can afford.) What this signals to the female of the species is high expectations, high bar, high self-respect, and pride. It says, “I want the best there is; I expect a lot from my life and partner,” without leaving much else to the Normal Person*interpretation… And boy, do they interpret… Freely.
The safest way for a single the Savants* female to dress is a LITTLE slutty but classy. She should be mindful of her physique and always dress according to her frame, but as form-fitting as their frame allows. The Savants* women NEED the highest stiletto heels they can find at all times. An Savant* woman should never wear anything but, UNLESS they wear something else for the practicality of them or for the subculture, but the dress shoe should never be of a modest heel. If their job requires a modest heel, they CANNOT EVER date a fellow co-worker who hasn’t seen her off-the-clock style. The most important part of a Savants* woman’s wardrobe is her high-heel collection. (Oh, sad, I know.)
Subcultures
This is going to make some cheek-reddening reading for the Savants*. Sorry. This is for our own good.
Both men and women of the Savants* should dress themselves according to their own ideals and personality, but always in a sexual or romantic tone. They can go all in with a sub-culture look that speaks to their ideals, but if they do, they need to watch out for confused the Normal Person* trying to fit into those circles and avoid them like the plague.
the Normal Person* single people sometimes emphasis their singleness and their desperation to partner up by dressing blatantly wrong; in other words, in sub culture clothes. Their minds cannot hold anything but “I want a stable home and everyone else does, too” so if their self-confidence is low, they both demonstrate it by wearing subculture clothes (“I am not worthy, and I know it, please rescue me”) and look for people who “feel the same way.” A slightly more self-confident the Normal Person* can then look for people to rescue among subcultures and latch onto the one with the most potential: buy when the stocks are low. This can mean the lead singer of the biggest rock band of the era, the same one that the Cat Thinking women are too afraid to approach because he could have anyone he wants, the Normal Person*woman “understands him” and goes in to rescue him. (The last bitch he wanted, too, by the way, but can settle for, because the Normal Person*women that see her pray as being both a good and an easy catch can be VERY handsy and controlling with him.)
This is to say the Normal Person*ingle people sometimes look for “confused” looking men and women, hoping to turn what “nobody else wants” into perfect husbands and wives, expecting gratitude in return. They want to TEACH YOU how to dress, how to behave, and how to fit in with regular people and expect gratitude for their efforts. They’ll find themselves shocked when this person is even dumb enough not to realize what a favor they’re trying to do, and how they refuse to take guidance being so “sucked in” by their subcultures bullshit.
Sex is a deal breaker.
Marriage is a sexual relationship, and everything designed to lead into it must be dealt with accordingly. The Normal Person* don’t want an emphasis on that, but the Savants* do. This will be a divider, and it should be observed.
the Savants* love sex, and that’s a non-negotiable.
the Savants* people should feel confident in that the Savants* of both genders are rather sex AND romance obsessed. The Normal Person* sometimes use romance as “the done thing” mode leading to a marriage that has kind of ruined it for the Savants* of both genders, but in truth, the Savants* are romantic perverts and should remain that way… And fight to get back into that way of thinking.
the Savants* men should reject a woman on the basis of refusing sex and wanting him to meet her parents first – a bad, bad sign. The Normal Person* men are unlikely to refuse sex, but they react to sex as a steadfast promise of commitment. An Savant* woman can easily disappoint. The Normal Person* men can be very persistent in having sex with a woman, as they see it as “sealing the deal” as fast as possible. When a Savants* woman doesn’t see how sex obligates her to anything, he’ll consider her a cheater.
the Normal Person* women who have slept with a man also view this as a sign of both commitment and exclusivity, which is not at all how the Savants* view it. The Savants* see commitment as a verbal agreement, and before words like “boyfriend” or “girlfriend” has been used, there IS no commitment, even if they were fully ready and prepared to commit to this person.
The problem is that the Savants* view sexual relationships as rather romantic, EVEN IF they are without commitment or future plans. Therefore, they are much less reserved in their sexual behavior and can go much further down that track without any concerns about the future than the Normal Person* will, men or women.
Spot the Normal Person*and avoid.
