Soft (kind) people and hard energy people

People can span from soft and hard energy -fields quite drastically. Some people are truly soft and “cuddly”, they’re like a walking hug machine, while others have a hard, unpenetrable energy field. Some drop and rise their shields at will. Now, depending on what types of people mix, the differences in these fields can result to all kinds of things, good and bad, but the hard energy is never good for the soft. The question is, can the soft-energy people find their shield when they need it?

Default soft energy

People with very soft energy are not afraid of intimacy. However, it is possible they don’t know how to up their shield, which makes them seem ALWAYS open to hugs and cuddles and even sex, when, in fact, they don’t want it. Therefore, some people test soft energy people to see if they can say no, by treating them in an insulting manner. That, again, can lead to a misunderstanding because if you’re in love with someone already, and can even sense their love for you, the shield stays down. Therefore, the strategy of observing someone with soft energy with other people is a better strategy, yet, soft energy people can be very sexual, which means that they may sleep with a lot of people without it meaning, at all, that they cannot say no when they mean it… IF they can up their shields.

Soft people are rarely interested in breaking anyone’s shields for them, they figure that the shields will come down on their own eventually, and if not, they have their reasons. However, the soft people may not realize the hard people want their shields broken into. In the same way, the hard people should know that the soft people do not appreciate violence in any form, including, not limited to emotional shield breaking. Therefore, if you make a soft person angry, you’ve truly lost their respect for you.

Default hard energy

Hard energy people are either people who don’t like you, or who are wary of intimacy for a reason or another. They keep secrets mainly to be interesting. They try and BREAK other people’s shields, and they always assume the shield exists. This can result in domestic violence situations, verbal and physical, where the hard energy person is looking for a shield to break when they’re already all the way in. They cannot even imagine what falling in love with someone without a shield would be like, because they’re always looking for the shield. Braking it, to them,  means they’ve won you over. Soft people don’t necessarily share the sentiment.

Controversially, men are less likely to be shielded

I am not entirely sure if it is true, but men are rather good at dropping their emotional shields when needed. This means, that they get to be a target of abuse quite a lot more often than what we realize. This is because when a person goes into a relationship without a shield, then get attacked by someone looking for that shield, one or two things happen: If the love is true, the shield stays down and is never found, if the love isn’t true, the shield goes up and never breaks. A hard energy person will keep trying to find and/or break the shield to create intimacy. If they can’t find the shield, they feel they are being kept out of something, rather than feel that they are already all-the-way in.

Therefore, the shielded people are always suspicious of the soft people, who don’t see the point of keeping people out of their business. They are always looking for some hidden secret or skeletons in the closet, and they don’t really believe in “nice” nor “kind”.

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