Soulmate Detox for the Savants*

Everything wrong in your life is because of ill-advised soul bonds. This is because your friends and family don’t understand what you want and won’t even believe you’re telling them the truth when you tell them what you want is what you want. They may believe that you’re simply joking around because you don’t want to admit that all you want is mommy to cuddle you more or something to the effect, but what you want is truly what you want.

the Normal Person* NEVER try to separate from people they are bonded with; only the Savants* have this need. The Normal Person* try to convince you that your need to separate is “selfish” and “unevolved,” when you may just as well tell them that their need to tie you to themselves is selfish and unevolved; it is truly just a matter of perspective. The fact remains that the Savants* are the ones who need to detox from the Normal Person* who WILL get on without you after you’re gone, better, faster, and easier than what the Savants* do. I’ll explain.

the Savants* are people who feel GUILT a lot.

Guilt is feeling only the Savants* feel deeply and on a daily basis. To be fair, the Normal Person* feel guilty, too, but have difficulty processing their guilt. If you make them feel guilty, they will do everything in their power to feel less guilty, and that usually means a death grip on you and your life, preventing you from leaving. The reason is that the ONLY REASON they’d feel guilty is if they feel they’ve caused a separation in their existing tribe, and they feel the others will *kill them* if they find out it was them who did it.

So, again, the Normal Person*’s guilt isn’t selfless; it is about fear of condemnation and punishment, rather than actual fear of having done the wrong thing by another person.

the Normal Person*’ loyalty is somewhat of a myth.

However, once the Normal Person* notice they’re getting away with it, they’ll snap back without drama. They may even be proud to have exiled someone who mattered less to the group than themselves. And also, their attachments are a little bit like that of a dogs’ they winch and whine a lot at first, then forget you exist. (I love dogs, but their loyalty is sometimes a bit of a fairytale which is good because rehoming them is often just an absolute necessity.) the Normal Person* are like that. They make a commotion about you leaving, but they bounce back pretty quickly if you go.

I’m saying this to make it easier for a Savants* to leave the Normal Person* behind because the Savants* can be easily manipulated into bad relationships by this the Normal Person* winch and whine. The Normal Person* are not trying to control the Savants*, however. It’s more a parting ritual than anything to be swayed by. They’re just putting it on, that’s all, and you’re supposed to pretend to be equally distraught by the separation, but to a lot of the Savants*, such pretense is a lot to ask.

the Savants* rarely see complete separations to be necessary.

What adds to this problem is, the Savants* don’t see separations as cold-cut as the Normal Person* do. They may move countries and continents without seeing it as a separation that will devastate their friend’s and family’s entire lives. They feel “until we meet again” strongly, whereas the Normal Person*… If you leave… You BETRAY THEM. You decimate their trust in you; all that you were for them before is now DEAD. If you’d want to go back, you’d have to crawl your way back.

the Savants* are not as dramatic as that. They believe life takes you to places, and you follow the calling. They count friends being people who can receive you whenever your path takes you to them, and their greatest friendships are not those who never leave your side but who can return as if no time had passed since your last meeting. The Savants* do not act insulted or betrayed when their friend returns from their journeys, but the Normal Person* do. For a while.

But when the Savants* DO see a separation to be necessary, they will cut the ties. Then again, so do the Normal Person*. And both do it the same way: Complete cut of contact… They get to this point for different reasons.

The closure to a relationship is different for the Normal Person* and the Savants*.

the Savants* can separate from other the Savants* with relative ease. They agree their ideals don’t match, and they will go their separate ways. Separating from the Normal Person* is a lot harder for a Savants*, as the Normal Person* can make it either so easy that the Savants* wonders how little did they mean to the Normal Person* or so difficult the Savants* thinks the Normal Person* is 100% in love with them even when they’re not. The Normal Person* separation ritual.

Anyway, the Savants* take time to process the separation. They also feel the need to talk about their reasons with the person they’re parting from. In contrast, to the Normal Person*, this means an intent to get back together again. They feel that if you’re still talking to them about WHY you want to leave, it means you are still thinking of coming back. To a Savants*, this discussion is necessary to leave a relationship cleanly and maturely. Still, the Normal Person* make it very difficult or impossible for the Savants* to do so.

the Normal Person* need this mutual emotional cry over the ending of the relationship, but OFTEN the Savants* don’t feel that emotional about it, and they feel just fake taking part in such charades. It is rare for a Savants* to feel this authentically – it’s not that it never happens, but when they don’t feel it, they find it difficult to fake it.

the Savants* are not in love.

In truth, the Normal Person* and the Savants* are not a clear-cut differentiation. The Normal Person* are people who are happily bonded with the people near them. They WISH for this relationship to be ongoing and permanent. The Savants* don’t feel that way in their current group of people. They wish for the separation of the bond. Once the Savants* meet their True Emotion Mirrors, their bonding becomes VERY SIMILAR to that of the Normal Person* bond, BUT they REMEMBER being forcibly bonded with more than the Normal Person* do.

It’s like the Normal Person* were born lucky in a situation where their surrounding people are good for them (or better than them), and they want that to keep going, whereas the Savants* have to go looking for their equals. However, once bonded… Don’t be alarmed when you realize you’re turning into the Normal Person*. The turn is LIMITED, and you’re simply seeking a new BALANCE, rather than turning into a real the Normal Person* – you’re turning into a Gray Wolf, and that’s the goal.

the Savants* need to cut their excess relationships and get real.

the Savants* may have a bad habit of trying to be friends with everybody and be nice to everybody. They feel like they have to “accept” others and give them approval. The Savants* are often good-looking and intelligent because they are often the people others seek acceptance and approval from, and they start feeling guilty for wanting to reject 99% of people who ask this of them. Therefore, they begin to lower their bar a bit more than they should… In fact, they tend to lower their bar to a non-existent, which, in turn, puts them in a bad position spiritually speaking. Their luck will change, and they find themselves stuck a lot.

However, they will need to get real about their soul bonds and be honest with other people. They’ll have to reconcile their need to be nice with their need to be honest and real. They will also need to acknowledge the need to make friends for their ego, for appearance’s sake: “If I’m friends with this loser, I’ll look less self-centered and unreasonable in my expectations of other people.” (The only thing you need to do to make a Savants* better is to point out their falseness and ego drive.)

It would help if you started seeking connections with other the Savants*.

the Savants* need to start flocking to other the Savants*. In a modern world, this may mean just as simple choices like this: SHAMELESSLY follow good-looking, successful, and smart people on social media. The ones you tend to be a little ashamed of following. The one’s the Normal Person* will laugh at you for.

Teach yourself to talk to other demanding and quietly judgemental people, on Social Media, in real life. Expect yourself to be knocked back a few times, but don’t be surprised if you don’t.

Learn to GRAB people who you feel are your real friends. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes, remind yourself how coy and careful you are in your attempts to bond with others, and understand they do the same thing. Remind them you need more GREEN LIGHTS if they want you to proceed. Help them help you to find the ones who want to be friends with you. Let them know you are intimidated by them simply because they are smart and good-looking and probably have a lot to choose from, and you understand and respect that.

Be brave. Remain sensitive. Remember, they are careful for the same reasons you are careful. Forgive them for that.

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