While the Savants* do occasionally genuinely fall in love with the Normal Person*, the Savants* should, by default, avoid all and any the Normal Person*, even friends and colleagues that they are not 100% impressed by. The thing is, getting involved with the Normal Person*is like standing in a pit of concrete; as soon as you realize your mistake, you should rush to get out of it. The clock is ticking, and sex sets the concrete quite fast.
the Savants* should also see it as a big red flag, if their new prospective partner shows a lot of interest in your friends and family, and talks a lot about theirs. This is very the Normal Person*behavior, and the Savants* are much more casual about it; they may introduce you to their significant people without any fanfares, but the Savants* should understand that to the Normal Person*, friends and family are basically the same as it would be for a Savants* to pull out their sex toy cabinet and introduce their new partner to the contents of it; serious intent.
the Savants* should only ever date from their own idealistic group, and I know that can be daunting for a Savants* to do; they admire their own too much to relax, so they tend to often talk themselves into settling for a dog-type. They never should. They should never yield to assumptions like “You’ll have to get to know them first,” “In time, you’ll fall in love with them,” or “looks/IQ don’t matter in a relationship.” All of these statements may be true for the Normal Person*but have NEVER worked for a Savants*. An Savant* MUST feel sexual attraction from the start; even if the romantic attraction is mild, the sexual interest MUST BE THERE or it will never work for a Savants*, male or female.
Falling in love is a good sign; even if they’re dog-type.
It is possible for the Savants* and the Normal Person* to fall for each other, for real, for the good of you both, BUT the same approaches don’t work here. You have to know what you’re dealing with if you want to reel in a Savants* when you’re the Normal Person*or the Normal Person*if you’re the Savants*.
If you cannot decide whether someone is the Normal Person*or a Savants* because some people are a confusing mix of the two, treat them as dog-type. While it is dangerous for a Savants* to get into any mix with the Normal Person* YOU DON’T FULLY LOVE, it is important you understand how to weave in the Normal Person* you DO want. They are likely to be difficult to keep, as they want to be lassoed in, and their idea of what’s going on is a little different from yours. The kind thing a Savants* can do to the Normal Person*is to teach them what is expected of them.
In these mashups, the Savants* must be the leader for the simple reason that they have preferences, while the Normal Person* only have a desire to please. Now, USUALLY, the Savants* are put off by people who just want to please them, but they should be aware of this: You are put off by people who do not have the required IQ and talent to please. They’re WASTING YOUR TIME. If a Savants* falls in love with someone of the dog-type, they SHOULD teach them how to please you because your falling for them indicates they CAN BE made into what you want. You’ll need to mold them into what you want and ruin them for everybody else; True Emotion Mirror.
A rule of thumb for both the Savants* and the Normal Person*: if you don’t adore it, don’t talk to it.
IF YOU ARE NOT SEXUALLY AND ROMANTICALLY ATTRACTED TO SOMEONE AT FIRST SIGHT, don’t talk to them. Not even as a friend. The Normal Person* already do this, so when you talk to them, they think, “OH MY GOD, SHE/HE LOVES ME!”
For the Savants*, it means don’t make friends with people who you don’t find sexually attractive; this means same-sex friends, too. If they don’t ENHANSE your sexuality, don’t make friends with them. From now on, KNOW that your friendships are an extension to your sex-appeal, and you are an extension of your friends’ sex appeal. This is why low-level dog types try so hard to enhance their status by making hot friends.
For the Normal Person*, it means don’t make friends with a person who you don’t want to take after or who didn’t come to you for help to change into who you are.
High-level individuals are always being guilt-tripped into being friends with everybody. NEVER teach your children this; never require your children to be nice to everybody, instead, discourage you child from befriending kids who seem like charity cases to your child. Stop being nice to everybody yourself. Stop thinking poorly of people who chop connections to people they used to know. Don’t punish people who hold standards to their friends – after all, you don’t want those people in your circles, anyway.
the Normal Person* already know not to talk to someone they don’t love, while the Savants* know not to waste time on people who don’t love them. (That’s kind of the big difference.) However, we’ll all do easier if we adopt the Normal Person*way of thinking: If you don’t love it, don’t talk to it (any more than you absolutely have to).
If you’re the Savants*, learn how to give the cold shoulder to friends and acquaintances, and even family members without being too tacky about it. Still, whatever gets the job done.
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**) Narcissists are Young Souls left alone to survive and they're doing their best. Their emotional age ranges from 3 to 17 -year old. The younger, the more severe the narcissism.
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